Hello there,
I would like to start seducing woman. I just turned 32 and I am still a virgin. I can't stand it anymore, I don't want to turn 40 and still be girlfriendless. It's not the first time in my life I read about game and seduction, but I always give up fast. The reason is that I end up being quite depress. This week, I decided I would try harder and started reading Girls Chase again (I really love your site Chase, your newsletters is always very interesting, you are quite a charming person!). The issue I am having right now is approach anxiety.
There is a lot of girls I find possibly interesting. The other day, I went back to college in the evening to start an homework. As I passed through the hall, I looked at this very cute girl, and she glanced back at me. I thought it was the perfect occasion, as she was sitting alone, it seemed like the easieast kind of approach. I wanted to go say hi, ask her name and told her I needed to talk to her because I thought she was really cute. I went to do my homework and I was stuck wondering if I should go back... I was stroke by anxiety... and when that happen to me I can be literally paralyzed for a little while, sometimes over 30 minutes. Last week, as we came back from our running session (I am a member of my college running club), there was another girl, as beautiful as this one, and I also couldn't bring myself to go talk to her.
The same thing just happened at the gym, I noticed this cute girl and she came to do her abs work as I was doing mine, I kept glancing at her, but I was paralyzed to do anything. In my math class, this afternoon, I could have sat next to a really cute girl, but I didn't, I took my regular safe spot. I ended up feeling quite lonely in this class, and came back home, feeling quite depress. I know some girls do like me, they look at me and sometimes they smile. I have worked a lot on my appearance... for a long time, I thought I was just ugly because I was told so when I was a teenager. I suffered from a high level of social anxiety when I was in college when I was younger, I couldn't look in front of me or at people and loneliness took me on a decade of drugs abuse.
Right now, I feel a lot more confident, but I seem to lack social skills, especially with girls. I think I would really benefit from some support, but I don't have much of a social circle. I have no one to go out with, my roommate is really friendly, but all he do is studying. I went out with a girl last winter, it didn't work out when I asked her if I could kiss her. I asked her out again lately, she accepted, but she quite busy with school and work so she said we could go out during summer break, but this summer I'm going back to my hometown to work in my field.
There is a girl I think may like me, I study in analytical chemistry and she is in biotechnologies, we have shared classes, I see her a lot at the gym. I'm a little worried about asking young girls out, I'm 32, but I look quite young myself, if I don't tell, people assume I am like 25. But those girls are often like 17-20. 17 is a little too young for me, but if they are of age (that is 18+), it seems okay to me, especially since we are at the same point in my life.
Anyway, about that girl, I remember seeing her smiling when I came into class when the session started, I felt like she was happy to see me. She is often sitting alone with two friend behind her. Tomorrow, I would like to go and sit next to her. I would like to ask her name and try to talk as best as I can. Then I would like to ask her out to grab some food the next day at the student café. Would it be okay to do that during a class pause, especially in front of other students?
I would really appreciate your support, I would really like to become a ladies man... that would be the coolest thing at this point in my life.
I would like to start seducing woman. I just turned 32 and I am still a virgin. I can't stand it anymore, I don't want to turn 40 and still be girlfriendless. It's not the first time in my life I read about game and seduction, but I always give up fast. The reason is that I end up being quite depress. This week, I decided I would try harder and started reading Girls Chase again (I really love your site Chase, your newsletters is always very interesting, you are quite a charming person!). The issue I am having right now is approach anxiety.
There is a lot of girls I find possibly interesting. The other day, I went back to college in the evening to start an homework. As I passed through the hall, I looked at this very cute girl, and she glanced back at me. I thought it was the perfect occasion, as she was sitting alone, it seemed like the easieast kind of approach. I wanted to go say hi, ask her name and told her I needed to talk to her because I thought she was really cute. I went to do my homework and I was stuck wondering if I should go back... I was stroke by anxiety... and when that happen to me I can be literally paralyzed for a little while, sometimes over 30 minutes. Last week, as we came back from our running session (I am a member of my college running club), there was another girl, as beautiful as this one, and I also couldn't bring myself to go talk to her.
The same thing just happened at the gym, I noticed this cute girl and she came to do her abs work as I was doing mine, I kept glancing at her, but I was paralyzed to do anything. In my math class, this afternoon, I could have sat next to a really cute girl, but I didn't, I took my regular safe spot. I ended up feeling quite lonely in this class, and came back home, feeling quite depress. I know some girls do like me, they look at me and sometimes they smile. I have worked a lot on my appearance... for a long time, I thought I was just ugly because I was told so when I was a teenager. I suffered from a high level of social anxiety when I was in college when I was younger, I couldn't look in front of me or at people and loneliness took me on a decade of drugs abuse.
Right now, I feel a lot more confident, but I seem to lack social skills, especially with girls. I think I would really benefit from some support, but I don't have much of a social circle. I have no one to go out with, my roommate is really friendly, but all he do is studying. I went out with a girl last winter, it didn't work out when I asked her if I could kiss her. I asked her out again lately, she accepted, but she quite busy with school and work so she said we could go out during summer break, but this summer I'm going back to my hometown to work in my field.
There is a girl I think may like me, I study in analytical chemistry and she is in biotechnologies, we have shared classes, I see her a lot at the gym. I'm a little worried about asking young girls out, I'm 32, but I look quite young myself, if I don't tell, people assume I am like 25. But those girls are often like 17-20. 17 is a little too young for me, but if they are of age (that is 18+), it seems okay to me, especially since we are at the same point in my life.
Anyway, about that girl, I remember seeing her smiling when I came into class when the session started, I felt like she was happy to see me. She is often sitting alone with two friend behind her. Tomorrow, I would like to go and sit next to her. I would like to ask her name and try to talk as best as I can. Then I would like to ask her out to grab some food the next day at the student café. Would it be okay to do that during a class pause, especially in front of other students?
I would really appreciate your support, I would really like to become a ladies man... that would be the coolest thing at this point in my life.