Getting past the,"I don't give my number to strangers"

[carlitos2055]

Yesterday I was talking to a girl and I waited on a high point, she was smiling, laughing. I said to her, "I like talking to you, we should definitely hang out some day(short pause), give me your number. Then shee says the famous line , I dont give my number to strangers... But, you can have my kik . I told her I didn't have kik but now that I think about maybe it was genuine of her, or maybe not? Maybe she just didn't want my number. I approached her sitting down by herself and it was dark, she was waiting for her mom. I kept persisting but she wouldn't give me her number. When i realized my efforts were in vain I told her I had to go, and to have a good day.

Now some mistakes I did was, don't ask me why, I was trying to be funny so I told her I wasn't a rapist, and kept going a but in the topic. I know that's toxic. Didn't deep dive. Didn't ask her emotional questions.
I walked straight up to her from a distance and that put me in the chase from her pov.

Now for the real question, other than working on my fundamentals for the resistance, what can I say when I get the "I don't give my number to strangers" line? Thanks in advance.

 

[someone]

I know nothing about your conversation, but here's something you could try:

You: "What's your number?"

Her: "I don't give my number out to strangers..."

You: "Hey, you know what? I have to get going, but I just realized that I didn't get your name!"

Her: "My name is Jennifer."

You: "Well Jennifer, my name is Brian. Now that we're not strangers, how about you give me your number before I go so we can chat sometime?"

With something like this, delivery is EVERYTHING! Confidence will make or break you.

 

[carlitos2055]

Thing is, I asked her name on the opener..

 

[someone]

Thing is, I asked her name on the opener..

Well there's nothing you can do about a conversation that's already happened, you were asking for conversations in the future. I don't typically exchange names on the opener as I like to reserve it for a moment where I can come across as being genuinely interested in the girl, i.e. "You know, I hadn't expected to have such an interesting conversation on the subway platform today.... What's your name?"

It makes the girl feel special if you wait to reveal your identity, like you're forming a connection or bond that you don't do with just anyone (only her). Giving your name up front makes you seem too easy, too available, and too interested. But, maybe that's just me.

So, to recap what you said, you approached from a distance, you opened with your name, and you made some jokes in poor-taste. She then offered her kik. Now, the only thing I ever used kik for was getting naked pictures from girls I barely knew. Are there other uses for kik? It's possible she wants to screen you before she actually gives you her number, but chances are she'll lose interest before that ever happens. She may have good intentions (genuine as you put it) but I don't see much having come from the exchange you described. How old was this girl by the way?

An alternative method would have been:

You: "Well Jennifer, it was nice meeting you, but I have a plane to catch."

Her: "Nice meeting you too." (if disinterested) or "Where are you going?" (if interested)

You respond depending upon her level of interest.

You (if she's disinterested): "You know, I hadn't expected to meet someone interesting on the way to [insert exotic destination here]. Would you care to swap numbers before I go? We can chat when I return next Thursday (any day 3-4 days from now)." (Shorter trips usually mean business; who would take a short trip to an exotic location if not for business? This makes you seem important and potentially high-status.)

Hopefully she'll give it to you, or offer you a condition that can be met. If not, then it's probably not worth pursuing anymore because she's simply not interested. Women like high-value men, and it's not common for low-value men to travel to exotic locations, so if you're going to pique her interest, this is a good way to do it.

You (if she's interested): "Somewhere far away on important business. I'd give you my number to keep in touch, but I don't just give my number out to anyone..."

If she's interested, she'll be intrigued and will probably flirt back (if she's experienced). You are priming her to give up her number to avoid getting the "I don't give out my number" response. Whatever she says here, you follow up by asking for her number (you've already established that you don't give yours out to just anyone).

 

[Estate]

Carlitos.

This one isn't really about a trick or line to use.

She's telling you that she still sees you as a "stranger" so you need to work on building some more comfort with her. After a few mintues of talking or flirting, she should be feeling like you're a cool guy she might see again. It doesn't sound like this girl had that vibe yet.

 

[someone]

It sounded to me like they did have a conversation and that he did try to connect (even if he was a bit clumsy at times).

 

[Smith]

Work on building a connection first. Prevention is always better than the cure.

But if she still says "I don't give my number to strangers"
flip it around

You: "well hey...I'm taking my chances here too...but I would like to give people the benefit of the doubt"

 

[carlitos2055]

Ha thanks guys btw the girl was 15.(I'm 16)

 

[Estate]

Yeah man
Sounds like you dI'd a good job trying but always things to work on. Better to take something away to work on than nothing.

Sometimes too you've just got to accept that for whatever reason she was unavailable and you did nothing wrong. Given she was younger maybe this was a first for her.

 

[someone]

Ha thanks guys btw the girl was 15.(I'm 16)

Ah, dude, you did fine. You had me thinking you were both in your 20s or 30s...

15 year old girls are entirely different from a lot of the advice you're going to find here mate.

 

[Thedoctor]

carlitos,

Check out this article if you haven't already:

https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-g ... me-you-ask

-John