GF wants to try 3somes and other stuff

MonsieurLabrie

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Hey guys,

If you have any experience with this kind of situation, let me know what I should do.

My hot Korean GF (killer body, long hair, cute face) has been hinting at us banging a girl together for a while now. I would usually dismiss as just sex dirty talk without seriousness, but she wanted to talk about it more seriously yesterday.

But... (there's always a but)

She's afraid that once she gets a taste of this new stuff, she will open the floodgates of her sexual curiosity and will want more and more. I told her I'm too conservative for handling her fucking other guys even if its always under my supervision. She says she's too scared of losing me, so we agreed we shouldn't.

The thing is: she was quite upset that I slept with another woman at the same time as her before we became a couple. This stuff never happened to her before. Guys have always chased her hard. But she stressed many times that she's not trying to trick me with that, she's genuinely curious about doing it. She likes to watch porn with me when we have sex.

I don't really mind if we break up down the road, because I have better abundance now. Should I just ease into the idea and do it? We're having a great time right now together and having great sex anyway.

Opinions?
 

ZacAdam

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This is unrelated, but what is like dating Korean women? i would hope to have the opportunity to do so. I read that you written in one of the post here that they prefer white men.

Zac
 

girlsfollow

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MonsieurLabrie said:
Hey guys,

If you have any experience with this kind of situation, let me know what I should do.

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Opinions?
That is tricky - everything is more difficult in an LTR, I think you handled it well so far, just make sure you keep the abudance mentality going STRONG and act that way. It could be a type of test in a way. I think the line you've laid of not being cool with her fucking other guys is a reasonable one. ALthough its interesting to see how this pans out - it can have the reverse effect - if you told her you're ok with it but that it basically makes it like an open relationship for you (hint hint) then she might get protective and never want to do it..... these things are difficult to predict though so its playing with fire. I had something like this happen with my ex at the end of the LTR but it wasn't good.
 

Chase

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M. Labrie-

Sorry for the late reply here:

MonsieurLabrie said:
My hot Korean GF (killer body, long hair, cute face) has been hinting at us banging a girl together for a while now. I would usually dismiss as just sex dirty talk without seriousness, but she wanted to talk about it more seriously yesterday.

But... (there's always a but)

She's afraid that once she gets a taste of this new stuff, she will open the floodgates of her sexual curiosity and will want more and more. I told her I'm too conservative for handling her fucking other guys even if its always under my supervision. She says she's too scared of losing me, so we agreed we shouldn't.
This is a pretty common fear around this kind of thing, and sometimes it does happen. It's generally referred to as a "sexual awakening." However, if she's not naturally a thrill-seeker / very high sex drive girl, it usually won't. She'll try new things, be a little excited, and then the excitement subsides and she goes, "Meh. It's okay."

If you're not afraid of losing her, and this is something you both want to try, I'd go for it. Chances are she won't transform into some BDSM DP frothing-at-the-mouth sex-crazed fiend just because you guys fooled around with girls a couple of times.

MonsieurLabrie said:
The thing is: she was quite upset that I slept with another woman at the same time as her before we became a couple. This stuff never happened to her before. Guys have always chased her hard. But she stressed many times that she's not trying to trick me with that, she's genuinely curious about doing it. She likes to watch porn with me when we have sex.
Taking a girl together is one thing; but if one of you has a partner where the other is not included, it tends to stir up hard feelings. I've seen it with both MFF threesomes, where either the guy or the girl sleeps with the other girl later privately, and the other partner gets hurt and jealous, and I've seen it with double-penetrations where a guy doubles up on his girl with one of his buddies, but his feelings get hurt when his girl later sleeps with the buddy without him.

If you're going to do threesomes with a committed girlfriend, you need to lay ground rules about what you can and cannot do:

  • Can either of you sleep with one of your other girls without the other partner around?
  • Can you penetrate the other girl and have vaginal sex with her?
  • If it's okay if you have sex with the other girl, is your girl going to freak out if you cum in her?
  • What code word are you going to use if things get too crazy and your girl needs the two of you to tap out?

You won't want to discuss that until she's completely sold on the idea - if she REALLY wants to nail a girl, you'll have an easier time saying, okay, if we do this, I need to be able to cum in you AND her and not have it be a big deal.

MonsieurLabrie said:
I don't really mind if we break up down the road, because I have better abundance now. Should I just ease into the idea and do it? We're having a great time right now together and having great sex anyway.

Opinions?
Do you watch lesbian porn with her? That's a great way to start.

If she gets into it, you can either get a sex blow-up doll to move up to next, or, if she's really sold, call an escort over - you'll pay once, she'll get to have the experience with a woman who's not from her social circle at all, and decide if she likes it. If so, you can work on picking up new girls together.

I'd recommend against sleeping with women that you both know already. Has a tendency to get messy pretty fast.

Chase
 
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