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I'll try to keep this brief:
Girl at work shows interest in me. Hits on me, chats me up. Asks if I have a girlfriend. We get to know each other. I find out she has a bf, but she wants to leave him. I back off, because I'm not sure if she means it or will be with him indefinitely. She leaves him. She says we should hang out. I try to initiate contact outside of work. No go, she doesn't answer her phone. I question why. She shit tests the hell out of me. I'm like fine, it's done.
Few days later, she texts me. More shit tests. "Why should I be with you?" "I can have any guy I want." I basically say "you want me or you don't." Over the next few weeks she continues to text me spuradically. I never make first contact. She rejects offers to hook up outside of work, yet says she'd f*ck me, trying to pin me as a f*ckbuddy. I think, and say, "Ok, but unless we hook up, that isn't going to happen. It's just not physically possible".
Eventually, things get awkward at work, she asks me not to talk to her anymore. Knowing her and how she is, I know she doesn't mean that literally, probably another shit test, but I tell myself, once again, "Fine, I'm done". Besides, too, we are at work and should be working, things get awkward there. Quite frankly, I was sick and tired her flaking out, and was ready to never talk to her again.
I keep steadfast. We don't work in proximity of each other, so it's easy for me to avoid her... Until yesterday... after 3 weeks of silence... I have to go see her for something work related. I keep it brief, walk away. She knows where I'm headed, takes another route and approaches me. "I needed to put some space between us", she says. I'm thinking, ok, here we go again, deep down knowing I should just avoid this chick. I tell her I understand, that I tried to progress things outside of work, and it never went anywhere. She asks me if I work Saturdays. It's like a natural reflex, you know? Qualifying my time for an out of work hookup, and it never happens. I tell her I do about every other week, but make no effort to ask what she's doing Saturday. I basically let it drop. We continue to chat for a while, then go our seperate ways.
Anyway, wtf should I make of this? I was content not talking to her unless work related, and here she is again, getting personal with me. Honestly, I don't want to be her friend, and have been flaked on enough to know that it'll happen again. Is she trying to retain me as an orbiter? Is she seeking the ego high she lost when we stopped talking? Wtf? Can anyone relate?
Girl at work shows interest in me. Hits on me, chats me up. Asks if I have a girlfriend. We get to know each other. I find out she has a bf, but she wants to leave him. I back off, because I'm not sure if she means it or will be with him indefinitely. She leaves him. She says we should hang out. I try to initiate contact outside of work. No go, she doesn't answer her phone. I question why. She shit tests the hell out of me. I'm like fine, it's done.
Few days later, she texts me. More shit tests. "Why should I be with you?" "I can have any guy I want." I basically say "you want me or you don't." Over the next few weeks she continues to text me spuradically. I never make first contact. She rejects offers to hook up outside of work, yet says she'd f*ck me, trying to pin me as a f*ckbuddy. I think, and say, "Ok, but unless we hook up, that isn't going to happen. It's just not physically possible".
Eventually, things get awkward at work, she asks me not to talk to her anymore. Knowing her and how she is, I know she doesn't mean that literally, probably another shit test, but I tell myself, once again, "Fine, I'm done". Besides, too, we are at work and should be working, things get awkward there. Quite frankly, I was sick and tired her flaking out, and was ready to never talk to her again.
I keep steadfast. We don't work in proximity of each other, so it's easy for me to avoid her... Until yesterday... after 3 weeks of silence... I have to go see her for something work related. I keep it brief, walk away. She knows where I'm headed, takes another route and approaches me. "I needed to put some space between us", she says. I'm thinking, ok, here we go again, deep down knowing I should just avoid this chick. I tell her I understand, that I tried to progress things outside of work, and it never went anywhere. She asks me if I work Saturdays. It's like a natural reflex, you know? Qualifying my time for an out of work hookup, and it never happens. I tell her I do about every other week, but make no effort to ask what she's doing Saturday. I basically let it drop. We continue to chat for a while, then go our seperate ways.
Anyway, wtf should I make of this? I was content not talking to her unless work related, and here she is again, getting personal with me. Honestly, I don't want to be her friend, and have been flaked on enough to know that it'll happen again. Is she trying to retain me as an orbiter? Is she seeking the ego high she lost when we stopped talking? Wtf? Can anyone relate?
