Girl Back in The Picture. Hot & Cold.

[JMP_123]

Hey guys,

Suggestions on how to move forward with a girl who is floundering between interested and very non-commital?

I hooked up a few times with a girl months ago and we were talking every day. She eventually got caught up and disappeared for a few months which was ok as I knew we would revisit our relationship. She got back in touch with me as she moved within 20 minutes of me now so we were back on a texting basis and was really gung-ho about making plans. Sometimes she'll contact me and then as I lead through a conversation of making plans everything becomes vague and she comes off as very non-committal to do anything. Her roommate is single right and can most likely be a cock block behind the scenes whereas I can see her taking up this chicks time knowing i'm trying to make plans.

So should I be straight forward and call her out of sorts for brushing me off and coming on heavy other times? Would that scare her away seeing as she's kind of navigating getting back in contact with me at her pace.

 

[Ross]

If she's anything but excited to see you after already getting in a physical relationship, it'd probably be better to seek out other options. Think about which option you'd rather have:

1. Excited girl who wants to be with you.
2. Girl who is on the fence about being with you and makes it difficult to get together.

If you're particularly stuck on what to do in regards to this girl, I suggest that you flat out ignore her for a few days. After that you can go straight into trying to meet up ASAP, and if she doesn't respond, just move on.

 

[Franco]

JMP,

Just to be clear:

So should I be straight forward and call her out of sorts for brushing me off and coming on heavy other times? Would that scare her away seeing as she's kind of navigating getting back in contact with me at her pace.

Not a good idea. You don't really know why she isn't committing to seeing you, and this will come across as needy and controlling. Roll with Ross's advice: make a few attempts to get her out so that she knows you tried and then move on. She'll contact you again at some point if she really is excited about seeing you and maybe had other things holding her back.

- Franco