Girl became extremely cold from warm and receptive (already have laid her)

[empath]

Fuck there is this slutty nurse I laid from bumble and now there is this thing after fucking first time I texted her back after 3 days and she was fucking warm and wanted to meet me we met at a random time 5:00 a.m. because she was supposed to come in the area where I was partying.

Now after meeting I think we were supposed to go my home but my room was not empty (I thought instead we will go in a hotel room) so I suggested her we go to hotel room and she suddenly became pissed off saying I should have said but this bitch did not gave me time to speak properly on phone.

So I decided to drop her near home. Pissed and sulking all the way maybe she wanted sex.

No after the pass I text her all good?

She ignores my text.

Fine i wait for Thursday night and send her this emoji ignored.

I send her my blanket still smells like you ignored

I send her this on Friday.

Do you want your clothes or not I will throw them otherwise.

Ignored

I call her and she don't pick up so I end up removing her number thinking she will call now.

At night she calls me still called I ask her what happened she said she can't hear me and disconnects the call saying she is busy.

Now I am frustrated.

I end up sending her a lot of texts which are getting ignored.

Some are romantic shit like can't live without you etc.

Finally I receive a call at 3:00 a.m. again similar to before call and then she ignores all my text and I have written i am losing interest.

What to do I don't understand her cold behaviour.

Was it because she was horny and I was not able to do the job.

She could have easily gone to hotel but resisted herself while she was fine going my home and having sex there

Nor did she explained why not a hotel

Has she gotten bored from me and onto the new guy

Or did she thought we will have a new relationship and now know I just want to wet my dick (I already told her before sex I bring a new girl home every week)

How to lay her again?

 

[topcat]

Was it because she was horny and I was not able to do the job.

It was this. You were a booty call and failed at your one job. The indecisiveness and having her think about sorting out logistics just to get railed turned her off. Should have made it an adventure, fucked her in the house, the car, a stairwell, or some bushes outside.

She likely wont give you another chance. 2 ignored pings and I never text her again.

 

[empath]

It was this. You were a booty call and failed at your one job. The indecisiveness and having her think about sorting out logistics just to get railed turned her off. Should have made it an adventure, fucked her in the house, the car, a stairwell, or some bushes outside.

She likely wont give you another chance. 2 ignored pings and I never text her again.

Is there a way to fuck her once more.

We did not had any emotional connection she was a same day lay dtf kind minimal conversation.

I Have some of her stuff which she don't care about i guess.

She has my tshirt (maybe i should wait 2-3 weeks and text her I really want my t-shirt when she will return me and make a story it was a gift or something)

 

[topcat]

Is there a way to fuck her once more.

I doubt it, but i he’s you could ping her every week and a half and see if she relents..

 

[empath]

I doubt it, but i he’s you could ping her every week and a half and see if she relents..

Yeah I will do it maybe send some nurse memes nd put the timer on msg so they get auto deleted after she watches them.

If she bites, I need one opportunity to get her at my place.

Any thoughts on how to maximize chances?

 

[topcat]

Any thoughts on how to maximize chances?

yes. stop caring

 

[empath]

I got a mini success...

I decided to annoy her (I was high and all good ideas come when you are high)

So, what I did at midnight I decided to call her and then cut the call until she gets curious/annoyed or anything just an emotion to towards.

After I did this 2 times 3rd time she herself called me i again cut the call even from her side.

Then after waiting for 5 mins

I called her once more she picked I let her speak a bit and then cut the call.

Then she called me immediately.... My cue Temperature is right.

I laughed uncontrollably to disarm her and get her laughing herself so there is a bit of positive emotion

Then i told her I am high and I am enjoying messing up her ...

She: Seriously... Are you enjoying (she said with a laugh )

Then I continued laughing a bit and she kept asking me then

She herself said to courrier her clothes.... I said jokingly I them gave to someone (lied to tease her)

Had a back forth on this and she said I am not coming back to your place

Had a bit of banter then she said she is sleeping because she has a morning duty.

I said I will tease you for sometime more

Small win is

Now at least she is in mood to have a conversation from earlier ghosting

Now I need to bring her objection why she don't want to come and what happened that day

And then resolve those objection so she does ends at my place.

Maybe after I know objection I will use romance ( to build emotional connection)and sex talk ( to make her lonely)

Then bring her to my place

Let's see how it goes.

Gives me one more weapons to hook her (weed is best)

 

[MagicRomania]

She's just small time and thought you were small time as well

 

[empath]

She's just small time and thought you were small time as well

? Eloborate!

 

[MagicRomania]

? Eloborate!

If she wasn't certain, she would have been big league.. firstly, but if she's not just aggressive, and liked it, she'd be dispassionate. When she went south, I'm guessing you went north, which means your head pressed send... and then picked it.. So I wouldn't just aggress, I would find the solution within the solution, which is to position her upstairs first, on you, and then hide what you were doing behind something else, by just telling her a load of bull, and working out.

 

[empath]

If she wasn't certain, she would have been big league.. firstly, but if she's not just aggressive, and liked it, she'd be dispassionate. When she went south, I'm guessing you went north, which means your head pressed send... and then picked it.. So I wouldn't just aggress, I would find the solution within the solution, which is to position her upstairs first, on you, and then hide what you were doing behind something else, by just telling her a load of bull, and working out.

I am not getting what you are trying to say exactly but I guess it on a high level make her comfortable with bullshit without sex and arousals and when she is comfortable then go for sex?

Right?

 

[empath]

Update:

So I annoyed her over calls and texted her but this girl never replied or engaged but something happened yesterday... I drunk called her and told her I love you... And magically today she texted me herself ... Idk if she is getting bored or what but I think the other day (after which she ghosted me) she wanted to spend good time fr but I instead asked her to go to hotel room so probably she must have felt insulted (asd kicking in).... Will know the full story during pillow talk only after I lay her.

 

[empath]

Well I kept pinging her to see if she will meet me every week, whenever I was near her nd kept calls or text to the point.

There were 2-3 instances. Where out meeting failed but I met her yesterday.

I had logistics but she was uncompliant.

We go to beach in a cab and talk about what happened in each others life recently. She was telling me but not looking at me I called out her on this.

She gave some lame ass reason.

Then I also looked away from her.

We reached beach... Again we talk about something, then she starts telling me about books she like to read all were eroticas.

I try to make a joke but she is still uncompliant/ unwilling to participate.

Then I ask about a smoke she tells me she is changed now.

I say yeah you seem very mellow, she the says she is trying to be mature blah blah blah.

Then we talk some more, she mention one of her fantasy manifested last month but it's a secret.

(I am losing my calm at this point, no touch nothing sexual, after we have had sex I am going nuts)

Then I try for compliance once more by moving her she says she don't want to so then I tell ok I will take a short walk.

Maybe being out of there fix things.

I come back she is using her phone/talking to someone idk.

I sit somewhere, she comes and says this not the place we were sitting then she says mosquitos are biting her.

I say let's go home. (Seeming me a waste of time now)

While going home I ask her to buy a ciggerate (my phone and wallet was at her room). She says she will not buy because she will feel like smoking, a lame excuse.

Then as we are moving, she makes a comment I say let's bet, if I win i get a ciggerate.

She agrees and I win the bet but she again then declines. (I am super pissed off at this point)

So, I grab her hand to move her but she yells I come back in my sense I leave her hand and we start walking towards rikshaw.

She says I never intended to buy you a cigarette.

I am fucking pissed off and I don't even look at her when in rikshaw.

After she tries to have conversation but i i ignore her because it was a very weak attempt.

Then after reaching her home. She gets me my stuff but this bitch don't even come down.

I look her intensely until she is very close and I say come down, she finally does acting like a kid

I try to make some conversation about she not wanting to open up, she talks a bit, someone speaks to her on phone, we do a good bye.

I think she is seeing someone seriously.

Probably she gave in because I persisted but she don't want sex with me anymore.

Well I felt bad in the moments but I have hotter dates lined up so makes sense to focus on those.

Still I want to fuck her so I can have a pillow talk with her and understand why she is acting the way she is.

 

[Gorili]

Well I kept pinging her to see if she will meet me every week, whenever I was near her nd kept calls or text to the point.

There were 2-3 instances. Where out meeting failed but I met her yesterday.

I had logistics but she was uncompliant.

We go to beach in a cab and talk about what happened in each others life recently. She was telling me but not looking at me I called out her on this.

She gave some lame ass reason.

Then I also looked away from her.

We reached beach... Again we talk about something, then she starts telling me about books she like to read all were eroticas.

I try to make a joke but she is still uncompliant/ unwilling to participate.

Then I ask about a smoke she tells me she is changed now.

I say yeah you seem very mellow, she the says she is trying to be mature blah blah blah.

Then we talk some more, she mention one of her fantasy manifested last month but it's a secret.

(I am losing my calm at this point, no touch nothing sexual, after we have had sex I am going nuts)

Then I try for compliance once more by moving her she says she don't want to so then I tell ok I will take a short walk.

Maybe being out of there fix things.

I come back she is using her phone/talking to someone idk.

I sit somewhere, she comes and says this not the place we were sitting then she says mosquitos are biting her.

I say let's go home. (Seeming me a waste of time now)

While going home I ask her to buy a ciggerate (my phone and wallet was at her room). She says she will not buy because she will feel like smoking, a lame excuse.

Then as we are moving, she makes a comment I say let's bet, if I win i get a ciggerate.

She agrees and I win the bet but she again then declines. (I am super pissed off at this point)

So, I grab her hand to move her but she yells I come back in my sense I leave her hand and we start walking towards rikshaw.

She says I never intended to buy you a cigarette.

I am fucking pissed off and I don't even look at her when in rikshaw.

After she tries to have conversation but i i ignore her because it was a very weak attempt.

Then after reaching her home. She gets me my stuff but this bitch don't even come down.

I look her intensely until she is very close and I say come down, she finally does acting like a kid

I try to make some conversation about she not wanting to open up, she talks a bit, someone speaks to her on phone, we do a good bye.

I think she is seeing someone seriously.

Probably she gave in because I persisted but she don't want sex with me anymore.

Still I want to fuck her so I can have a pillow talk with her and understand why she is acting the way she is.

@empath,

I'm going to be very direct with you here. It would be a miracle if you could turn this around. If someone knows how, please chime in because I'd be curious to hear. I'm 99% sure that this one is done.

You fucked up in almost every way possible. I'm pretty sure that if you just talked to her like a normal person and skipped all this gamey stuff you would have had much better odds with her. Just cuz you had sex with her once doesn't mean that you can "boss her around." This was autism on full display. I'm gonna list some of them below:

• Compliance: Do you know how compliance works? If she is uncompliant, you need to find ways to address it. You don't keep asking her for compliance repeatedly if it's not working. Please refer to your compliance manual
• Overeagerness: It seems like the only thing that you had in mind was sex, sex, sex. Did you really expect to get that from her right off the bat when you guys haven't seen each other in 2+ months? Plus the failed booty call? Plus all the resistance that she was giving on the phone from the texts and calls?
• Failure to listen: When she mentions eroticas, you make fun of her. When she says she doesn't smoke anymore, you don't relate to her. When she tries to restart the conversation with you on the rickshaw, you ignore her
• Overreacting: I don't understand why you get so mad when she's not looking at you in the beginning and when she doesn't want to buy a cigarette. I also noticed that you kept referring to her as a "bitch" and even a "kid". Is this what a skilled seducer does?

Well I felt bad in the moments but I have hotter dates lined up so makes sense to focus on those.

Yes, please do this instead. The odds with your new dates are much higher versus trying to resurrect this girl.

Good luck

 

[empath]

@empath,

I'm going to be very direct with you here. It would be a miracle if you could turn this around. If someone knows how, please chime in because I'd be curious to hear. I'm 99% sure that this one is done.

You fucked up in almost every way possible. I'm pretty sure that if you just talked to her like a normal person and skipped all this gamey stuff you would have had much better odds with her. Just cuz you had sex with her once doesn't mean that you can "boss her around." This was autism on full display. I'm gonna list some of them below:

• Compliance: Do you know how compliance works? If she is uncompliant, you need to find ways to address it. You don't keep asking her for compliance repeatedly if it's not working. Please refer to your compliance manual
• Overeagerness: It seems like the only thing that you had in mind was sex, sex, sex. Did you really expect to get that from her right off the bat when you guys haven't seen each other in 2+ months? Plus the failed booty call? Plus all the resistance that she was giving on the phone from the texts and calls?
• Failure to listen: When she mentions eroticas, you make fun of her. When she says she doesn't smoke anymore, you don't relate to her. When she tries to restart the conversation with you on the rickshaw, you ignore her
• Overreacting: I don't understand why you get so mad when she's not looking at you in the beginning and when she doesn't want to buy a cigarette. I also noticed that you kept referring to her as a "bitch" and even a "kid". Is this what a skilled seducer does?

Yes, please do this instead. The odds with your new dates are much higher versus trying to resurrect this girl.

Good luck

Yeah I had only one thing in mind maybe I should have acted cool and like a good friend and skipped gamey stuff and forgive her for her bad behaviour for 2 months

Should have let her get warm to me ... Ideally I think it would have taken 2-3 dates more to build back the warmth

One thing you are misinterpretating is I have said to her as a bitch or kid directly (not even made a reference to her)

I am just describing her behaviour here that she was acting bitchy or childish towards me.

Only problem I have in this whole interaction is she has some issue opening up. Coupled with I think she is seeing someone.

For example: She is living away from her family and she is not attending her sister's marriage etc. So basically what feel I got from her is she is having attachment issue or is a avoidant personality type. (She agreed with this)

Though some of her behaviour was un-excusable