girl brings friend to (maybe) introduce you

[Anonymous]

Hey there!

I consider myself a big newbie at girls and came across Chase's website. As a result I have been changing my attitude and so far did not feel the need to explore the forum. Until now.

I met a girl who was from one of my classes and got into a date today(the progress until then is not related to this post). Yesterday among other logistics she texted me mentioning her sister might join, and said she "hoped it was alright". I replied: "Would prefer we go just us. But she's welcome if you wish!" I interpret this as showing my intention but also not being bitter in case the sister shows up.

As for the date. Conversation was flowing, it was pleasant and i believe it went quite ok (some deep diving but not too personal given it was "public"). Both were very nice but i noticed the laid back attitude of the girl vs the more nervous one of the sister. Also, the sister seemed to make more effort into talking than the girl. I maintained much of my attention focused on the girl however.

I eventually talked about relationships and asked "if they were single". The girl said she had a boyfriend (kinda of long distance but she didn't complain on it). The sister was single. And this is where i connect the above statements. I did not shift my attention but became subtly (i hope) more aware of the sister.

Now, my interpretation can be totally wrong (and that's where you guys come in) but i figure the girl brought her sister in order to eventually get us connected (given she had a boyfriend). As such it can be bad that i already revealed that i wanted to be in a date with the girl alone (maybe this is not important).

This said my general question is: If a girl you showed some interest in, tries to relieve herself from you by presenting you a friend/sister, should I maintain the initial interest or switch it?

PS: I don't know both girls that much so switching the interest is not unethical i think. And both are very pretty and nice so I don't lose anything.

 

[Dunking Style]

Hey Relvas, welcome to the forum!

Now..the answer to your question is: you decide!
Remember..powerful men choose their partners..not the other way around.
With knowledge from GC, you won't ever have to settle for anyone other than the most attractive girl!

Goodluck

 

[Anonymous]

Ahah that's right!

I don't happen to have that much experience/power yet so i was trying to settle for the easiest path.
Regardless, I'll see what i can do.

Thank you

 

[Tyme2k]

No offense but the "easiest path" is the one beta males take. Are you a beta? Do you want to be a beta? Do you want to feel like a beta?

Beta's get lucky(rarely), real men get what they want. Take the initiative to become Alpha, even if you aren't alpha you must play the part until you become it sir.

 

[Anonymous]

Wow, powerful post there.
My objective is to be capable with women and as such adopt the necessary changes. I do not intend to be the alpha (i just started learning and building myself now) and you can't become so immediately. Anyway, to my mind, the alpha male is about doing what he wants, not what is harder/simpler.

In any case I believe that is missing my point and not really answering my question . There were two possibilities here, either persuading hitting on the girl or look to establish contact with the sister. That's what my question was about. I had targeted the girl first but the sister made me reconsider (and perhaps that is the non alpha part you are referring to - not knowing what he wants clearly). Given both attractive possibilities my path became unclear and thus I asked the experts --- you .

I happened to try to establish contact with the sister. Will see what happens.

Still, thank you for your time!

 

[Tyme2k]

I wanted you to see another perspective on the situation. You are very correct Aplha takes the path he wants. My response was not for your initial thread I should have quoted you.. Although I do not want you stuck on alpha beta crap because it's not entirely important it's just a common analogy. I would not consider myself physically Alpha(5'11" and 155 lbs), but I am Alpha in the sense I took the time to figure out what I want, when I knew it I owned it, when I see it I move towards getting it. When I'm with a girl I'm always leading and controlling the interaction. When I'm with male friends I'm usually the leader(except with one of my natural friends which I'm currently working towards understang how leading is engrained in him.) Anyways the quote below fueled my comment.

don't happen to have that much experience/power yet so i was trying to settle for the easiest path.

I did not address the initial thread because only you have the answer to that.

I do not intend to be the alpha (i just started learning and building myself now) and you can't become so immediately.

Limiting belief.

Good luck