FR Girl From Work (Red Flags?) Need Second Opinions From The Pros

[King]

Hey brothers, Hope y'all are good.

Just chimin in with a mini field report, which got me feelin a little weird with this one girl from work.

Running a side hustle working retail and theres this one girl co-worker I've been flirting with a lot. I'll drop details and some things I know I low-key did incorrectly. But whatever its good practice at the least. Also one red flag that just makes me feel weird about her and is just making me want to just not want to pursue at all lmao. Details further on.

First off we flirt pretty heavy. Yday a lot of us were in and she kept hard flirting with me and went into what I would call "frame cracker mode." Shit tests for like a good 30 minutes while being flirty. I'm of course being an ass, teasing, flirting - push - pulling, getting her to qualify a bit, some hints of kino, really solid eye contact. tiny bits of comfort here and there. After a while the shit tests stopped and she melted into my frame and accepted my dominance. Needless to say I was charged and all turned on from this interaction, women I tell yah lmao.

Anyhow here's what I feel I sort of did it incorrectly but nonetheless it still sorta worked out.

When I went for the number close I sort of mini choked for sure. instead of making the number about me getting to know her, it ended up about being a work thing (switching shifts) I still got her to be the one to find my number and message me first, but yeah nonetheless when she messaged me it was all about work, flirting over text was kinda meh, since she was the one to initiate the conversation she kept the focus work oriented. However I still have the set - up now and I can set the tone next time I msg for a more flirtier interaction, but its all good, great practice either way. (anything to add from you guys to recover this / improve on? Or just leave it, its w.e?)

Ok so the red flag that's weirding me out is that she has all guy friends dafuq. ... I low-key overheard some of the convos its pretty much friendzone shit but like why all guy friends. she legit don't talk to any other girls at work which just weirds me out LOL. She started talking with this one other dude from work who I'm familiar with, they go to lunch together n walk around all the time talking n chatting. But then yday I tested it out, even though hes a nice dude and I'm cool with him I wanted to see what was up and so I amogged him, n yeah he sort of just poofed away, gave me another attraction booster point.

Its weird cause she got reffered into this job by another guy co-worker and started with 2 other guy co-workers from their previous jobs, maybe she has a brother who she has a good relationship with? I'm legit not sure whats up. She will try to boost her value by leaving the area I'm in and going to talk to them and check me from far to see if I'm watching and get all nervous and what not and throw out iois, which yeah she's tryina use whatever leverage she can to be attractive, I get that.

Another weird thing is when she asked me to change shifts. That dude I amogged is also trying to switch shifts, I told her to switch with him as I wasn't going to give her mines and she didn't want to, and the dude told me - oh she only wanted to switch if she could get the same shift as his and work together. Which again just weirds me out LOL.

Anyways was a fun experience nonetheless, lots of learning happened and I enjoyed it all thoroughly.

I'd like to hear the opinions of the experienced veterans and people who've dealt with situations and girls like this before.

Thanks in advance, Talk Soon

- King

 

[Fuck This]

Keep work WORK...Flirt outside of work if you want to try to create something. TBH she is probably a better wing girl for you. Like her guy friends sister's and female friends. See the guys are gonna think you could wing THEM with her.....

Play Chess not checkers.

Cases from experience...A store I frequent puts on weekly events. I participate in weekly events, become friends with female owner (social proof) . Meet other guys who are at events also. Go out with other guys to their friends' parties, and hook up with girls from their social circles outside of my Weekly group. If I ONS'ed with girls in the Weekly events, then they get possessive....

Single Female Colleague from professional group and a vendor, and friends in common. (3 different connections)( Could potentially be a plate in the rotation, but not an LTR. Has numerous female friends. Meet her friends and ONS them...

Meet married or committed attractive women who are attracted to you but unavailable. Get to know her single friends and ONS or Casual relationship them...Often the married one will serve them up on a platter...

Have a wide enough social circle(s) that when you meet a stranger there is a good chance you know some of the same people. It's like an automatic good reference.

 

[King]

Keep work WORK...Flirt outside of work if you want to try to create something. TBH she is probably a better wing girl for you. Like her guy friends sister's and female friends. See the guys are gonna think you could wing THEM with her.....

Play Chess not checkers.

Cases from experience...A store I frequent puts on weekly events. I participate in weekly events, become friends with female owner (social proof) . Meet other guys who are at events also. Go out with other guys to their friends' parties, and hook up with girls from their social circles outside of my Weekly group. If I ONS'ed with girls in the Weekly events, then they get possessive....

Single Female Colleague from professional group and a vendor, and friends in common. (3 different connections)( Could potentially be a plate in the rotation, but not an LTR. Has numerous female friends. Meet her friends and ONS them...

Meet married or committed attractive women who are attracted to you but unavailable. Get to know her single friends and ONS or Casual relationship them...Often the married one will serve them up on a platter...

Have a wide enough social circle(s) that when you meet a stranger there is a good chance you know some of the same people. It's like an automatic good reference.

Thanks a lot for your reply brother! This is pure gold. Btw your name is fucking awesome.

Absolutely agree with yah! You gave me such good ideas here, legit just made my life better with this reply. Thank you so much. I actually 100% agree with you. After thinking about it, given her nature she is definitely much better suited as a wing. That'll be where all the fun is at. All the light bulbs that went off in my head sheesh. You're a boss.

The social circle widening part is something to definitely think about, and I will begin to work on that heavily and fill it with cool and worthy people with good energy. Have thought about it for quite a while and been putting off, time to go on that adventure. It's time I work on it seriously. Thanks for that one as well.

You the man brother thanks for the reply. Hope you have a great weekend!

Lets continue to keep rising, and stay in touch!