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Girl gave number in front of boyfriend. Help!

Ergon

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A girl gave me her number in front of her boyfriend

So I approach a girl sitting near an area with many bars by complementing her hair. We exchanged names, I asked if she's waiting for someone. She says her boyfriend. I don't remember what exactly I said, but I continued nonchalantly.

I think I asked if it was serious or something, I don’t remember if she answered… I was about to leave, but she asked questions about me and we bantered and flirted for a little while. Her boyfriend then came in a motorcycle. I think she broke circle with him as was to be expected (while I'm sitting there). I proceed to invite them both to a small gathering/party at a bar on Thursday. They say yes, maybe, where? Etc. I said to the girl we should exchange facebooks, she doesn't have one so we exchange whatsapp. She put her number on my phone. Then she and the guy continue their conversation. I froze for a second until I say to the guy: "I'll pass you the information with her"… (In retrospect that was kind of weak I think, I thought the guy would want to give me his information but he didn't make any effort to do that)

Anyway, she gave a true number. I don't know what are the implications of all of this.
Did she liked me and wanted to see me alone later despite her boyfriend? Was she just sociable and then interested in the party so that's why she gave me her contact information?
How should I proceed? Should I send the icebreaker and then just invite her for some coffee? (I did not make an invitation for this while face to face). Should I sent the icebreaker and then invite her to the social gathering and game her using social circle?

Need your help guys! It's a very unusual situation for me. What should I do?…
 
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Chase

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Ergon-

I'd proceed as if you'd just gotten her number normally and never proposed something mutual:

"Hey Stella, hope your blah blah blah went blah. I blah blah. We should link up you and I and grab that drink. What's your schedule like this week or next? -Ergon"

Just treats the boyfriend like a non-factor. I'd include the "you and I" in there so she knows she isn't supposed to bring the BF along.

If she brings up the drinks with her and her boyfriend thing, just tell her you've done a lot of group stuff lately and would like to schedule that for another time. And that you'd like to just meet up with her for now.

Chase
 
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