Girl Gives Me Her Number Without Me Asking But Doesn't Respond For A Date

[Mystique]

So I met this girl in a bus headed for school on Monday. I wrote how I met her on my second journal entry Memoirs of Mystique We chatted on the bus and as we alighted, headed to campus, she asks for my phone and puts her number in. Here's the conversation we had on text:
Me: (after four hours from getting her number) It was nice meeting you (insert name)
She: (four hours later) Hey thanks for the text, I hope we can meet sometime next.
Me: (more than two hours later) Yea, let's get a drink together tomorrow. I'll be free at the early parts of the afternoon. What about you?
She doesn't respond so two days later I shoot her a text
Me: Hey there, what are you up to today...still listening to music and playing that game you have no clue about (inside joke)
She: (24 mins later) I am listening to music and playing a more interesting game and I have some clues about that game.
Me: (14 mins later) Hmm...I bet you do How's your schedule like today so we could grab a drink
The last conversation was yesterday. What do you guys think. Did I do anything wrong? Or is it some enforceable circumstance?

 

[Hector Papi Castillo]

Me: (after four hours from getting her number) It was nice meeting you (insert name)
She: (four hours later) Hey thanks for the text, I hope we can meet sometime next.
Me: (more than two hours later) Yea, let's get a drink together tomorrow. I'll be free at the early parts of the afternoon. What about you?
She doesn't respond so two days later I shoot her a text
Me: Hey there, what are you up to today...still listening to music and playing that game you have no clue about (inside joke)
She: (24 mins later) I am listening to music and playing a more interesting game and I have some clues about that game.
Me: (14 mins later) Hmm...I bet you do How's your schedule like today so we could grab a drink
The last conversation was yesterday. What do you guys think. Did I do anything wrong? Or is it some enforceable circumstance?

Some comments -

1. If she was asking for your number and chasing that hard, you could have pushed for a date later that day while you were still with her.

2. When she suggests the date over text, instead of jumping on a particular date, just suggest she let you know when she's free and you'll meet up. She's already chasing, so let her stay in the role

3. Your teasing text is way too game-y. You can't go from super game-y like that to asking her about her schedule. First she thinks, "okay, now he's having some fun, let's see what he's about" and she fires back, saying she's playing an even more fun game and knows the rules about the game. Then you fold and ask her out? Intrigue = gone. I've done this more than a thousand times so I know the desire to just cut through the bullshit and get in that pussy,but if you start playing games, you gotta finish them

Her - I am listening to music and playing a more interesting game and I have some clues about that game.

Me - Really now? What have you figured out so far?

Something like that, get her invested in the game.

Or better yet, don't play these games in the first place and get genuine. Save yourself hella trouble. High-value guys don't play risky games or if they do, they know they're going to win and it's just some flirting to spice up the foreplay.

Hector

 

[Mystique]

Some comments -
1. If she was asking for your number
and chasing that hard, you could
have pushed for a date later that day
while you were still with her.
2. When she suggests the date over
text, instead of jumping on a
particular date, just suggest she let
you know when she's free and you'll
meet up. She's already chasing, so
let her stay in the role
3. Your teasing text is way too
game-y. You can't go from super
game-y like that to asking her about
her schedule. First she thinks, "okay,
now he's having some fun, let's see
what he's about" and she fires back,
saying she's playing an even more
fun game and knows the rules about
the game. Then you fold and ask her
out? Intrigue = gone. I've done this
more than a thousand times so I
know the desire to just cut through
the bullshit and get in that pussy,but
if you start playing games, you gotta
finish them
Her - I am listening to music
and playing a more interesting
game and I have some clues
about that game.
Me - Really now? What have
you figured out so far?
Something like that, get her invested
in the game.
Or better yet, don't play these games
in the first place and get genuine.
Save yourself hella trouble. High-
value guys don't play risky games or
if they do, they know they're going to
win and it's just some flirting to spice
up the foreplay.
Hector

Hey man! Everything seems really
good, except I wouldn't ask her to do
something "today" over text. It feels
rushed. Ask what her schedule is like
for the coming week and then set
something up. I thought everything
else was good tho, and I'd say it's
worth a few more tries with a few
days of space in between.
I would ask what she's up to today in
person tho, because once you set
the expectation to hang out that day
in person that text would be much
more natural and her attraction would
still be high.
"It's just a drink, if it's weird, you can
just tell me you have to go wash
your cat or something "
Is a line I use when I lose the
response to the date setup. It's
worked well for me in the past.
Unfortunately attraction does expire
so it may be too late to pull this one
back in, nothing to worry about tho
just meet more girls. Who knows why
she's going silent here, there could
be a million reasons. Just know that
it sounds like she was very attracted
to you initially and just probably isn't
sexually available or she's very busy.
Radeng

Oh! I didn't even realize that. Solid info you guys have just given me. So how do you suggest I move forward now. How do I go about texting her this time around

 

[POPEYE]

Man...u appear to be too NEEDY. Girls read guys really well, so just chill out and if she is interested let her chase you...not the other way around

 

[Mystique]

@popeye

Man...u appear to be too NEEDY.
Girls read guys really well, so just
chill out and if she is interested let
her chase you...not the other way
around

Lol I didn't realise it at that time. I thought I was taking things forward and moving things to a mutual desired end.

@radeng

I'd shoot her a message tomorrow
that i gave you, you can leave out
the cat part if you think it's too
gamey.
"It's just a drink, name"
iF she replies it'll be, "I'm sorry I
forgot to respond!" Or some sort of
apology.
Then shoot straight, "haha no
worries, I inderstand, what night are
you free this week?"
If she doesn't reply to the first, fuck it
and drop it. If she doesn't reply to
the second, NEXT!

I'll do just that. Gracias

 

[Mystique]

I sent her a text saying:

It's just a drink (insert name), If it feels weird you can just tell me

And she calls me ten minutes later, but I missed her call (which I guess is a good thing). She calls again about 23 mins later and I wait a little before I pick
She: hello
Me: hello (insert name) - I talk slowly with a deep and bored voice. This is the way I talk on phone-
She: I saw your text
Me: yea, how are you doing
She: I'm fine
Me: so what's up
She: what did you mean by your text that I don't want to meet you
Me: I didn't get a reply so I decided to text you (she tried to frame it as me being angry/needy but I successfully reframed it as me just casually checking up on her since I didn't see any reply)
She: oh! Sorry I haven't been in school in a while I had to blah blah blah
Me: alright there's no problem. Just let me know when you're free
She: I'm free right now. I don't have a class until xxpm
Me: I'm not in school right now
She: OK I'll call you by xxpm
Me: you know what, I'll be busy today so let's make it next week...
She: Monday (she cuts me short. Wow she's quite eager)
Me: alright
She: I'll call you later today
Me: OK
That was a close one, but I successfully kicked her back into the chasing position. Thanks Radeng and Anatman. Cheers!

 

[Hector Papi Castillo]

Radeng,

Results don't lie - good fucking advice. Bravo and have fun with her, Mystique. You're gonna wanna close real fast with this girl.

Hector

 

[Mystique]

Bravo and have fun with her,
Mystique. You're gonna wanna close
real fast with this girl.

That's what I kinda fear; if I'd be able to seal the deal without messing it up. I guess I'll have to quit being a pussy and go work it out. Plus I have no logistics. I think I'm gonna try the two date system (which I don't have solid info on right now) so I'll be able to figure out logistics before the second date

 

[Hector Papi Castillo]

Not sure if extending this beyond this date will be a good idea.

See, Radeng's advice worked, as far as I can tell, because she wanted to make you sweat a bit after she realized "wow I'm really chasing him hard and he might have just realized it, that's why he's pushing so hard for a date now..." It's possible she would have responded without the follow-up text, but she obviously really likes you and the extra chasing just leveled it for you. This is an art more than a science, so approximations and guesses are all we really have.

But as long as she doesn't flake, the clock is ticking fast now. Your aggressive move got her wet, now she wants to see if you can deliver. Try and fuck her in public if you've got no extraction point. Otherwise I'd put money down that you won't see her again after this date unless you're really good at balancing attainability and attraction, and it's never smart to leave shit up to chance if you can avoid it.

Hector

 

[Zoro]

This girl is hungry!

Don't sweat it about "making a move"

Quick disclaimer, I still mess up physical escalation and chicken out at times FWI, so maybe the more experienced men can chime in...

I recently have switched up my understanding of the "make a move" idea. Still havent been able to field test but...

I like thinking that if a man is turned on like a switch, a woman's is like a dial. So less making a move (switch) and more stoking a fire. Breaking it down into a gradual increase of physical escalation is less daunting. Incidental touching, to intimate, to sexual.
You'll want to gauge where her dial is at though. This girl sounds like she needs less warming up. Done right I'm sure you can turn the dial real quick too.

Touching through out your interactions is helpful and sexy. I had a fun instadate with a very interested and submissive girl since starting touching more.