What's up guys, I haven't posted in a while. I've got a girl that seems to be slowly ghosting me... one that i wanted to pursue something more with and wasn't afraid to show it.
background:
I met her on Tinder. We had our first date back in the last week of September(on a Monday). I ended up bringing her home... she was on period so we didn't fuck and just ended up licking her clit for a while and then she gave me a blowjob and swallowed it down. Besides the sexual stuff, the date went well.
She leaves for a 2 week trip to China with her mom the upcoming weekend. We agree to meetup again on Thursday... 3 days after out initial meet. However, she has to be up early for the flight the next day so we decided to do happy hour and food. Again, this went well, great convo, overall good time. As we leave the place and head back to her vehicle, she grabs my hand to hold it. So we are holding hands and walking back to her car. At this point its still only like 7. I make push to have her come back to my place for a little bit... but she resists and says she needs to be up early for the flight. I don't push it too hard... i know thats the truth. We end up kissing for a little bit and then say our farewells. She sends me a pleasant text when she gets home saying she had a good time, etc.
So while she is in China, we talk almost everyday... its usually her messaging me when she wakes up in the AM... we exchange some texts... mostly light stuff about what shes doing or did the previous day, etc. Flirting also ensues. There is a concert coming up a few days after she gets back from the trip and I ask her if she wants to go... she agrees.
Fast-forward to when shes back. She ends up not going to the concert with me that Tuesday because she still feels jet lagged and doesn't think she'd be much fun to be around. She got back around 7 pm on Sunday and stayed home on Monday to catch up on sleep, etc. I played it cool and said it's all good... didn't really give her shit even though i was kinda mad. She even venmo'd me the cost of the ticket which I didnt ask... she just found me and did it.
So this is where it starts to be different. I didn't talk with her again from Tues evening when she said she couldn't go to the concert until I eventually messaged her Thursday night. At this point I knew something was up... because at the very least I thought she would ask me about the concert. Is this needy? maybe. Honestly we were talking for a while so it didnt seem unnatural to think she would, but she didn't. I texted her Thursday evening asking her how shes doing with the jet lag. She responds over an hour later and says she just woke up from a nap so she definitely still feels jet lagged but getting a little better.
Now... She got back home on Sunday... and its now 4 days later. I'm not sure jet lag last that long. But whatever... I play it cool say sorry and then tell her I've been thinking about her and would like to see her soon. I also mention that concert was fun and that she was missed. Beta thing to do? Again, maybe, but it was a warm response.
She never responded to that.
So here it is Saturday and I'm really coming to terms with the fact that she is done with me. I plan on blasting her a text tomorrow seeing what's up and basically questioning why she has been distant and if she doesn't want to see me again that is cool but just tell me. Sign of neediness or lower self-esteem? Again maybe, but I've been talking with this girl for a month now total... and there was expectations to see each other when she was back... so honestly I don't care how it appears and I'm also gonna say it in a non-threatening way. So either she will respond or not. Either way I'll get my answer.
Text will be something like:
Keypoints:
Met girl 2 times before her trip to China for two weeks.
talked with her almost everyday she was there... just a few text exchanges while she was on WIFI before taking off for the day.
While she is there, I ask her to go to a concert with me. She agrees.
When she is back, she ends up bailing on the concert, blames it on jet lag, still tired.
Basically goes cold on me after this. I end up texting her a few days later and she initially responds then leaves me hanging when I say I wanna see her soon.
From the start, I didn't really care that I was coming off as boyfriend material... because I still move fast regardless and had her back at my place. Her period messed it up or we would have had sex. But instead it was just licking her clit, making out, licking her boobs, and her giving me a blowjob.
What do you guys think? Lost cause to send the confrontational text to basically see what's up or just let it go...
Personally, I will probably still send a text tomorrow.
And yeah... start meeting more girls
Thanks.
background:
I met her on Tinder. We had our first date back in the last week of September(on a Monday). I ended up bringing her home... she was on period so we didn't fuck and just ended up licking her clit for a while and then she gave me a blowjob and swallowed it down. Besides the sexual stuff, the date went well.
She leaves for a 2 week trip to China with her mom the upcoming weekend. We agree to meetup again on Thursday... 3 days after out initial meet. However, she has to be up early for the flight the next day so we decided to do happy hour and food. Again, this went well, great convo, overall good time. As we leave the place and head back to her vehicle, she grabs my hand to hold it. So we are holding hands and walking back to her car. At this point its still only like 7. I make push to have her come back to my place for a little bit... but she resists and says she needs to be up early for the flight. I don't push it too hard... i know thats the truth. We end up kissing for a little bit and then say our farewells. She sends me a pleasant text when she gets home saying she had a good time, etc.
So while she is in China, we talk almost everyday... its usually her messaging me when she wakes up in the AM... we exchange some texts... mostly light stuff about what shes doing or did the previous day, etc. Flirting also ensues. There is a concert coming up a few days after she gets back from the trip and I ask her if she wants to go... she agrees.
Fast-forward to when shes back. She ends up not going to the concert with me that Tuesday because she still feels jet lagged and doesn't think she'd be much fun to be around. She got back around 7 pm on Sunday and stayed home on Monday to catch up on sleep, etc. I played it cool and said it's all good... didn't really give her shit even though i was kinda mad. She even venmo'd me the cost of the ticket which I didnt ask... she just found me and did it.
So this is where it starts to be different. I didn't talk with her again from Tues evening when she said she couldn't go to the concert until I eventually messaged her Thursday night. At this point I knew something was up... because at the very least I thought she would ask me about the concert. Is this needy? maybe. Honestly we were talking for a while so it didnt seem unnatural to think she would, but she didn't. I texted her Thursday evening asking her how shes doing with the jet lag. She responds over an hour later and says she just woke up from a nap so she definitely still feels jet lagged but getting a little better.
Now... She got back home on Sunday... and its now 4 days later. I'm not sure jet lag last that long. But whatever... I play it cool say sorry and then tell her I've been thinking about her and would like to see her soon. I also mention that concert was fun and that she was missed. Beta thing to do? Again, maybe, but it was a warm response.
She never responded to that.
So here it is Saturday and I'm really coming to terms with the fact that she is done with me. I plan on blasting her a text tomorrow seeing what's up and basically questioning why she has been distant and if she doesn't want to see me again that is cool but just tell me. Sign of neediness or lower self-esteem? Again maybe, but I've been talking with this girl for a month now total... and there was expectations to see each other when she was back... so honestly I don't care how it appears and I'm also gonna say it in a non-threatening way. So either she will respond or not. Either way I'll get my answer.
Text will be something like:
Keypoints:
Met girl 2 times before her trip to China for two weeks.
talked with her almost everyday she was there... just a few text exchanges while she was on WIFI before taking off for the day.
While she is there, I ask her to go to a concert with me. She agrees.
When she is back, she ends up bailing on the concert, blames it on jet lag, still tired.
Basically goes cold on me after this. I end up texting her a few days later and she initially responds then leaves me hanging when I say I wanna see her soon.
From the start, I didn't really care that I was coming off as boyfriend material... because I still move fast regardless and had her back at my place. Her period messed it up or we would have had sex. But instead it was just licking her clit, making out, licking her boobs, and her giving me a blowjob.
What do you guys think? Lost cause to send the confrontational text to basically see what's up or just let it go...
Personally, I will probably still send a text tomorrow.
And yeah... start meeting more girls
Thanks.
