So I’m new to the whole Girls Chase scene. I’ve started reading a few of the posts here and it’s a skill I’m interested in learning. Anyway, I met this girl on Tinder a little while ago and I’d like to post about my experience with here and get some feedback and advice on how things went with her.
So as I said, I met this girl on Tinder. After chatting for a few days, I met her out for drinks one night. The date went really well – we got chatting and flirting and got along great. There was strong chemistry between her and I – something which I’ve only had with a couple of girls in the past. So I dropped her home and kissed her for a few minutes in the car before she went in. She texted me that night and we exchanged a few messages – she said things like ‘hopefully I’ll get to see you soon
x’. So we were texting a lot after this date. After doing some reading here, I think I should’ve texted her a lot less than I did. I think this might have been partially attributable to the fact we were speaking online before this where we were messaging quite frequently and this simply carried over to the texts we were sending.
Anyway, I’d set up another date for a few days later. I picked her up and we went out for dinner and we had another great date. Same as last time, I dropped her home and we kissed in the car – it got a bit heavier this time but as she lives with her parents, it was difficult to take things any further. We kept texting after this date and I set up another date. She was working a lot and was saying things like ‘I’m sorry I don’t have much time off at the moment so don’t let that scare you away’.
So I set up the third date for dinner and drinks at my place for a few days later. She messaged me the day before saying she was feeling a bit unwell and might not be able to make it for our date but ‘hopefully I’m better tomorrow because I really want to hang out xxx’. She then gave me a pretty strong indication that she wouldn’t be able to make it to the date saying ‘don’t ditch me if I can’t do tomorrow xx’. The morning of the date she said ‘Hi gorgeous, is it ok if we reschedule? I’m really sorry. I’m free Thursday, Friday or Saturday x’. We rescheduled for Friday (Jan 3).
I’ll write the text message exchange from here because this is where things started to go downhill:
Her: ‘Friday is best How is your day going? x’
Me: Friday it is! Although I’d love to see you before then if possible. What are your plans tomorrow night?’.
**Tomorrow night was New Years Eve. And looking back on it, saying ‘I’d love to see you before then’ was a big mistake – coming across as needy etc. Anyway, things went on.**
Her: ‘Going out with my friends. Haha, it’s ok, you’ll see me Friday. What are you up to?’.
Me: ‘I’m probably going to a friend’s house for a BBQ but I might head out somewhere!’
Her: ‘Save your cash! New Years is overrated’.
**The next day (NYE) she sent me this message which was a bit strange.**
Her: ‘Hey, not sure if my Facebook message came through – I’m sorry for the awkward friend request but I must have clicked something and I had to re-friend you. Anyways, I hope you have a great New Years xx’.
**I didn’t speak to her until two days later (Thursday), the day before our rescheduled date I said:**
Me: ‘Hey babe, how was your New Years? How does a 6-7pm start suit for tomorrow? x’
**She didn’t reply for a long time and I needed to know what was going on so I could prepare for the date, so I said:**
Me: ‘You’re the worst texter back ever!’
**She still didn’t reply so at about midday on the day of the date (Friday) I called her and left a voicemail just checking what was going on and to see if everything was ok. She then replied by text almost straight away with:**
Her: ‘Hey, sorry. I’m at work so I couldn’t answer your call. I hope you had a great New Years! Mine was fun too. I’m so sorry but I can’t catch up tonight, I have something on. But I’ll see you soon xx’.
Me: ‘Hey, no worries. Have a good weekend x’.
**So I left things until Monday (today) and sent her a message just to test the water and see where things were at with her:**
Me: Hey *Name*, how was your weekend? Have you given your new camera a go yet? x’.
**She hasn’t replied and she’s obviously not going to so here I am**
So I’ve got a few questions and comments – I’d really appreciate it if some of you could take the time to respond.
The first two dates with this girl went really well and as you can see from some of the messages she sent, it seems as if she was pretty into me. I’ve got my own theories and suspicions as to what might have happened:
**The first is that I still live with my parents, which she knew. Although they were going to be out of the house when she would have been over for our date, I never told her that. I’m thinking she might have been freaked out because she thought she might have thought that she would have had to meet my parents etc. and that things were getting serious. If this was the case then I don’t know why she would be ignoring me now.
**She was using the dating application Tinder – that’s how we met – it’s possible that she met someone else on there and is no longer interested in me. It’s also possible – she went out on New Years – that she met someone else then.
**She broke up with her ex-boyfriend about five months ago – perhaps he’s back on the scene.
**I came across as too needy in the text messages and she became cold towards me as a result.
I’m keen to hear what some of you guys think might be the cause because this has bothered me a bit. I’m just curious as to how she could go from so keen to ignoring me. I’ve got other girls on the go at the moment so it’s not a massive deal, I’ve just never have a girl be so hot and cold with me before.
So I suppose my questions are:
1. What do you think made her become cold towards me and ignore me?
2. What mistakes did I make and where can I improve in future?
3. How do I play it with this girl from here? Do I leave it entirely or should I give it a few months and then reengage her to see if things have changed? I would like to give it another shot at some stage (even if it’s weeks or months later) – I figure I’ve got nothing to lose and possibly a lot to gain if I give it another shot.
JGS.
So as I said, I met this girl on Tinder. After chatting for a few days, I met her out for drinks one night. The date went really well – we got chatting and flirting and got along great. There was strong chemistry between her and I – something which I’ve only had with a couple of girls in the past. So I dropped her home and kissed her for a few minutes in the car before she went in. She texted me that night and we exchanged a few messages – she said things like ‘hopefully I’ll get to see you soon
x’. So we were texting a lot after this date. After doing some reading here, I think I should’ve texted her a lot less than I did. I think this might have been partially attributable to the fact we were speaking online before this where we were messaging quite frequently and this simply carried over to the texts we were sending. Anyway, I’d set up another date for a few days later. I picked her up and we went out for dinner and we had another great date. Same as last time, I dropped her home and we kissed in the car – it got a bit heavier this time but as she lives with her parents, it was difficult to take things any further. We kept texting after this date and I set up another date. She was working a lot and was saying things like ‘I’m sorry I don’t have much time off at the moment so don’t let that scare you away
’.So I set up the third date for dinner and drinks at my place for a few days later. She messaged me the day before saying she was feeling a bit unwell and might not be able to make it for our date but ‘hopefully I’m better tomorrow because I really want to hang out xxx’. She then gave me a pretty strong indication that she wouldn’t be able to make it to the date saying ‘don’t ditch me if I can’t do tomorrow
xx’. The morning of the date she said ‘Hi gorgeous, is it ok if we reschedule? I’m really sorry. I’m free Thursday, Friday or Saturday x’. We rescheduled for Friday (Jan 3). I’ll write the text message exchange from here because this is where things started to go downhill:
Her: ‘Friday is best
How is your day going? x’Me: Friday it is! Although I’d love to see you before then if possible. What are your plans tomorrow night?’.
**Tomorrow night was New Years Eve. And looking back on it, saying ‘I’d love to see you before then’ was a big mistake – coming across as needy etc. Anyway, things went on.**
Her: ‘Going out with my friends. Haha, it’s ok, you’ll see me Friday. What are you up to?’.
Me: ‘I’m probably going to a friend’s house for a BBQ but I might head out somewhere!’
Her: ‘Save your cash! New Years is overrated’.
**The next day (NYE) she sent me this message which was a bit strange.**
Her: ‘Hey, not sure if my Facebook message came through – I’m sorry for the awkward friend request but I must have clicked something and I had to re-friend you. Anyways, I hope you have a great New Years xx’.
**I didn’t speak to her until two days later (Thursday), the day before our rescheduled date I said:**
Me: ‘Hey babe, how was your New Years? How does a 6-7pm start suit for tomorrow? x’
**She didn’t reply for a long time and I needed to know what was going on so I could prepare for the date, so I said:**
Me: ‘You’re the worst texter back ever!’
**She still didn’t reply so at about midday on the day of the date (Friday) I called her and left a voicemail just checking what was going on and to see if everything was ok. She then replied by text almost straight away with:**
Her: ‘Hey, sorry. I’m at work so I couldn’t answer your call. I hope you had a great New Years! Mine was fun too. I’m so sorry but I can’t catch up tonight, I have something on. But I’ll see you soon xx’.
Me: ‘Hey, no worries. Have a good weekend x’.
**So I left things until Monday (today) and sent her a message just to test the water and see where things were at with her:**
Me: Hey *Name*, how was your weekend? Have you given your new camera a go yet? x’.
**She hasn’t replied and she’s obviously not going to so here I am**
So I’ve got a few questions and comments – I’d really appreciate it if some of you could take the time to respond.
The first two dates with this girl went really well and as you can see from some of the messages she sent, it seems as if she was pretty into me. I’ve got my own theories and suspicions as to what might have happened:
**The first is that I still live with my parents, which she knew. Although they were going to be out of the house when she would have been over for our date, I never told her that. I’m thinking she might have been freaked out because she thought she might have thought that she would have had to meet my parents etc. and that things were getting serious. If this was the case then I don’t know why she would be ignoring me now.
**She was using the dating application Tinder – that’s how we met – it’s possible that she met someone else on there and is no longer interested in me. It’s also possible – she went out on New Years – that she met someone else then.
**She broke up with her ex-boyfriend about five months ago – perhaps he’s back on the scene.
**I came across as too needy in the text messages and she became cold towards me as a result.
I’m keen to hear what some of you guys think might be the cause because this has bothered me a bit. I’m just curious as to how she could go from so keen to ignoring me. I’ve got other girls on the go at the moment so it’s not a massive deal, I’ve just never have a girl be so hot and cold with me before.
So I suppose my questions are:
1. What do you think made her become cold towards me and ignore me?
2. What mistakes did I make and where can I improve in future?
3. How do I play it with this girl from here? Do I leave it entirely or should I give it a few months and then reengage her to see if things have changed? I would like to give it another shot at some stage (even if it’s weeks or months later) – I figure I’ve got nothing to lose and possibly a lot to gain if I give it another shot.
JGS.
