So theres this beutiful girl I met who has a boyfriend... We started flirting via facebook and met, we hooked up 3 times in like 3 months even though she had a boyfriend... But one month ago she dumped her BF (blame me for that) and is now single, but ever since she broke up with her dude she been acting a little disinterested in me. Not picking up other calls, not texting me first and not replyin to other texts. I asked her about this nd she said she's busy with xul, a few days later I asked why she's being so distant with me and said she's recollecting some things in her life (meaning she needs to get some things together in her life, needs time/space alone) I told her okay, I'll give you yo space but if you need me just know am there and I like you a lot... Now I dont know what to do, I really like this girl a lot and would to make her my girlfriend. It seems like she's confused about me and her ex
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Should stay away from her for now if you don't wanna get hurt. The more you think about her, the more invested you are. I would move on even though it's hard, but it's the best thing you could do. Life is too short to wait for one girl.
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Yo!
If you think you're getting emotionally invested and want something other than hooking up with her, you're better off cutting contact. For good.
Think of it this way. You hooked up with her while she had a boyfriend. SO she cheated on her boyfriend. What's stopping her from doing the same thing to you? The next guy that comes around that has better game than you - or doesn't even have better game, she's just mad at your for one reason or another - she'll jump after him. It's gonna' be a lot of work to keep that from happening. A lot of mental energy wondering if you did something wrong or if you're not the perfect guy anymore. And even if you are improving, there's always a chance that you leave her behind in terms of development as a person and she breaks up with you anyway because "you aren't the same anymore". It's best if you leave this one be. Find another girl that you really like. There will be another one. If you try and date this girl, you're in for a world of trouble to be honest.
Jake.
If you think you're getting emotionally invested and want something other than hooking up with her, you're better off cutting contact. For good.
Think of it this way. You hooked up with her while she had a boyfriend. SO she cheated on her boyfriend. What's stopping her from doing the same thing to you? The next guy that comes around that has better game than you - or doesn't even have better game, she's just mad at your for one reason or another - she'll jump after him. It's gonna' be a lot of work to keep that from happening. A lot of mental energy wondering if you did something wrong or if you're not the perfect guy anymore. And even if you are improving, there's always a chance that you leave her behind in terms of development as a person and she breaks up with you anyway because "you aren't the same anymore". It's best if you leave this one be. Find another girl that you really like. There will be another one. If you try and date this girl, you're in for a world of trouble to be honest.
Jake.
I dont understand why she's avoiding me. I mean what did I do wrong. Is it an attainability problem? The sex was good, am not horrible at sex so why is she avoiding me? Does she think am not relationship material or what? I just dont understand this.
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Cassy did you even read the replies? You sort of got it right with it being an attainability problem. Just that the problem is you are too available! No woman wants a man who is needy and doesn't have options. The further you press the worse it gets. Read Chase's article on passion trap!