Girl insults guy on FB?

[PinotNoir]

Recently, my friend (not close, but more than acquaintance) moved to a new city and bought a new car: a bug (Volkswagen beetle).

Personally, I don't have any problems with the car. He posted a pic on facebook, and a girl ended up commenting to the effect of, "Wow only little girls drive that."

She attacked his car and his masculinity.

Given that I'm separated from the situation (outside perspective), I think I probably would have just said, "Well, guess you're not my type of girl "

But, he ended up taking the more defensive route and argued back and forth with her. Lots of effort and makes him look even worst.

I felt kind of bad for him, so decided to just leave a simple comment to try and help him out (avoiding the argument), "dude, nice. love the new car can't wait to see it."

So, I'm curious how you guys would have handled this situation? How do you handle a girl insulting you on social media or in public? I assume just law of least effort and just see her as a silly girl and probably ignore it.

 

[Gentle_Phrases]

So, I'm curious how you guys would have handled this situation? How do you handle a girl insulting you on social media or in public? I assume just law of least effort and just see her as a silly girl and probably ignore it.

Agree and amplify.

Her: "Wow only little girls drive that."

Me: "watch out, we got a bad ass here." / "Good thing I'm a little princess." / "I keep candy in the backseat." / "Certified chick magnet." / "Don't be so gender-typical." / "Patriarchy?" / "Like the color." / "Im fashion forward." / "said no one ever."

Or maybe take the lazy man's route: "Jealous." / "Kewl." / "zinger."

Shame on your friend though. That car has awful blindspots.

 

[Franco]

Pinot,

It really depends on your friend's "social media persona" (as you generally have an identity to the way you respond to things on there, so responding in a way that isn't congruent with your persona -- or even your in-person persona -- will not come across as real).

If your friend doesn't want to deal with those types of posts, one option is to just delete the comment, which he should be able to do if it's his post. If it were me, I probably would have just replied with something sly such as, "well, all the girls who've taken a ride with me haven't seemed to complain! "

This is relatively similar to your response in that you don't really care, but I also give off the impression that it hasn't affected the women that I actually desire. You'll likely provoke another response from her by saying this, and at that point, you usually just ignore the second response.

Getting into an argument over it is probably the worst thing you can do. Not only are you caught defending your masculinity to a woman (which in it of itself defies the Law of Least Effort), but you're spending way too much time on Facebook having this argument with the girl which ultimately shows that not only do you CARE about her opinion, but you also are actively checking Facebook to reply (which means you have nothing more important to do -- and there are A LOT of more important things to do then argue with a girl who is trying to lower your status on Facebook).

The thing about Facebook is that you should never appear flustered by anything women say, especially when it's an attempt to attack your masculinity. Strong men don't feel the need to defend themselves; it's a waste of their time when they have bigger fish to fry!

- Franco

 

[Estate]

Recently, my friend (not close, but more than acquaintance) moved to a new city and bought a new car: a bug (Volkswagen beetle).

Personally, I don't have any problems with the car. He posted a pic on facebook, and a girl ended up commenting to the effect of, "Wow only little girls drive that."

She attacked his car and his masculinity.

Given that I'm separated from the situation (outside perspective), I think I probably would have just said, "Well, guess you're not my type of girl "

But, he ended up taking the more defensive route and argued back and forth with her. Lots of effort and makes him look even worst.

I felt kind of bad for him, so decided to just leave a simple comment to try and help him out (avoiding the argument), "dude, nice. love the new car can't wait to see it."

So, I'm curious how you guys would have handled this situation? How do you handle a girl insulting you on social media or in public? I assume just law of least effort and just see her as a silly girl and probably ignore it.

Assuming this is just a female friend I would put it in the category of banter.
I think you're way overplaying it.

 

[Eternity]

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[trashKENNUT]

PinotNoir,

Chase once noted this in one of his article, on ugly and fat girls. I know this for a fact that even if she is your girl friend, this also exist,that is if she's ugly or unattractive. If she's attractive, it can also be banter (as what Estate noted), but your friend can probably delete her uncalibrated comment.

Generally, Women can have crazy moments, just as much as fanboys on a girl group, as like PussyCat Dolls or Destiny's Child.

Zac

 

[Anonymous]

Agree and amplify. Let her know (and everyone who reads the status) that her comment isn't a big deal for you. Because he went on the defensive tour everyone will think he is insecure.

 

[PinotNoir]

Cool, thanks for all of the replies. I was just curious what everyone's thoughts were. "facebook persona" is something I hadn't thought about, but is very true.

Any thoughts on how to help someone like that? Private message them? I usually just sit back, drink some coffee, and watch the shitstorm, and use it as a lesson for myself.