Girl not interested in starting a relationship I think I messed up

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Ive been going out with a girl. due to my car breaking down on our way to a coffee shop had to reschedule. Got laid on the 2nd date and 3rd date.

After the 3rd date she dindnt reply to my text until the following day.

Her "I wouldnt mind going out again but to be honest im not in the position to be in a relationship right now and it seems like you may be interested in that"

Me "Im not interested in starting a relationship either just got out of a relationship 2 months ago. And just started seeing someone but its not serious. I just enjoy your company."

Her "Ah okay I see"

For some reason i added that i had just started seeing someone else. Which is true but not sure why I added that. Im planning on not texting her again for 3 or 6 weeks. Just to let it cool down

What are the odds she will answer my next text if she doesnt text me first. We really clicked should i just cut my losses and continue with the new girl and keep looking for more? And should I wait 3 or 6 weeks to text her again any recommendations

 

[Seppuku]

Her "I wouldnt mind going out again but to be honest im not in the position to be in a relationship right now and it seems like you may be interested in that"

Would be interesting to know what exactly you did or communicated (unwillingly) to her so that she got the impression you wanted a relationship. Check what you did, in your behavior, text exchanges, etc... that could have conveyed this message. It is important you know what caused this, because otherwise you'll continue to do the same with other girls and run into the same problem.

Just to be clear, even if you want a relationship with a girl, it is never in your interest to push for one. If she likes you, she will be the one bringing the relationship in sooner or later. If you're the one pushing for it (or appearing so), it is perceived as coming from weakness. Guys are not expected to do this, girls are.

Me "Im not interested in starting a relationship either just got out of a relationship 2 months ago. And just started seeing someone but its not serious. I just enjoy your company."

Well yeah, like you noted, it's not a bright idea to say you're seeing someone else. Much better to imply it, than to state it. If you state it, you are immediately triggering her rationalization. In her mind she will make it official that this is a dead end.

Im planning on not texting her again for 3 or 6 weeks. Just to let it cool down

The full silence works sometimes. Especially if she was expecting you to be chasing her ass like all the other lame guys. It's the best strategy to use in my opinion for a situation that looks 90pct lost.

If she ultimately breaks the silence, don't jump at her like crazy, that would be so incongruent. In fact, I used the full silence technique recently with a girl with which case seemed lost. Taken from my journal:

Her (out of the blue after 3 weeks): hey. Did I offend you?
Me: Hello. Not at all. How are you?
Her: Oooooh. Am good and you?
Me: Very good here. (little blah blah). I’m not upset or offended. Little surprised that you raised this.
Me: Are you offended or upset maybe?
Her: Not really. Just got shocked that you never said word since that night out. And I thought maybe I offended you.
Me: I don’t agree. You didn’t say word either.
Her: mmm. Ok.

Convo stopped for today. I *did not* jump at the chance to set up another date. Instead, I broke the silence the next day late afternoon:

Me: Are you back home from work?
Her: Yea.
Me: You said you were shocked and not really offended. Are we cool?
Her: Yes
Me: Ok good. This is behind then.
Her: Yea
Me: I’m thinking of having dinner out tonight. Do you have plans?
Her: Got no pans yet.
Me: Let’s make plans then. Can you be ready for 7pm?

And then I got her on another date.

To answer your question, wait 6 weeks. Hopefully she breaks the silence first, like above. If not, after 6 weeks you send a ping text to test the mood. If it seems receptive, you proceed like if it's a new beginning. Else, try again after 6 months. Don't wait all this time to see other girls, though!

I hope this helps!
Cheers,
Seppuku

 

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She broke the silence yesterday and we meet up at my place and she didn't mind I was seeing someone else. She missed my company and rough sex.

 

[Seppuku]

Wow great news!

Congratulations... And it's the proof once again that silence works. When I tried it (my latest LR), the girl came back after three weeks - same as you!

Also one of my girlfriends who left me, completely infuriated, early November, came back to me very gentle and submissive this week, and spent the night with me. Same story, instead of chasing her ass and going out of my mind like she expected me to do, I just put her on strict silence.

These are the sort of things you can afford if you have strict abundance mentality.

Another fun thing is when you had 50 girls in bed, there is always one of them popping back on your phone. Constantly. So you are constantly busy with the new prospects, the recurring girls, and the old ones.

Lots of fun.

Cheers man!
Seppuku