If you ask them what they're doing she may think you are of lower value and possibly feel you're chasing her.NarrowJ said:Ask them what they're doing, and then you can seed into the convo what you're doing very easily, and it doesn't seem unprompted because I asked her first.
Even if she wants you to come along she may have the fear of rejection stopping her to invite you and as well wouldn't want to seem too easy to get. That's a reputation risk for her if you say no.
She'll feel more comfortable if you lead. Use the path of least resistance.
If you lead her, she will change her plans for you and without you even knowing about it. (She might say she's just going to make a phone call)NarrowJ said:Ask them what they're doing....it gives you some idea of whether they've got "hard" plans or not.
However if you get her to lead you might force her to mention those "hard plans" and she'll feel obligated to keep them as planned to avoid contradicting herself.