Girl paying for me?

[Pato]

Hey guys,

So I have a school dance coming up, one where all the girls are asking the guys (Turnabout). I've been texting a bit with my date, and I told her that I didn't need a group shirt because I'm broke. The thing's gonna cost $20-30 bucks, and it's really just a long sleeve shirt with some school logo/design and I think her first or last name. I can buy a lot with $30, and I'm not gonna spend it on something I won't wear at all. I'm not broke at all, but I just listed a bunch of stuff I'm spending on so I don't have to pay and get a shirt. Thing is, she then offers to pay for me. Now I don't really want it at all, but I figured she offered and must really be digging me, so I told her it would be great if she did, but if she doesn't want to it would be okay too. She basically agreed to pay for me after this.

So should I have her pay for me? She's also buying the tickets, but all the girls pay for the tickets and everything else is paid by everyone. I mean I don't want to tell her straight up that I don't want a shirt as I don't want to hurt her feelings (nice guy Pato stepping in), but I don't want to pay for one at all. So is met having her pay for something I don't really want (new and improved slightly asshole-ish Pato kicking nice guy Pato in the groin) a bad idea? I figured the investment I'm getting from her would pay off really nicely, and that as long as I keep things sexual and moving forward, I should be fine. I thought I read somewhere that if a girl offers to pay for something, that you should accept instead of declining and paying for it yourself. But maybe that was just for her half of dinner or some shit? Any ideas on how to handle this?

-Pato

 

[Thedoctor]

I thought I read somewhere that if a girl offers to pay for something, that you should accept instead of declining and paying for it yourself. But maybe that was just for her half of dinner or some shit?

Pato,

Here's the article Chase wrote about this exact issue:

https://www.girlschase.com/content/should-you-pay-date

So yeah, if she offers to pay, just let her.

-John

 

[trashKENNUT]

Pato,

I noted that Chase said to accept gifts or things that people give. and i found out that a girl will feel pissed and offended when you turn them down. I'm still figuring out ways to manage this.

Zac

 

[Pato]

Casanova,

When you turn down her offer to invest you subtly slot yourself into the provider role .....aaand besides you can *pay* her back at the end of the night

Exactly what I was thinking, oh and I'll definitely pay her back at the after party

John,

Here's the article Chase wrote about this exact issue:

https://www.girlschase.com/content/should-you-pay-date

So yeah, if she offers to pay, just let her.

Thanks for the link. I think I needed some brushing up on this topic anyways. I am just gonna let her pay because she offered.

Zac,

I noted that Chase said to accept gifts or things that people give. and i found out that a girl will feel pissed and offended when you turn them down.

That's partially why I didn't turn her down, I didn't want to get her mad or offend her, so I'm glad that you've been seeing the same things.

Thanks a lot all of you.