Hi everyone,
I always struggle with telling if a girl is hard to get or not interested? Mainly because a lot of these girls are high-end and higher status that me...
Anyway, I have a problem with a girl and I would love to get some advice/feedback from some of you guys on here.
About 2 years ago I met a girl at a party through a mutual friend. The girl lives in another city not far from me. Immediately I was attracted to her but I was already dating a very gorgeous girl at the time so I did not do anything with this other girl. When my relationship broke up a few weeks later I added this other girl on facebook. From her profile it was obvious that this girl was high-end looks-wise, she does some modelling. From time to time we would chat on fb but nothing special. She was showing some resistance. But our mutual friend, a gay guy that is her bf, told me that she was single and I should contact her. But whenever I did contact her on fb I always seemed to get resistance, either she was short, going through the motions or did not respond. This girl is a real looker, but I am higher social status than her but have confidence problems with girls that are extremely pretty and act hard to get on top of that. Normally I would leave it at that, but this girl is extremely cute and I also like a challenge.
Last summer I decided to contact her and asked to her to show me around her city, she accepted (surprisingly) and we met up and had a great time, there was lots flirting, lots of deep diving, etc. I got her number and we agreed to meet up soon when I would show her around my city. However, a few days after we had met in her city she went travelling for a month. When she got back I got in contact with her and asked her to come visit me but she did not respond. I messaged her another once in the next few weeks but again no response, so I forgot about her and left it at that.
Then in January I contacted her and asked her on a date, but she politely refused, explaining that she had just recently starting seeing someone and thought it might be awkard for him. So I thanked her for being honest and left it at that. 3 months passed and I bumped into out mutual friend who told me, when I asked, that the girl was now just recently single. I told him I liked her and wanted to take her on a few dates to see if something could happen and planned to ask her out in a few weeks time. I explicitly told him not to tell her, knowing full well that he would.
So anyway, the girl contacts me about a week later asking me for a favour for her work. I sorted out the favour for her and she said that she owed me some drinks and would come visit me. So a few weeks passed during which we had arranged to meet up only for her to cancel at the last minute - twice! Now I was thinking this girl is a time waster. I smsed her and pretty much told her, in diplomatic terms, to shit or get off the pot. She promised to meet up with me on a date 2 weeks from then, some 3 weeks ago. But because she had left me hanging the other times I did not take it seriously and did not contact her at all. When the day came that she had said to meet, she smsed and asked whether we were still meeting. So I met with her and things went really well again, flirting, deep diving, etc. We went for dinner and had a few drinks, max 2.30 hours. I showed her a nice bar that she liked, there was bit of touching but there was no kissing, etc. Knowing that this girl can be difficult, at the end of the date I said that "maybe I'll get a second date" in a nice, joking fashion, to which she really smiled as she got on the train.
Later that evening I smsed her (about an hour or two after the date) and said "hey, i had a really fun time earlier and would really like to do it again sometime soon x, etc". I did not deliberately ask her "when or where" because I'm 50/50 whether this girl is interested at all and wanted to gauge her reaction before proceeding. But she did not text back, and when I messaging her fb chat the next day she did not reply either. That was 4-5 days ago and I have not received any contact from her at all, not even an acknowledgement that we met up.
This girl is really annoying me, I like her and we meet up we have a really good time, conversation flows and we talk about all different types of stuff. I made her laugh, and flirt quite a bit. But when it comes to the crunch she does not seem that interested in pursuing matters. Normally I would have given up on this girl a long time ago but I have heard that she is really hard to get.
Any advice guys? Because I really do not want to initiate contact again after her not replying after the date. During the past month I have been seeing quite a lot of other girls and have more dates later this week, but I want this one (as a gf) because a/ I like her and b/ it would be a considerable achievement to get her.
Any help, guidance, etc would be greatly appreciately?? I appreciate that a lot of you guys will say not to waste any more energy on this one...
Cheers, and sorry for the essay!
Brian
I always struggle with telling if a girl is hard to get or not interested? Mainly because a lot of these girls are high-end and higher status that me...
Anyway, I have a problem with a girl and I would love to get some advice/feedback from some of you guys on here.
About 2 years ago I met a girl at a party through a mutual friend. The girl lives in another city not far from me. Immediately I was attracted to her but I was already dating a very gorgeous girl at the time so I did not do anything with this other girl. When my relationship broke up a few weeks later I added this other girl on facebook. From her profile it was obvious that this girl was high-end looks-wise, she does some modelling. From time to time we would chat on fb but nothing special. She was showing some resistance. But our mutual friend, a gay guy that is her bf, told me that she was single and I should contact her. But whenever I did contact her on fb I always seemed to get resistance, either she was short, going through the motions or did not respond. This girl is a real looker, but I am higher social status than her but have confidence problems with girls that are extremely pretty and act hard to get on top of that. Normally I would leave it at that, but this girl is extremely cute and I also like a challenge.
Last summer I decided to contact her and asked to her to show me around her city, she accepted (surprisingly) and we met up and had a great time, there was lots flirting, lots of deep diving, etc. I got her number and we agreed to meet up soon when I would show her around my city. However, a few days after we had met in her city she went travelling for a month. When she got back I got in contact with her and asked her to come visit me but she did not respond. I messaged her another once in the next few weeks but again no response, so I forgot about her and left it at that.
Then in January I contacted her and asked her on a date, but she politely refused, explaining that she had just recently starting seeing someone and thought it might be awkard for him. So I thanked her for being honest and left it at that. 3 months passed and I bumped into out mutual friend who told me, when I asked, that the girl was now just recently single. I told him I liked her and wanted to take her on a few dates to see if something could happen and planned to ask her out in a few weeks time. I explicitly told him not to tell her, knowing full well that he would.
So anyway, the girl contacts me about a week later asking me for a favour for her work. I sorted out the favour for her and she said that she owed me some drinks and would come visit me. So a few weeks passed during which we had arranged to meet up only for her to cancel at the last minute - twice! Now I was thinking this girl is a time waster. I smsed her and pretty much told her, in diplomatic terms, to shit or get off the pot. She promised to meet up with me on a date 2 weeks from then, some 3 weeks ago. But because she had left me hanging the other times I did not take it seriously and did not contact her at all. When the day came that she had said to meet, she smsed and asked whether we were still meeting. So I met with her and things went really well again, flirting, deep diving, etc. We went for dinner and had a few drinks, max 2.30 hours. I showed her a nice bar that she liked, there was bit of touching but there was no kissing, etc. Knowing that this girl can be difficult, at the end of the date I said that "maybe I'll get a second date" in a nice, joking fashion, to which she really smiled as she got on the train.
Later that evening I smsed her (about an hour or two after the date) and said "hey, i had a really fun time earlier and would really like to do it again sometime soon x, etc". I did not deliberately ask her "when or where" because I'm 50/50 whether this girl is interested at all and wanted to gauge her reaction before proceeding. But she did not text back, and when I messaging her fb chat the next day she did not reply either. That was 4-5 days ago and I have not received any contact from her at all, not even an acknowledgement that we met up.
This girl is really annoying me, I like her and we meet up we have a really good time, conversation flows and we talk about all different types of stuff. I made her laugh, and flirt quite a bit. But when it comes to the crunch she does not seem that interested in pursuing matters. Normally I would have given up on this girl a long time ago but I have heard that she is really hard to get.
Any advice guys? Because I really do not want to initiate contact again after her not replying after the date. During the past month I have been seeing quite a lot of other girls and have more dates later this week, but I want this one (as a gf) because a/ I like her and b/ it would be a considerable achievement to get her.
Any help, guidance, etc would be greatly appreciately?? I appreciate that a lot of you guys will say not to waste any more energy on this one...
Cheers, and sorry for the essay!
Brian
