girl responds back a week later, totally clueless in how to respond...

[killerman]

Right there's this girl i met while out doing daygame nearly a month ago. got her number, she knows i'm not from her city so she can't see me that much. i texted her i'd be back the following week and we could grab a drink then but when i texted her the next week to set up a date she didn't respond. instead she texted me 4, 5 days later saying " hi sorry i'm working this week was so busy.. :-( sorry are you here?" (she says she works in fast food and that shifts are a nightmare so maybe it's a valid excuse, i don't know) i then texted her 30 mins later (i know, MASSIVE rookie mistake) asking if she was around the next day to which she didn't reply. i tried another time to get her out by texting her a few days later and again she didnt reply. didn't text her again. then she texted me 9 days later (2 days ago) saying "Hiii so sorry I was really busy studying and working...How are you? How was your weekend?" to which I said i'm down again for the weekend and asked her what she's studying. didn't bother asking her out again as that failed twice and thought i'd try something different instead trying to get her to chase me instead for the meet. still i've had no reply. i'm totally clueless as to what to do. what does it all mean? how do i get her out? the fact that she still texts me and remembers me even though we havent met after nearly a month is a good thing so what do i do now?

 

[Anonymous]

What radeng said.

If she likes you, she'll respond much faster than that. In fact, she sometimes might even text you first. It really depends on how well you set up the dynamic between the two of you. Clearly, she didn't feel the same way. Don't let it get to you. Just learn from this, and move on.

 

[killerman]

Yeah I know that the best thing is not get hung up on it and that going out and getting 5 new numbers is the healthy option, and that's cool, you should be doing that anyway whether you're seeing 0 girls or 50, and these days i'm probably meeting and fucking more girls than ever before. got 5 new numbers on friday, and ive got 3 dates set up for next few days, plus 2 other girls who want to see me and another 2 girls im currently dating so i dont get hung up on any girls as i have plenty of options but still, i LOVE a challenge and there has to be a way i can get that girl out. and once i do it's a win situation for me because it's another hot girl i'm seeing (she's a sexy latina from ecuador with a bangin ass). the fact that she still texts me after nearly a month indicates to me she must have some interest (unless she's only out for attention). maybe i should take longer to reply to her than she replies to me?

 

[confusedguy]

Yeah I know that the best thing is not get hung up on it and that going out and getting 5 new numbers is the healthy option, and that's cool, you should be doing that anyway whether you're seeing 0 girls or 50, and these days i'm probably meeting and fucking more girls than ever before. got 5 new numbers on friday, and ive got 3 dates set up for next few days, plus 2 other girls who want to see me and another 2 girls im currently dating so i dont get hung up on any girls as i have plenty of options but still, i LOVE a challenge and there has to be a way i can get that girl out. and once i do it's a win situation for me because it's another hot girl i'm seeing (she's a sexy latina from ecuador with a bangin ass). the fact that she still texts me after nearly a month indicates to me she must have some interest (unless she's only out for attention). maybe i should take longer to reply to her than she replies to me?

I didn't think a guy could multi-date unless he was making 6 figures

 

[Big Daddy]

Just ask her on a date and then don't order anything for yourself (or bottled water if you feel really weird not ordering something), I do this shit all the time. Even if it's just a coffee, it stacks up over time...

And I never pay for a girl.

Clubs and bars are the only thing that are really out of question with my tiny budget.

 

[killerman]

Ok awesome radeng, thanks for the help, will try it out and report back what happens, cheers! confusedguy, I just keep it as cheap as possible, mostly just drinks and don't bother making expensive dates except once in a while or when I fuck up, so really it isn't that expensive also i count dates occasions when the girl comes over to my house and we have fun there and don't spend any money so just because i'm on a "date" doesn't mean i'm out spending money, we're just meeting up

 

[killerman]

Also radeng, when's it best to send that text? after you've tried to get them out 2 or 3 times or after one failed attempt?

 

[confusedguy]

Just ask her on a date and then don't order anything for yourself (or bottled water if you feel really weird not ordering something), I do this shit all the time. Even if it's just a coffee, it stacks up over time...

And I never pay for a girl.

Clubs and bars are the only thing that are really out of question with my tiny budget.

What do you mean you never pay for a girl?

 

[Big Daddy]

This: Field Report where I didn't pay for her but managed to get her back to her place never-the-less

We met for coffee and I didn't get anything and she paid for herself and right after I just assumed we'd split the beers. I might have paid if I wasn't a broke ass student though - it's just that I won't buy shit for random bitches when I can't even do it for myself.

You might want to read this article as well: Should You Pay for a Date?

 

[killerman]

got this situation i've run into now where i recently texted a girl who i had sex with 7 months ago but blew me off shortly afterwards, maybe because she saw me try to pick and look at other girls. Anyway, recently i sent her a text to which she replied and said she'd gone away and lost her phone and that's why she never contacted me. then she sent me another text saying how she'd love to meet up over christmas. i asked her when she was free then she didnt reply. then i texted her 2 days later with the text you asked me to send. no reply. then a week later she sent me a text saying "how are you". i replied saying yeah ok and how was your christmas but still no reply. what shall i do now? the thing is if she wasnt interested how come she said we should meet up over christmas and also how come she texted me a week later? surely there must be some kind of interest? if so, what do i do?