Girl sends me 3 Idiots meme... am I an idiot?

[ThePhoenix]

Six weeks ago I approached a law student shopping in a discount big box store. Approach went so-so, closed with her agreeing to coffee, but then she was totally unresponsive on SMS and I wrote her off. For details see:

[FR] Lawyer chick wanted me to pay for her number

Thursday evening, now weeks later, I figure, as a Hail Mary, to send her a very low investment ping this time on WhatsApp—which I had not used with her up until now:

lawyer girl!

Interestingly, she answers in one minute, and this unfolds over 14 minutes:

Hello

Hey, how's classes? Ready to sue everyone yet?

<she sends emojis>
Sorry who is this

Just how many cute strangers trying to solve world peace did you meet in SaveMart???

That last line, I have in past used similar to great effect—albeit with callback humor which had involved more substantial banter on the approach. This time, well:

She sends a picture of this guy, background cut out, and plain text "toh!" at the bottom. Google image search tells me this is "Rancho" from 3 Idiots. Of course, never seen it, I barely see anything.

Perhaps someone can tell me just what I'm supposed to be thinking at this particular moment in time.

Or is this what I get for trying to stick my dick in creatures much younger than myself? (Kidding; I'm sure I can, I've done it before. I'm young for my age.)

I still don't know how to spell the creature's name, so I go with:

So, I think Phoenix is pretty easy to spell, but I'm a bit confused how to spell... is it Zauna?

No answer. (It went to her device, but she's got the blue ticks turned off.)

On text I tried to bust this girl's balls more than I typically have in recent times, because she struck me as a somewhat cocky chick and had given me a much more blatant frame game shit test during the approach than I'd usually ever encounter. I'm not totally sure if this was right, but that was my thinking.

I had initially figured the girl was willfully ignoring me on SMS, which is partly why I didn't bother to try WhatsApp sooner. I'd hate to think that had I gone with WhatsApp right away she would've responded, while I was fresher in her mind. Because perhaps she just systematically ignores or doesn't get SMS and it had nothing to do with me. The more pessimistic interpretation is that she only answered WhatsApp because she didn't know who it was. But all women love me, so I shouldn't be thinking that!

Any ideas what to do now? Worth bothering with?

 

[Will_V]

Six weeks ago I approached a law student shopping in a discount big box store. Approach went so-so, closed with her agreeing to coffee, but then she was totally unresponsive on SMS and I wrote her off. For details see:

[FR] Lawyer chick wanted me to pay for her number

Thursday evening, now weeks later, I figure, as a Hail Mary, to send her a very low investment ping this time on WhatsApp—which I had not used with her up until now:

lawyer girl!

Interestingly, she answers in one minute, and this unfolds over 14 minutes:

Hello

Hey, how's classes? Ready to sue everyone yet?


Sorry who is this

Just how many cute strangers trying to solve world peace did you meet in SaveMart???

That last line, I have in past used similar to great effect—albeit with callback humor which had involved more substantial banter on the approach. This time, well:

She sends a picture of this guy, background cut out, and plain text "toh!" at the bottom. Google image search tells me this is "Rancho" from 3 Idiots. Of course, never seen it, I barely see anything.

Perhaps someone can tell me just what I'm supposed to be thinking at this particular moment in time.

Or is this what I get for trying to stick my dick in creatures much younger than myself? (Kidding; I'm sure I can, I've done it before. I'm young for my age.)

I still don't know how to spell the creature's name, so I go with:

So, I think Phoenix is pretty easy to spell, but I'm a bit confused how to spell... is it Zauna?

No answer. (It went to her device, but she's got the blue ticks turned off.)

On text I tried to bust this girl's balls more than I typically have in recent times, because she struck me as a somewhat cocky chick and had given me a much more blatant frame game shit test during the approach than I'd usually ever encounter. I'm not totally sure if this was right, but that was my thinking.

I had initially figured the girl was willfully ignoring me on SMS, which is partly why I didn't bother to try WhatsApp sooner. I'd hate to think that had I gone with WhatsApp right away she would've responded, while I was fresher in her mind. Because perhaps she just systematically ignores or doesn't get SMS and it had nothing to do with me. The more pessimistic interpretation is that she only answered WhatsApp because she didn't know who it was. But all women love me, so I shouldn't be thinking that!

Any ideas what to do now? Worth bothering with?

Frankly I don't think she's interested. And she seems like a pretty uptight chick. I'd move on.

 

[ThePhoenix]

For completeness I probably should have made the formatting more clear... that row of four emojis was her doing, not mine. Not something I'd do!

Frankly I don't think she's interested. And she seems like a pretty uptight chick. I'd move on.

You're probably right.

Alas she's the hottest chick I closed that day. The second-hottest gave clear interest but went to Kenya two days later and came back with a surprise 8 year old who is making the logistics/strategy tricky. Two others who weren't nearly as attractive were total ghosts. One decent one just agreed to meet in a couple days after initially dodging proposed dates. Good thing I talked to 11 girls that day!

 

[AspiringStoic]

Bottom line is "it takes two to tango". And even in seduction, you need the other person to be at least responding in some way to be able to make it go somewhere.

If a girl does not answer multiple texts, there is scant chance anything is going to happen.

I just think in life, what we think about and focus on matters a lot. It determines what actions we take and who we end up becoming.

First of all, you have done an amazing job to go out and do 11 approaches on that day. But that was weeks ago.

Now you can either worry about and concentrate on doing another 11 approaches today and then doing it again and again and again regularly.

Or you can put energy and attention into how to get a girl that has completely ignored your texts to reply.

The first option is more under your control, its empowering and will ultimately lead to you developing a rare skillset, getting girls on dates and becoming abundant.

The second option is less under your control, its disempowering and takes time and energy away from the first option.

 

[Atlas IV]

Bottom line is "it takes two to tango". And even in seduction, you need the other person to be at least responding in some way to be able to make it go somewhere.

If a girl does not answer multiple texts, there is scant chance anything is going to happen.

I just think in life, what we think about and focus on matters a lot. It determines what actions we take and who we end up becoming.

First of all, you have done an amazing job to go out and do 11 approaches on that day. But that was weeks ago.

Now you can either worry about and concentrate on doing another 11 approaches today and then doing it again and again and again regularly.

Or you can put energy and attention into how to get a girl that has completely ignored your texts to reply.

The first option is more under your control, its empowering and will ultimately lead to you developing a rare skillset, getting girls on dates and becoming abundant.

The second option is less under your control, its disempowering and takes time and energy away from the first option.

Excellent response.

 

[James D]

Of course, never seen it, I barely see anything.

It's one of the best movies out there and top notch as far as Bollywood goes. Give it a watch g.

 

[ThePhoenix]

Bottom line is "it takes two to tango". And even in seduction, you need the other person to be at least responding in some way to be able to make it go somewhere.

If a girl does not answer multiple texts, there is scant chance anything is going to happen.

I just think in life, what we think about and focus on matters a lot. It determines what actions we take and who we end up becoming.

First of all, you have done an amazing job to go out and do 11 approaches on that day. But that was weeks ago.

Now you can either worry about and concentrate on doing another 11 approaches today and then doing it again and again and again regularly.

Or you can put energy and attention into how to get a girl that has completely ignored your texts to reply.

The first option is more under your control, its empowering and will ultimately lead to you developing a rare skillset, getting girls on dates and becoming abundant.

The second option is less under your control, its disempowering and takes time and energy away from the first option.

Yes, absolutely, I do look at it this way. That's why I didn't even bother to write the FR (even if maybe I should have, to correct future approaches) until I did get some response from her. I did do another approach mission after this one which generated a couple more leads, and I've also done a number of incidental approaches in the meantime, though unfortunately none of those closed (on some I didn't bother to try).

At once I don't want to give up on a given girl too easily, because what's the use of doing 1000 approaches and giving up on every one of them? Well, ok, even after 100 you're going to run into a few that put up zero resistance, but you know what I mean. I'm pretty sure I've dropped chicks that I could've had with a slight bit more effort. In some cases I've not bothered to try closing a girl who actually had been compliant, only because in my head I had done a bad job and got self-conscious.

In this particular case I had to somewhat wonder if maybe the girl just doesn't look at SMS... I know I get a fair amount of garbage in there and I've even had a girl I approached (that same day) say she barely responds to text, do I have Snapchat? (That one did still give me her # when I didn't have Snap, only, just as she warned, she didn't respond to SMS. )

Certainly the chick being a bit lukewarm on the approach and giving a shit test I didn't handle ideally does gravitate towards the interpretation that she just isn't biting. TBH when I sent the first WhatsApp it was just a quick craps shot which I expected wasn't going to get a reply but sent out because, what the hell, it takes 20 seconds. When I did get a reply I was a bit surprised and thought, "oh, ok, maybe I should see if I can get this one after all."

No big deal if I can't, but next time I will put less thought into strange/unhelpful messaging replies, being that the real error was most likely much earlier anyway.