Girl talking about herself too much

[Duff]

Hi guys

I know its a good thing to get girl talking about herself and make her the topic of the conversation, but what do u make of her not being curious about you but just talking about herself?

It happend with me even with a girl where we both liked eachother a lot, and when we finally talked she just kept going on for so long, I was kinda bored and lost, is it just inexperience of girls, since I am 20 still, or is it even a good sign?

 

[rockstar]

well, what’s your goal? if you want to fuck her then you don’t need to talk about yourself much (though you should probably share a good story or two to paint a little bit of a picture of yourself).

you could point it out if you want. if the girl really likes you she’ll make an effort to ask you more questions

some young girls are just really self-focused. if you don’t like that, the best option might be to just filter them out.

 

[Duff]

well, what’s your goal? if you want to fuck her then you don’t need to talk about yourself much (though you should probably share a good story or two to paint a little bit of a picture of yourself).

you could point it out if you want. if the girl really likes you she’ll make an effort to ask you more questions

some young girls are just really self-focused. if you don’t like that, the best option might be to just filter them out.

I got you, I should myb point it out, though I dont think there is need I just get a bad feelign when she doesnt get the sense herself to ask about you anyways, and just keep talking about herself, though I also think I may be reading this all wrong and it could be a good sign and not a bad one so I want to hear other people thoughts

 

[TwoNameGame]

I just get a bad feelign when she doesnt get the sense herself to ask about you anyways

People feel closer to those who they open to.

I recall a field report where a seducer got a chick on deep dive to talk about herself for 5 minutes. When he asked her if she wanted to know anything about him, she replied something like, "I feel like I already know you so well."

Investment, comfort, potential arousal. Just keep it productive.

 

[KJ Francis]

Yes Chase cited a study that people feel connected when they feel understood, not when they understand you. It increases comfort and trust in moving with you through the logistical plan to isolation.

By framing yourself as a lover (sexual prizing) she will be assessing your short term mate value (good genes) and less so your long term mate value (stability). So things like your passions in life can signal good gene traits and turn her on, but you can stay lay her without her knowing your name or much about you by stimulating the reptilian level of her brain and the deeper anatomy a few feet lower.

That said, though it's hopefully not her wheels turning about if you could be her future husband (at least until you've been sleeping together), it is often a really good indicator of interest when a girl is intrigued and curious and starts asking about you. A lot of average guys don't get girls talking deeply about themselves though. Girls often get lost in enjoying the great experience. Remember girls are really chatty in groups with each other. It feels good.

 

[KJ Francis]

And if she is enjoying talking to you for a while like that, make sure to keep building other compliance and moving things forward.

 

[Duff]

@KJ Francis @TwoNameGame
Thanks for the replies guys, makes sense, I think key is as francis said moving things forward, then you can tell how well is it going actually

 

[KJ Francis]

@KJ Francis @TwoNameGame
Thanks for the replies guys, makes sense, I think key is as francis said moving things forward, then you can tell how well is it going actually

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[Duff]

No prob. Yep remember, reactions do not equal results!

https://xcancel.com/GirlsChase/status/1843686544869339406#m

Reactions from Women, or Results with Women?

I intended for this to be a shorter post, since I’ve put up a few long ones in a row and I didn’t get much sleep last night as I’m still rocking a jet lag (so much for my claims to not be affected by that… it’s good though, I’m waking up early in the morning and cranking on stuff I want to work...

www.girlschase.com

Thanks for the posts, now that I think about it I dont really conciosly think of the compilance at all, Its kinda new concept for me, and other than asking her out or smth which is a big compilance check I suppose, how do u implement it before that stage, and how does building compilance works actually, It would make sense there either is or isnt, I will check girlschase for that, but how did you first started implementing compilance in your game?

 

[KJ Francis]

Thanks for the posts, now that I think about it I dont really conciosly think of the compilance at all, Its kinda new concept for me, and other than asking her out or smth which is a big compilance check I suppose, how do u implement it before that stage, and how does building compilance works actually, It would make sense there either is or isnt, I will check girlschase for that, but how did you first started implementing compilance in your game?

Hey I am just catching up on notifications now...

I think of it like if you search @topcat posts on everything being compliance, and @Will_V posts about balancing submission and pleasure. Your goal is to take the lead from meet to lay, so everything is about getting her to comply with stopping at the open, to complying with you penetrating her. Between those steps is complying with every movement forward logistically, and complying with your comfort building. And taking two steps forward, one step back to increase her pleasure/comfort.

So the whole interaction is her trusting you enough to feel comfortable following your lead. This includes removing attention when compliance is low for example early in the interaction, so she trusts your non-neediness, which lets her trust her safety with you, and increases later compliance. There is also compliance in deep diving, getting her to open up sharing herself with you as you screen and qualify her. It is part of every step asking her on the date, having her agree to locations, coming to meet you, moving with you, following your lead of where to sit, coming home with you, etc.

 

[Duff]

Hey I am just catching up on notifications now...

I think of it like if you search @topcat posts on everything being compliance, and @Will_V posts about balancing submission and pleasure. Your goal is to take the lead from meet to lay, so everything is about getting her to comply with stopping at the open, to complying with you penetrating her. Between those steps is complying with every movement forward logistically, and complying with your comfort building. And taking two steps forward, one step back to increase her pleasure/comfort.

So the whole interaction is her trusting you enough to feel comfortable following your lead. This includes removing attention when compliance is low for example early in the interaction, so she trusts your non-neediness, which lets her trust her safety with you, and increases later compliance. There is also compliance in deep diving, getting her to open up sharing herself with you as you screen and qualify her. It is part of every step asking her on the date, having her agree to locations, coming to meet you, moving with you, following your lead of where to sit, coming home with you, etc.

Thank you for answering, I will look into what u suggested

 

[jackgignac]

Try a pen & paper journal?