Girl turned cold. Should I apologise?

[ESGSanders]

Following on from post below.
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Girl with a LDBF suddenly gone cold. Maybe because I asked her out for a drink she thinks I have no regard for her relationship etc? As I said below she was tremendously into me.... Should I call/message her and apologise for asking her to go for cocktails after she has responded? Thanks!

Could do it like

"hey anna, just wanted to apologise. I shouldn't have asked you out for drinks whilst you are in a relationship. I just really like you and it'd be great to see you again and get to know you better!"

Something like that?!

 

[ESGSanders]

I could also say that when I was being forward with her on friday etc and asking her for drinks it is just because girls like her only come along once in a while so I really didn't want to let her get away

Not sure how to say that in a way where I'm not chasing though...

 

[Eric]

Woah woah woah.

Hold up.

Don't even think about apologizing.

Any interactions from here on out are you CHASING, and you need to realize that. You are now chasing this girl if you continue with this. I'd say just meet new women, honestly.

NEVER apologize for moving interactions forward.

 

[Marty]

Hey ESG:

I get the feeling both of those messages are a really bad idea. The first is asking to be friend-zoned; the second is unsubtly implying you have a scarcity mindset.

I'm hoping someone more experienced is gonna notice your thread and help out here, as I don't have much more I can add. I'd probably let her fight it out with the BF and let her wonder what happened to you... give her the impression you're desperate for validation from her and you're a goner for sure.

-Marty

 

[Nova]

if you have done something genuinely inconsiderate that hurt a girls feelings or messed with her head there are ways you can apologize if done correctly that would leave you looking a better man than if you hadn't.

but you have done nothing wrong at all, you went after a girl you liked who seems to like you back, you did the right thing. apologizing would be the worst thing you could do here.

chill out about it. don't bring up her relationship status, don't let it bother you. if she thinks its a problem for you then it will be a problem for her. she hasn't replied to your fb message? so? leave it a couple of days. if still nothing drop her a text arranging a meetup, just something casual hey bla bla hows your week looking? we should chill sometime and go from there.

honestly don't take the boyfriend thing seriously - doesn't sound like she wants him anyway

 

[DesiBro]

Definitely don't apologize in this scenario...

Here's a good article on the topic: https://www.girlschase.com/content/shoul ... gize-women

 

[Flames]

No, apologising would be rewarding behaviour you don't want.

Just go cold on her, most likely she'll come running or not either way the ball is in her court.