Girl visiting from out of town

[journeyman]

Saying hello to all the boards again, been a while since I posted but I had this really interesting interaction which hasn't happened before and I could use more experienced insights.

So I was in another city for just a day, for a work related social event, where we met other people in different branches.
As we were having buffet lunch, I saw a girl that I really liked which reminded me one of my failed escalation girls and I decided I should meet her. When she was alone getting some water I just went next to her to get some for myself and asked her where she works, then we got to talking. She is 28, 4 years older than me.

Then we had to separate, but later in the evening in the network drinking time she and her friend reopened me and my friend. I isolated her and got to talking, made sure to steer clear of boring subjects, then we ended up eating together with a group of people where I stopped focusing on her. At a random moment we were talking again, and I dialed up the eye contact and I was teasing her about being a no girl, she said that she says yes sometimes and I just kept eye contact and smirked and the sexual tension really really rised.

Anyway, due to no logistics I just told her to add me on FB, then when I went back home I found a message from her and we chatted a bit, told her that it's a shame we are far away and can't hang out and she told me that we should arrange something. So I just invited her to visit the city and she really easily accepted and got tickets to stay for 2 days.
Now an interesting point is that she never asked me where she should stay the night, so she might have easily assumed that she is staying at mine, or maybe closer to the date she will pull off some hostel bullshit I don't know.

My questions:
I am fairly sure that she is DTF and that I will have to make a really bad move to screw this up. Do you think that's the case or should I treat it like a usual first date seduction?

When she comes, should I take her around the city or get her home first to set up a home base?

Should I employ plausible deniability (i.e. tell her that she is sleeping on the couch, make sure that we will "watch a movie" in my room) or be forward about things?

How much comfort would she need prior to escalation? My instinct tells me that I should escalate fast with her to set the frame of the weekend.

If anyone has been in a similar situation I'd appreciate your advice since this is unknown territory for me.

 

[Fuck This]

I think you need to set the tone early that the 2 day visit is going to be a passionate affair.
If she is not feeling that , she will shut it down quickly. No point in wasting your time. Leave no doubt that she will stay with you , in your bed. If you are not comfortable with that you need to get comfortable with it, and accept that she may not want to play that way.
At 28 she should be comfortable calling a spade a spade and expressing her sexual appetite.

So assuming you set the expectation through messaging:
Ideally she would arrive at midday and you will take her back to your place to get situated. Greet her at the airport or station with a kiss to set the tone. Grab her bag and hold her hand back to the car. Take her bags to the room and start escalating.

 

[journeyman]

@TwoRocky, thanks for the advice mate. What you suggest is much more forward than what I had in mind so I am a bit concerned it won't work, especially the station kiss. But what the hell, I will roll with your suggestion and see what happens.

 

[skin_man]

@TwoRocky, thanks for the advice mate. What you suggest is much more forward than what I had in mind so I am a bit concerned it won't work, especially the station kiss. But what the hell, I will roll with your suggestion and see what happens.

Hi, if it sounds too forward on text, can i recommend doing it in real life just to see the results you would get. From the initial set up, when she wants to come to your place, you are very much able to weave it anyhow you like - she's letting you.

At this point, size up your game to meet with the most resistance (or none) by being upfront about your sexuality. If you have not escalated at this point, you have little room for mistakes. Like Hitch would say: "she already said 'yes'. Now, it's up to you not to fuck it up".

To add to what twoRocky said, Do the following:
refrain from hugging at the station as this would seem like old friends. You must either do the french cheek to cheek kiss, or on the lip.

WHen you get her from the station, take her to drop her things at your place. Hopefully, it is very near to your place already. This way she knows you are deciding for her to stay at yours the entire 2 days. If you ask her where she plans to stay, it's a bullet to the head - don't do that.

When you meet resistance, maintain your frame in a playful way but firmly.


Wishing you the best.

 

[Fuck This]

It really is quite easy. You make the invite and refer to your place as her destination.

"my place is just 20 minutes from the station. It's only one bedroom but I make really good coffee and the view from the porch/balcony/back yard is great at sunrise/sunset/after dark"

This gives her the opportunity to play into your assumption. If she is on the same wavelength, you will know it or not. If she hedges and says she plans to get a motel or Hostel, then you know you still have more steps in the seduction to do...and you have made your intent clear. You can also lower your expectations...

Ideally this would be done in person when you made the invite.

Oh and Station kisses are a Female bucket list Item...Watch any romantic movie..

 

[journeyman]

Hey guys, thanks for the input. It is looking quite good at the moment since we have been texting a bit and she has smoothly found out that she is staying at mine. That was just a chance for more teasing and flirting so I believe the tone has been set correctly. We'll find out in a couple of weeks...

 

[journeyman]

@Tworocky just as an update thanks for your input it worked wonders. I met her at the station, kissed her, took her by the hand and grabbed a cab to my place. In my place I escalated within 5 minutes with literally no resistance . What followed was a weekend marathon of sex

 

[JimmyB]

That's awesome. Going to be in a similar situation soon . . . sounds like that was the answer. Wasn't sure if I should start off doing something or just get right to it . . . going to try to get right to it, assuming I don't get resistance. Otherwise I'll slow down a bit and ease into it.