Girl with long distance boyfriend

[maestro]

Hi all,

So this is how a story goes. My best friend M(27) met a girl through cold approach and they started kissing, texting etc,no sex yet. That girl lets call her Y(22) has a sister and a fairly attractive sister, legit 9 lets call her H. she is 21 years old. Sister Y invited me at house party at friday with my friend M. Her sister was there, i met her and we hit it off. She has a long distance borefriend of 1,5 years but she somewhat mentioned it so i see a green light.
we partied friday from 10 pm to saturday 8 pm. long party, drinking , talking, driving in corvetible 6 am in the morning on a lake so girls had a chance to know us and had a memorable experience. We had a blast. We went home and decided to meet again. She gave me her number and facebook.

Sunday came and they invited us to drink at their apartment rooftop. We drank, played bottle of truth and a lot of sexual themes were discussed. Long story short we went to one isolated place with car, I managed to isolate sister H and kissed her. Then we went to my boys place and drink some more. Invited her to empty room and i fucked her with little resistance. Her sister barged in our room in the middle of the act and started laughing, we start to laugh too Her sister likes me, even told me im her type and i think she is attracted to me also.
So morning comes and they went home...she acted somewhat distant like she thought we had sex too quickly..

I sent her a short text next afternoon, told her i had a great time with her she had a great time also.. She acted all normal, texted back and forth etc and she told me this never happens that they meet guys and have a blast for almost 2 whole days non stop. they feel like they know us their whole life.
we texted throught the week minimaly every 2 days and they sister Y invited my friend M and me to drink with them again at their place.
all four talked in kitchen and i asked her in front of her sister does she thinks it was wrong we had sex because i can see she is somewhat distant..i asked in front of her because sister already knows and because we talk openly like that so no big deal. she smiled , said its ok, nothing like that and sister said im a legend for caring like that and not just using her for sex... ok i know how this sounds but im a generaly honest and caring to my girls.
Later we watched a movie, kissed a little bit and carresed our hands under the blanket. she didnt want her sister and my friend to see. And she went to sleep because, no sex.

Thats the story. Now i genaraly like this girl. You already know that once in a while a girl you really like will come. So this is the first girl in 1 year of game after 5 year relationship that i like. Personality, humour, looks and ass and i had sex with 9 different girls in last year.
I know i cant change my game. i must be the same relaxed, sexual and witty guy she already liked. I dont text her all the time. But the problems are, she has that ldr guy , maybe a little remorse for sleeping that fast with me and she doesnt initiate nothng, no texts, kino, kissing, nothing... she just smiles and looks me in the eyes for a long time. But if i initiate she plays along. answers texts, touches me back, kisses. Also she had planned to go see that ldr guy this weekend but she is not going.

My friend M still didnt close his girl and i told him it could backifire because she wants it but he cant see it. He is a natural.
And i think i fucked my girl too fast with litlle time building comfort and now she is confused.

Dear girlschase forum, your opinions please, how should i play this along.
Dont tell me its oneitis because i definitely can find other girls but i generaly like this one and want to learn for future references.

 

[ray_zorse]

I think you should just continue to treat her exactly the same. If you are initiating texting 2~3 times a week and having short conversations just keep doing that. Try to set up weekend hangouts either for the 4 of you (if your buddy is progressing with his girl) or the 2 of you.

I think you are in danger of accepting her frame, you already verbalized her frame to her sister. Remember fighting the frame is accepting it, you went about it in a very savvy way, but even so it's a danger zone.

The other thing is her being cold and distant. I remember this happening with a Burmese girl, she initially seemed keen but started to withdraw due to my clumsy deep diving. I took this as her being a challenge and started to work harder and harder to keep her interest. Don't do this! It was an "aha" moment -- creating such a vibe is how we get girls to chase. In your case you've somewhat rewarded her coldness with attention (by asking "is it wrong that ...") and if you keep doing this it will go down the toilet. She's cold -> create a little distance. Let her work, if she's keen she will eventually.

The LDR may work in your favour if you want to stay in the lover rather than BF role. Just be certain to let her know you understand and approve of her decisions and try to set appropriate frames beforehand so she knows you won't judge her for following her natural instinct to have BF+lover.

Ray

 

[maestro]

Good that i caught myself starting to chase her a little bit. Good point Ray at not starting to chase her harder...i will definitely give her some space and time to decide for herself.
Buddy is progressing..he had sex with sister last night Bastard made her horny for 2 weeks before he had sex with her..he said it was flooded

I definitely want to stay in lover frame for now, just keep it casual and sexy... i have very non judgmental mindset and she knows i wont judge her. That relationship is already sinking..her words.

They already invited us tonight to theirs country house, so more sexy times are ahead

Thank you Ray Zorse, you have always been ready to give some quick and wise advice. Cheers

 

[maestro]

little update on situation, your opinions are welcomed

So this is about this girl with long distance boyfriend. Actually not boyfriend but somebody she is talking to and seeing 3, 4 times a year, having sex...that are her words to describe.

This girl doesnt date at all people that are not from social circle. Her sister told me this. Im the first guy she had sex on our second group meetup. I isolated , moved fast and escalated. She likes to see how guys behave in group and then she decides..obviously has many options.
After that sex we saw each other two more times again in group situations. Both times i managed to isolate her again at the end of the night and kiss her, but no sex. First time was in club, i was with my friends , she was with hers. I havent talked to her the whole evening but kept gaming other girls and she saw that. I caught her glancing few times at me. she introduces me to her male friends and i played it cool and relaxed. at the end of the evening we went to my buddys house where we were alone, and talked and kissed till morning. Bad logistics for sex and i wanted to create more rapport and comfort with her after that one fast sex.

Second meetup was this saturday. She and her sister with my boy were at my house drinking. Again a lot of talking, flirting and kissing but no sex. she slept with me in bed. i tried to escalate but she said i know where this is going. I said ok and went to sleep. Later i found out she was on her period because i saw tampons in toilet garbage can so maybe that explains it.

Ok this whole time i am seeing two more girls and having sex with them but i must admit i caught feeling for this girl. she is definitely the hottest and now we had a chance to talk and create comfort with each other. That was on one hand my plan so she doesnt see me just like ons guy.

I must say i really dont know how to play this..i like her and she knows that, my intent was clear from beginning. She is little reserved and shy but for i can tell she likes me but that guy is still in the picture. she doesnt initiate text ever, if i initiate she responds and responds quickly, never initiates kino or kissing but always manages to stay with me in isolation. I called her once to come for drinks but she gave me some stupid exscuse.

I know it looks like low interest but i dont think that is the whole story. even her sister says she is confused.


So how to play this...should i keep contacting her sporadicaly like till now ( once a week) and keep hanging together when there is opportunity or should i stop all contact and vanish like a ghost and give her space so if she sorts it out she wil maybe contact me.
Im really bad at this social circle situations.

Cheers, maestro