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I hope I am posting this in the correct place. I wanted to report on the approach I made today (25th July 2025) on a girl who works in a local charity shop.
I'm new to the PUA scene, and based in the UK . I'm currently reading The Game by Neil Strauss and I'm interested in the techniques that he talks about. I employed some of these techniques in a conversation with the aforementioned girl earlier today. The girl in question works in a charity shop a few miles from where I live. I've noticed her before and said hello a few times but not previously managed to get into a conversation, as such.
I arrived at the shop at about 11am and clocked that she was serving at the till and there was also another shop assistant beside her and a number of customers at the till, so not an ideal time to make an approach. I browsed a little and chose a couple of items to buy, by which time the other shop assistant had moved elsewhere in the shop and the queue at the till had gone.
I took my items to the till and miscounted the cash I was handing her a few times which made her laugh. I then employed one of Neil Strauss's techniques. I had a small piece of cat hair (from my cat) in my hand. I said to her that there was something in her hair, and I pretended to extract it from her hair. I asked if she had a dog or a cat. She said she had 3 dogs and 2 cats. She then qualified this by saying that she lived in shared accommodation and that only one cat was hers. Having got her into a conversation, and given that she was still sorting out the sale of aforementioned items, I used another of Neil's techniques. I said, "since I have you as a captive audience, perhaps you could clear up a debate I've been having with a friend of mine. Which do you think is the cooler instrument, saxophone or guitar". She was very interested in this and talked about her musical experience, playing bass guitar and violin and wanting to try out acoustic and electric guitar. I told her that I play sax, clarinet and flute and asked her a bit more about her bass guitar playing. After a couple of minutes of chat, I said that it would be great to continue the conversation sometime and she said she thought that would be a great idea, so I started to ask how we could arrange to continue talking. Unfortunately, at this point a customer arrived at the till, so rather than pursuing that line, (having hoped she would might give me her phone number), I said that I had better go and that I would pop into the shop another time so we could continue the conversation. She replied "that would be lovely."
Naturally, I was disappointed to leave without getting her number but I did feel that I had made a lot of progress for a newbie and really made quite a decent connection. I made her smile and laugh and got her pretty nicely engaged in conversation. I'll make a point of going into the shop again soon and will report back. I would, of course, be grateful for any hints of suggestions that anyone can offer.
I'm new to the PUA scene, and based in the UK . I'm currently reading The Game by Neil Strauss and I'm interested in the techniques that he talks about. I employed some of these techniques in a conversation with the aforementioned girl earlier today. The girl in question works in a charity shop a few miles from where I live. I've noticed her before and said hello a few times but not previously managed to get into a conversation, as such.
I arrived at the shop at about 11am and clocked that she was serving at the till and there was also another shop assistant beside her and a number of customers at the till, so not an ideal time to make an approach. I browsed a little and chose a couple of items to buy, by which time the other shop assistant had moved elsewhere in the shop and the queue at the till had gone.
I took my items to the till and miscounted the cash I was handing her a few times which made her laugh. I then employed one of Neil Strauss's techniques. I had a small piece of cat hair (from my cat) in my hand. I said to her that there was something in her hair, and I pretended to extract it from her hair. I asked if she had a dog or a cat. She said she had 3 dogs and 2 cats. She then qualified this by saying that she lived in shared accommodation and that only one cat was hers. Having got her into a conversation, and given that she was still sorting out the sale of aforementioned items, I used another of Neil's techniques. I said, "since I have you as a captive audience, perhaps you could clear up a debate I've been having with a friend of mine. Which do you think is the cooler instrument, saxophone or guitar". She was very interested in this and talked about her musical experience, playing bass guitar and violin and wanting to try out acoustic and electric guitar. I told her that I play sax, clarinet and flute and asked her a bit more about her bass guitar playing. After a couple of minutes of chat, I said that it would be great to continue the conversation sometime and she said she thought that would be a great idea, so I started to ask how we could arrange to continue talking. Unfortunately, at this point a customer arrived at the till, so rather than pursuing that line, (having hoped she would might give me her phone number), I said that I had better go and that I would pop into the shop another time so we could continue the conversation. She replied "that would be lovely."
Naturally, I was disappointed to leave without getting her number but I did feel that I had made a lot of progress for a newbie and really made quite a decent connection. I made her smile and laugh and got her pretty nicely engaged in conversation. I'll make a point of going into the shop again soon and will report back. I would, of course, be grateful for any hints of suggestions that anyone can offer.
