Girlfriend gets pissed at anything that doesn't go her way

[ChrisCassi]

So my girlfriend of six months gets overly pissed at anything doesn't go her way.

Like for example, yesterday my band had a show and I said I'd call her before I leave. I ended up getting busy so I sent her a text saying I'd call her when I got to the venue. To which she was okay with.

Then sent me a text asking to chill tonight, to which I said I already had plans but she was welcome to join, which set her off because she wanted to me to cancel what I was doing for her and I wouldn't. She then went on to say I break every promise I make by not calling her before I left the for venue.

Anyway, how do you guys deal with a situation like this??

 

[DesiBro]

New girlfriend?

 

[Franco]

CC,

This is still one of my favorite articles from the past, and I regularly go back to read it to keep my head on straight:

• Handling Women's Accusations

Also, if you'd like some more reading on this general topic of women "causing drama," these are also very good reads:

• Women and Drama
  Angry Girls: How to Deal With Angry Women and Why Women Get Mad

Cheers. =)

- Franco

 

[Just_Dave]

Not to disregard Franco,

Band dynamics: You got to spend time with the group
But as a musician myself and being in numerous relationships with girls while doing shows and what not. I've found when dating a girl while you're in a band, you have to give equal time to both. Otherwise someone either in the band or the girl will complain. Because the success of both rely on how much time you spend with them. You have to spend time with your band mates and make sure everyone is on top of their instrument. You also need the right girl who knows and understands the life of a musician. You got practice, shows, and promoting. Those require tons of man hours, you need a girl who's going to be on your team and possibly help out.

Time restraints: Be honest and open, but make time for her
Otherwise your girl will feel resentment and give you headaches and throw fits and tantrums. Other thing you have to look at is do what you say you're going to do. Let's be real, normal girls don't just flip out over one time and one circumstance unless she's crazy. If the girls feels as though you keep blowing her off, she'll be pissed. I highly doubt you'd be okay if your drummer suddenly started blowing you guys off because he wanted to hang out with friends. There must be other things that you're telling us, and be real about it so we can better help you!

My handling: What I've done in the past
*Band days off, the group has a days to go out and do other things with other people
*Letting the girl know that I'll be busy on these days a head of time, like a couple days at least
*Offer her a day where me and her can just hang out
*Text them in between sets
*Tell them you dedicated your last song of the night to them, this one has gotten me great results from FWBs to Girlfriends!
*Knowing when to left them go, sometimes the music is more important and you sometimes end up losing a girl cause of it
if you really can't give a girl what she wants she'll either deal with it or you let her leave
*The last and most important thing is you have to find balance

Read those articles!: Franco gave out some good ones
*Read those and apply to your life

Final thoughts: Being a musician is awesome and a life changing experience, you just need people who can handle the ride when the road gets rough.

Sing me a song,

Just Dave

 

[ChrisCassi]

Probably should of elaborated more but I was half asleep typing this.

But to add, I spend almost everyday with this girl. A lot more then I should. And when one day I want to do something else she freaks out saying I don't care about her.

My band usually practices once a week, unless we have a show. So I always have time for her, and always tell her when I'm doing something else, and she's cool with it till the day off, when she asks me to drop what I'm doing.

Also, I'm extremely social. I like hanging out with people all the time. She isn't as. So when I go to a friends party, she will want to go cuz I am, but then expects to sit right next to her joint at the hip the entire time.

I like this girl a lot, just asking for someways to improve on this.

 

[Just_Dave]

Probably should of elaborated more but I was half asleep typing this.

But to add, I spend almost everyday with this girl. A lot more then I should. And when one day I want to do something else she freaks out saying I don't care about her.

My band usually practices once a week, unless we have a show. So I always have time for her, and always tell her when I'm doing something else, and she's cool with it till the day off, when she asks me to drop what I'm doing.

Also, I'm extremely social. I like hanging out with people all the time. She isn't as. So when I go to a friends party, she will want to go cuz I am, but then expects to sit right next to her joint at the hip the entire time.

I like this girl a lot, just asking for someways to improve on this.

That makes more sense! She's simply pissed cause the dynamic of the relationship is changing, she doesn't like the fact that you're fading away if you will. It's not even intentional that's the sad part. You just like doing other things, that's completely understandable. That blows about the party situation been there and done that amigo! There's nothing wrong with being honest and saying you just want time to yourself, or if you're family genuinely needs your help with something jump on the opportunity.

Two Cents:
*Give her something fun to do, give her a project, hobby, new show etc. . .
*Talk calmly to her about it,t ell her how unhealthy it is for your relationship and how you both need to miss each other. When you drop reasoning to her, make sure that you make it sound like you are both going to benefit from it and that it will make you guys stronger than ever.

 

[ChrisCassi]

Probably should of elaborated more but I was half asleep typing this.

But to add, I spend almost everyday with this girl. A lot more then I should. And when one day I want to do something else she freaks out saying I don't care about her.

My band usually practices once a week, unless we have a show. So I always have time for her, and always tell her when I'm doing something else, and she's cool with it till the day off, when she asks me to drop what I'm doing.

Also, I'm extremely social. I like hanging out with people all the time. She isn't as. So when I go to a friends party, she will want to go cuz I am, but then expects to sit right next to her joint at the hip the entire time.

I like this girl a lot, just asking for someways to improve on this.

That makes more sense! She's simply pissed cause the dynamic of the relationship is changing, she doesn't like the fact that you're fading away if you will. It's not even intentional that's the sad part. You just like doing other things, that's completely understandable. That blows about the party situation been there and done that amigo! There's nothing wrong with being honest and saying you just want time to yourself, or if you're family genuinely needs your help with something jump on the opportunity.

Two Cents:
*Give her something fun to do, give her a project, hobby, new show etc. . .
*Talk calmly to her about it,t ell her how unhealthy it is for your relationship and how you both need to miss each other. When you drop reasoning to her, make sure that you make it sound like you are both going to benefit from it and that it will make you guys stronger than ever.

Very helpful dude. And Franco's articles helped too.

I am in no way planning on leaving this girl, unless it becomes such a burden on my life that I can't live my life they way I want to. I just want her to have her own things to do, and for me to as well. I love doing different things, and spending everyday with only her and not doing other things I want is starting to take it's toll.