Girls and Boyfriends Discussion - What are you going to do?

[NewBeeWinner]

Hey guys,

Just been thinking recently, since I got a girls number today. She was super enthusiastic and attentive when I met her and eventually said she had a boyfriend. I asked "So is it serious, going to marry him?" with a smirk and I elbowed her lightly in fun. She said it wasn't too serious, but they had just gotten together.

From the advice I've read, I just continued as normal. Got her number, texted her I enjoyed meeting her (to which she quickly replied she did as well, with smiley face). So I asked how her schedule was next week to meet for coffee - she just said that as she said, she has a boyfriend and so she can't go meet another guy.

How do you guys usually play this? My first instinct is to just move on to another girl. But, I have definitely had a few girls that used the boyfriend line and ended up being sexually available. It also seems like a lot of girls are willing to have the "secret lover". Maybe it would blow up in my face, so I should just let it go? Or should I boyfriend disqualify myself so I don't seem in competition for her boyfriend? (I really am not looking for a relationship, I just want to plow this girl)

What are all of your thoughts?

Thanks, as always - NewBeeWinner

 

[silenceinthesnow]

Hey NewBee,

There's a few variables to this and it mostly depends on what you want and your thoughts to the whole thing. Personally I tend to ignore the bull $#!t and listen to their actions more than words. You might discover she's honest and loyal, you might discover she isn't that loyal and possibly doesn't have a boyfriend.

At this point you've got nothing to lose and everything to play for. You either take it as a polite rejection and move on to not waste your time if you feel it's going nowhere or you playfully push. I like to use these opportunities to be more bold and try things, she's gave you her number so maybe she's actually interested....

You'll quickly place yourself as a lover if you playfully push. Use something that disqualifies her resistance, "It's just coffee ;p I'll meet you there it'll be fun" This shows confidence that your dismissing her obstacle and telling her you're going anyway. Pull it off with enough charisma and their attraction goes up. She might give more obstacles but dismiss them. It doesn't always work but you've got nothing to lose trying it!

SilenceintheSnow

 

[DarkKnight]

I agree with SilenceInTheSnow, if she is that loyal kind of a girl why does she give her number? I would try to push on and definitely go on the lover route. DON'T next her just yet, giving up early is for losers. Go for the win and only if she fails to comply multiple times bow out.