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Girls Are Always Late

Troy

Tool-Bearing Hominid
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In a few of my field reports when I was on dates, I said how girls had me waiting 30 mins usually, and one daring girl ( if you remember, Jody) had me waiting 3 hours ( I should have left way before BTW even though I was " finding stuff to do to not make it look like I was waiting ".

The reason why I call Jody's name again is because I remember what she said to me on our first date. She said " When I was in high school I came to school late every day. School begins at 7:30am and usually I was still in bed at that time and was leaving out at 8:30am to reach school by 9:00am. "

I was quite shocked to hear that yet I kept my cool. PS. This post is not about her, she wasn't interested and hasn't texted me since our last date. I use her as a example to how most girls operate. Well at least most girls I happen to have as dates and female friends. Two Friday's ago I was to take out a girl and it happened to be her birthday. She was so busy getting her hair done that I just cancelled the date. She would be 3 hours late and I would not tolerate that so I rescheduled it for tomorrow.

When my parents got married, my Dad told me he had to wait a long time for my Mom to be ready. After all it was her wedding day.

My sister is usually the one to make the whole family late and my Mom seconds her. It usually gets my Dad irritated " damn women are always late ".


At school even my teachers were late for classes it's not even funny.

I say all this to make a point : girls are usually late. Even the ones closest to me and it's not just me, it happens to a few of my male friends.

So how do I get them to be early. I no longer am willing to wait more than a hour. If I plan a date at 1pm and SHE has Agreed ( she picked the time ) it's a horrible feeling to sit waiting waiting waiting till she shows up at 2pm.

THAT'S NOT GOOD ENOUGH. I WON'T TOLERATE THAT ANYMORE


You guys told me to next these girls, if I did that in all cases , I would include my Mom and sister too. They are very late. It's universal for me. Maybe a lot of these girls like me, but just can't be early . When we FINALLY meet they usually are interested.

So the only solution is setting up things in a way that FORCES EM to be early or at least 15 minutes late maximum. Advice? What should I say to them ?

Troy
 
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Whizzy

Cro-Magnon Man
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If they show up late all the time then just show up later, make them wait for you for a little bit ;)
 

Sophisticated Gent

Tool-Bearing Hominid
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You are creating a self fulfilling prophesy. By believing all women are late you are allowing yourself to be in relationships with women who are always late. All women are not always late. You just have to next the late ones. Set a time that you are ok waiting past the setup time. If she is past that then leave. If she calls you and says she is running late and apologizes then you can give her grace one time. If you do it more than once you are setting a precedent from which it will never get better. I personally feel that someone who is late consistently does not have respect for my time. Do you want to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't respect you?

SGent
 

Troy

Tool-Bearing Hominid
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Whizzy and Sophisticated Gent thanks for the advice a lot :). I was once late for a date and the girl was quite OK with it.

There are dates that I have 1 hour from where I live and I'd have to spend $4 for transport . Sometimes I have no option but to meet girls 1 hour away because they too are traveling from far to meet me. With the girl who waited on me , I was 10 away from her. I chose to stay at home in case she flaked. I do try my best to make sure girls are on their way so I don't waste any money.

I have doubts about making girls wait one hour. Till I get a taxi and bus. I don't want to be rude. What do you think?

Respect Sophisticated Gent, of course I want girls respecting my time :)

Troy
 
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