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Do you guys ever experience the phenomenon of girls who compensate for their attraction to you?
Similar to how guys neg or try to downplay a womans beauty in order to feel closer to her.
I notice this alot with not particularly stunning girls. The ones who are just “cute” or “ok” or look fine when done up.
Im not talking about testing behavior or flirty behavior that even very attractive women will resort to sometimes.
Because that is often done in a very socially savvy or probing kind of way. The girls who do this almost come off socially awkward because it is almost obvious what they’re doing.
Some examples are girl’s coming up and overtly hitting on guy’s who i’m with (no snub to them) while completely ignoring you but in a way so that you have to notice them.
Or
Ignoring your presence altogether in a group setting in an obvious way.
Or
testing you right out the gate with remarks on your style or asking others if you’re gay
There are many more scenarios that I can’t seem to recall as of now but it happens often.
I tend to laugh to myself at this kind of behavior because it is so childish in nature.
The solution to this problem would be to seem more attainable but this happens with alot of girls before I even speak to them.
obviously i could just be so self absorbed that I take every girl being disinterested in me as them seeing me as unattainable
but in my experience it isn’t normal for people to go out of their way to snub people they arent in to
lmk if you guys experience this too
Similar to how guys neg or try to downplay a womans beauty in order to feel closer to her.
I notice this alot with not particularly stunning girls. The ones who are just “cute” or “ok” or look fine when done up.
Im not talking about testing behavior or flirty behavior that even very attractive women will resort to sometimes.
Because that is often done in a very socially savvy or probing kind of way. The girls who do this almost come off socially awkward because it is almost obvious what they’re doing.
Some examples are girl’s coming up and overtly hitting on guy’s who i’m with (no snub to them) while completely ignoring you but in a way so that you have to notice them.
Or
Ignoring your presence altogether in a group setting in an obvious way.
Or
testing you right out the gate with remarks on your style or asking others if you’re gay
There are many more scenarios that I can’t seem to recall as of now but it happens often.
I tend to laugh to myself at this kind of behavior because it is so childish in nature.
The solution to this problem would be to seem more attainable but this happens with alot of girls before I even speak to them.
obviously i could just be so self absorbed that I take every girl being disinterested in me as them seeing me as unattainable
but in my experience it isn’t normal for people to go out of their way to snub people they arent in to
lmk if you guys experience this too
