Girls getting too clingy after regular sex

[MisterX]

There's something that's come to my mind.
I re-read one article on GC and there was a mention that with a casual girl you should have sex only 1 per week or so.
I guess thats so the girl won't fall in love with you, if you don't want a relationship with her.

Which is the opposite of what I do - when I start sleeping with a girl we have sex every day, night and morning then when we have time during the day. This goes on for a few weeks to a month and then the girl starts getting way to clingy and demanding a relationship(even though I've maid it clear upfront that I don't want a relationship). The sex is great with lots of orgasms for both of us. But when that 4-6 week mark hits and the girls starts getting clingy it's all downhill from there. And I usually cut all ties with her cause I don't like all the drama. Then I find another girl and all of this just repeats girl after girl.

Is this only because of the oxytocin in her system. I mean I tell them from the get go that I'm not going to become her boyfriend or be romantic. And that I'm not going to change my mind. Sometimes I even have to be a bit harsh by telling her that she's not the kind of girl I would be in a relationship with.
Is this why Chase advises not to have sex too often with casual girls? I'm not doing anything that might be the reason. I'm not acting boyfriend-ly, no romance, etc. We just have sex every day a few times and spend time afterwards (the girl usually spends the night, and we might watch a movie/order pizza/listen to some music).




And if you should have sex with a girl only once a week, does that mean that I should have 7 girls to have sex at once so I can sleep with a different girl every day of the week. Cause I have a very high sex drive and having sex 1-2 times a week is not even a possibility if I can sleep with a girl every singe day(when I masturbated I did so 6 times a day or I felt like going crazy).
And also seeing 7 girls at once would be a lot of work: managing the logistics, remembering things, etc. Plus I'm not at a point of seducing a new girl every day. More like 1-2 a month cause I still can't pull a day-game-same-day-lay. And I don't go to clubs much. So the way I seduce girls is over 2-3 dates period. So I can't seduce a new girls every week and have sex a few times and be over with it.

 

[Mr.Rob]

Good God you have a high sex drive.. I could use a douse of it honestly.

I no nothing about relationships but based on the little that I do know I wouldn't be surprised if your actions (fucking her brains out every day) are different than your words (let's keep things casual).

Actually I guarantee you Franco will say something along those lines if he comments on this.

Send me some of your sex drive!

-Rob

 

[Franco]

MisterX,

I no nothing about relationships but based on the little that I do know I wouldn't be surprised if your actions (fucking her brains out every day) are different than your words (let's keep things casual).

Actually I guarantee you Franco will say something along those lines if he comments on this.

Yeah, that's probably the gist of it. =)

As much as you can tell girls everything about how you're the worst guy in the world and that you aren't open to relationships and that you aren't interested in anything but sex with her, if you continue to see her on a regular basis, you are giving her hope that there is a chance for a relationship.

For girls, they will still judge your actions 100x more strongly then they will judge anything you say (especially since women are trained to learn that men lie all the time, so they have to rely on their instincts and intuition to get what they want). So as much as you know you are telling them the truth, it doesn't matter to them as they are not using your words as a reference for their personal judgment calls about you. If you're seeing them every day, then it means you desire them. And a woman's number one goal with a man is finding a sexy one that desires her.

As far as having a high sex drive... yeah, that's going to make things difficult. You might want to consider finding some other hobbies/interests/career-building options to keep you more busy with your time, unless that's something that just doesn't interest you. Personally, I sincerely don't have the time to be having sex with women every single day, and I often find that seeing my girlfriend (or any girl for that matter) more than twice a week ends up getting in the way of the other things I want to do.

Of course, if sex is absolutely of the utmost importance to you, then maybe finding some sort of equilibrium with a rotation of women is your best bet. You don't necessarily need to be having sex seven days a week, but if you can keep a rotation of women coming in say... maybe 4-5 times a week, then you can keep them only seeing you once a week (and maybe masturbating once or twice if you absolutely need to get your rocks off).

How you decide to control your sexual energy is up to you, but you need to keep in mind that women don't see things the way you do. They always base all of their actions on your actions, so your actions need to communicate what the relationship is in order for her to understand. Your words she won't take at face value, and she'll just smile and agree to them while secretly underneath hoping that she can either (a) change your mind or (b) not believe a damn thing you're saying. =)

- Franco

 

[mindful]

Franco,

I really like what you had to say. I feel the same way in regards to not wanting to see a girl all the time since I still like to have time to do other things. However, what really caught my attention is that you say you only see your girlfriend a few times a week. To me that seems suffice for a girl that you are casual dating or just plain hooking up with, but if it is a girl you are actually in a relationship with I would think you would see each other more than that. Is this something that you have both discussed and are clear about? I'm just curious how this was established. Unless you both are just busy with hobbies and other things so the both of you really just don't have the time to see each other more often. It seems that, at least to me, when you are in a relationship, you are spending the majority of your time doing things with each other (including sex). This has been the case for me as well as almost everyone I know who is in a relationship.

 

[Franco]

mindful,

I pretty much established the relationship that way through my actions. Even when I started seeing her, I would only see her about twice a week. This is the average though, and there are occasionally weeks where she will stay over for three days as well as there are weeks where I see her one day or not at all (if I'm going home to visit the folks for example).

She's always kind of pushing to see me as often as possible, but we also both have very busy schedules. This works in my favor though because I don't really want to see her more than that... I need time to do my own stuff. If you want to see your girlfriend every day, you can certainly do that, but it also means you'll need to be satisfying her needs much more frequently. I can easily give my girlfriend orgasmic sex almost every time we have sex simply because I'm usually eager to see her after not seeing her for a whole week, but I would probably find it pretty hard to have sex every single day (or every other day for that matter) for months and months since you have both passion declining (which happens with any girl you see for long periods of time) plus extended exposure (meaning you're less horny since you're constantly having sex).

I also find that my girl always seems to remain on the chasing end when I keep things at a minimum. She always leaves my place wanting more, which is exactly the way I want her to be. I also almost never have to deal with drama since we don't spend too much time together.

Everyone has their own preference, but as long as you're satisfying your girl's needs, you can see her as often as you'd like. Just know that, if you do decide to see her multiple times a week, it is much more difficult to pull back on that (without a lot of drama on her part) since she'll just assume you are pulling away from her in general.

- Franco