Girls hitting on you

[Man-O]

I'd like to know what is the most productive reaction towards girls hitting on you in n-game.
Lately I've had a high increase with girls complimenting or poking me due to better fundamentals and from what I've read somewhere here I shouldn't respond right away as I used to.

This happened last night and I rly rly want to know I should've acted in each of these cases.

Ex. 1 dance floor
Her: "You're looking cool" (she was with another guy though and have met this girl before)
Me: Seemig reluctant then.. "I suppose I am"

Ex. 2 dance floor
Girl suddenly takes my hand and tries to drag me over to her group of girls (not sure if she was as it happened quite rapidly)
I just begin to auto-swing her etc. and after 20 secs or so there's no more. Clearly I blew it.

Ex. 3 dance floor
One of two girls pokes me from behind, can't see who.
Poke again after 30 secs.
30 secs after I turn around and begin to auto-swing both of them asking who did it and both were smiling. I'm thinking I should've picked one of them and moved fast with a little dance then somewhere to talk and game her.

I haven't found any info on here but more importantly I'd like other ppl's experience of what you've done in such cases. Thx. Also, I'll begin writing FR so it can be answered there instead >_>

 

[ray_zorse]

If nothing else it might be an opportunity to expand your group of buddies for the night, so if a girl or girls shows interest I would start by introducing myself by name to everyone in the group, they can't really brush you off if they saw your friend pull you in. And they might split up later, introduce you to other girls etc or invite you to the next club or just be really fun to hang with. You can then turn back to the original girl and run your standard game only now it will be your decision to do so.

Beware of complying with girls who want to move you etc though. Sometimes it is win/win and they are just adding value and you can reward them for it or make it your idea (I was just thinking of going to the bar, you're a mind reader). But too much of this makes you a pussy and appearing a bit beta. I guess compliance requests can be countered with higher stakes compliance (I'll go over to the bar with you, but drinks are on you). Whatever, just judge situations as you find them.

Finally if girl gets physical with you this is invitation to up the stakes, pull her in for a grind or slow dance, tickle her, spank her ass, whatevs, just remember to be self amused

cheers, Ray

 

[Man-O]

Do you have any examples of this? I don't feel more certain than before I made the question rly. I just know that I have to try something else than what I'm doing now.

Instead of dancing with them right away I should dance quick and talk over the shoulder followed by closer dancing building tension and after say 2 mins get them off the dance floor. Easier said than done I think.

If it's a group I can see your viewpoint working. And yes I know dance floor isn't the prefered place to game and no wonder there're no articles her on about it. But I do like the wild side of n-game too.

 

[ray_zorse]

Well I think you have to look at it like this

Girl hasn't noticed you --> pre open
Girl is shy to engage you --> open
Girl thinks you are boring average joe --> banter
Girl isn't emotionally connected to you --> deep dive, relate
Hit a high point --> touch her, get her number, move her
Perfect storm (friends gone, escalation window, etc) --> pull!
Alone with her --> build comfort, escalate, back off, repeat

If the conditions for any step are already fulfilled then skip that step! So if a girl opens you go straight to banter etc. Or if you're already dancing with her and getting physical go straight to moving her, etc (but be sensible, often the steps have to be done in a different order to suit circumstances e.g. you unexpectedly find yourself alone with her in a seduction location, so banter or deep dive a bit to build comfort before escalating if you didn't already, this will make it smoother).

cheers, Ray

 

[Man-O]

Well, in those cases they are the ones opening me and therefore my action/reaction should be different from my usual openers (I'm used to opening them not that experienced in making a fluent reaction on being opened!)

Ex. when opening a girl.
Me: "Hey, having a good time?" or "You're rly cute and I had to talk with you" or "what's in that drink?"
Her: "yes blabla"

Ex. 2 when I am being opened by a girl.
*She either does something physical with or without verbal.*
me: "Hey, having a good time?" or "You're rly cute and I had to talk with you" or "what's in that drink?"

Clearly it's awkward to use the same action/reaction like you would when YOU are opening her. It is here my dilemma is, as it has become relevant now because it happens at least once every time I go out n-gaming.

 

[ray_zorse]

Not really, you just skip the opener.

eg. normal interaction:

You: hey there I couldn't help noticing how that dress hugs your figure...I'm Man-O
Her: I'm CuteDressGirl
You: (shake) So you seem to be putting in a good day's work on the dance floor
Her: oh yeah I love dance music blablabla
You: yeah it's great to get down and dirty sometimes (grabs her ass and pulls her in for a grind)

eg. skipping steps:

Her: hey you there! I like your dancing
You: yeah you seem to be putting in a good day's work yourself
Her: yeah you gotta have fun sometimes
You: (grabs her ass and pulls her in for a grind)

eg. skipping more steps:

Her: hey you there! high five!
You: (high fives) (grabs her ass and pulls her in for a grind)

Here there was no need for opening or even banter cos she was already getting physical with you.

Does that make my meaning clearer?

cheers, Ray

 

[Man-O]

Certainly does haha. I think it's just me saying "nono, can't do that, it's not that ez escalating. I will just get a rejection" and yet I know I've k-closed a girl within 30 secs on dance floor followed by one of my still rare f-closes that ended in the car.

Think I've been waaay too passive the last month here. Probly in some kind of slumb playing too safe.

Thx.