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wardog

Space Monkey
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I'm a beginner and i just recently learned how to cold approach. So i was on my way to a date some time ago and when i saw two pretty girls walking in my direction, because it has went so well with women who were alone before, i got cocky and thought "Eh, what the hell, this can't be too hard", picked one and told her i thought she was really pretty. She was charmed, major charmed.

But then i made a mistake, i looked at her girlfriend. Imagine medusa staring at you with the heat of a thousand suns, this girl was PISSED.
Then i made the second mistake, i called her out on it "What are you giving me that sceptical look for?" i asked, forcing a smile, trying not to melt under the heat. The moment i said that, she kinda arrogantly looked up and to the side.
I turned back to the girl i opened, said i had a meeting now, but would like to see her again and that we should swap numbers, but she said no thanks, she had a boyfriend, so that was that.
Later i thought about what happened and then i realized, the other girl was probably pissed, because i didn't tell HER that she was pretty (she was pretty indeed) and instead opened her girlfriend, who also turned out to have a boyfriend. So i guess she was mad at me for choosing the wrong one.

But now everytime i see pretty girls in girls only groups, i don't approach anymore, because i think that the other girls will be pissed because i don't tell them that they're pretty.

How should i go about this, should i just don't break circle and ignore the other girls completely or should i make a remark to the other ladies like "You're all really pretty ,too. But i really like your friend" ?
 

ray_zorse

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Just talk to the one you like. You can introduce yourself to the other(s) if things seem to be going okay. But the last thing you want is to look like you can't make up your mind. It has to be clear that you're hitting on one particular girl, otherwise it will look too desperate (you have no standards).
-Ray
 

PrettyDecent

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wardog,

I ain't much of a group-approach dude - but I might say "I thought you were both absolutely gorgeous, but I just had to come and say hello to you", looking at the girl you had in mind.

~Nick
 
a good date brings a smile to your lips... and hers

wardog

Space Monkey
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Thanks for the suggestions,

a compliment like that while not breaking circle sounds like it could be worth a try.
 

wardog

Space Monkey
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*** SHORT UPDATE ***

So i recently took it to the field and opened a girl in a group of two (girls).
I approached her like she was alone, focused on her and didn't break circle except for giving her friend a polite smile when they both looked at each other after my opening.
When she told me how old she was (she turned out to be very young), i looked at her friend and asked, if she was kidding me and she smiled and denied, so there i did break circle, but i kept it short and all about the girl i opened.

I talked to her for like two minutes, while her friend was standing next to her, then took her number and when i left i also bid her friend farewell and told her it was nice to meet her, too.
Her friend actually seemed to be pretty fond of me, so this worked in my favor (social proof). I got a date with her coming up this week, if she doesn't flake, that is.

Conclusion:

After my first try with group approaches didn't work out so well, i now have a positive reference point and know it can be done. PLUS if her friend likes you too, you will have some social proof right there and her number is more likely to turn into something.
 
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