Girls sleeping over

[dingdong]

I started seeing this girl casually and have had sex a few times. Sex is great, she's loving it. Anyways, i read this article from Chase and instantly went "fuck". First of all i have seen her twice this week (thursday and friday) and second, i let her sleep over from friday-saturday. She had told me about one of her fantasies which was that she got really horny while jogging and fantasized about being pulled aside from the path behind a tree and fucked. So i took her for a walk to try and fuck her in a wooded area (didnt work, but it turned her on like crazy and we went back and fucked like rabbits). After that we watched Fight Club while having a dessert, then we fucked a few times again and i let her sleep over because it was basically night at that point. Morning after i fucked her again and we showered together and then made breakfast and i came in her mouth a few times and fingered her. Then we chilled a bit. We cuddled and petted eachother on and off the whole time together.

I don't purely see her as a fuck friend. She's bisexual and open to threesomes, so i would like to make her more one of multiple non-exclusive girlfriends (just need to find candidates for the remaining spots). A girl that i like to spend time with and share a deeper emotional bond with than just great sex, but who i'm also non-exclusive with. Did i fuck it up? From now on i'm just gonna see her once a week. Maybe mix it up so some weeks i see her once, some weeks twice and some weeks not at all.

Note: Also read what Chase said in rule #7. Shivers. That must not happen. Must keep meeting new girls and not be complacent.

 

[dingdong]

Also, i haven't texted her since she left today. Until now i messaged her same night she left or the next morning so she didn't feel used for sex (attainability), but she knows by now that i'm not like that, so i'm slowing down and shifting gears. New frame. Gonna text her in 2 days to set up next week's meet.

 

[Fuck This]

I think she is locked in. You can more or less have sex on demand. There will be a "what are we?" discussion in the future . Count on it. BD has good resources for that. I failed to maintain casual relationships when I had the opportunity and instead did the ONS thing. It was cleaner emotionally...

Being that it is the Holidays, don't get suckered into family events (probably not an issue this year). You do need to be unavailable for a period of time so she doesn't feel like she has the first priority in your free time.

I'd find an out of town plate to rotate with. That removes you and makes you truly unavailable. Especially for unannounced drop by's

good article: https://calebjones.com/2016/02/11/your-main-girl-should-never-be-your-hottest/

 

[dingdong]

Got a text 8.45 pm "i think my pussy is getting too addicted to Peter's big cock".....

I think she fell for me too quick. What should i do from here?

 

[Fuck This]

Write back ....

"That's good....it will get a full dose next Saturday"....or what ever timeframe you want for her. You are driving the buss . take it where you want to go.

 

[D. Gately]

I absolutely do not let girls sleep over unless they are an actual girlfriend, we've been dating for 3+ months and she is 100% trustworthy in my space while I sleep. YMMV.

 

[Hue]

Sounds like a good MTLR candidate. Read Black Dragon's stuff on that if you're not familiar.


First rule you should absolutely start to follow (like, yesterday lol) if you don't want her to sprint over to "being your girlfriend" land:

Only meet with her 1x a week. That can be for 1-2 days total, but it has it to be 1x a week that you spend some amount of time together.

Easily the hardest rule to follow with pacing a girl's expectations.


Otherwise, great shit. You locked her in good and she's fantasizing about you all day


This sounds almost identical to how my current OLTR and I started out. She was texting me a lot and sending me super sexual messages very early on. The sex I was getting from her was grade A, so I gave in a few too many times to seeing her more than once a week. Don't do it unless you want this girl to be your girlfriend lol. Luckily, I love my girl and it has turned out pretty damn good for the year we've been seeing each other, but now I want more freedom and for the life of me I wish I kept it at MLTR. Just being honest. Chase's rule 7... the first 4 points are EXACTLY what happened. Thanks quarantine for fucking up my pipeline xD


(I should add - you don't want to speedily move a girl to MLTR / OLTR / anything more than a fuck buddy. The faster you do that, the more likely they are to want you to themselves, and the more stops they'll pull towards getting you to commit to them.

Also, the faster they realize you can't give them what they want, the faster the relationship ends.

Lastly, be prepared for her to suck you in if this becomes even somewhat of a long term gig. You don't see yourself when you start getting strong emotions. All you see is the emotions and they can be very hard to control if you end up falling for her.)


Happy cuffing season everybody ;P

 

[dingdong]

Sounds like a good MTLR candidate. Read Black Dragon's stuff on that if you're not familiar.


First rule you should absolutely start to follow (like, yesterday lol) if you don't want her to sprint over to "being your girlfriend" land:

Only meet with her 1x a week. That can be for 1-2 days total, but it has it to be 1x a week that you spend some amount of time together.

Easily the hardest rule to follow with pacing a girl's expectations.


Otherwise, great shit. You locked her in good and she's fantasizing about you all day


This sounds almost identical to how my current OLTR and I started out. She was texting me a lot and sending me super sexual messages very early on. The sex I was getting from her was grade A, so I gave in a few too many times to seeing her more than once a week. Don't do it unless you want this girl to be your girlfriend lol. Luckily, I love my girl and it has turned out pretty damn good for the year we've been seeing each other, but now I want more freedom and for the life of me I wish I kept it at MLTR. Just being honest. Chase's rule 7... the first 4 points are EXACTLY what happened. Thanks quarantine for fucking up my pipeline xD


(I should add - you don't want to speedily move a girl to MLTR / OLTR / anything more than a fuck buddy. The faster you do that, the more likely they are to want you to themselves, and the more stops they'll pull towards getting you to commit to them.

Also, the faster they realize you can't give them what they want, the faster the relationship ends.

Lastly, be prepared for her to suck you in if this becomes even somewhat of a long term gig. You don't see yourself when you start getting strong emotions. All you see is the emotions and they can be very hard to control if you end up falling for her.)


Happy cuffing season everybody ;P

Yeah i read alot of BDs articles and realized she would be good for MLTR. And i also realized that the sleeping over only counts for fuckbuddies and not the MLTRs so i think im covered. I will keep it to once a week though. This girl is definitely locked-in, so i will switch to the Corey Wayne texting advice a bit which is use the phone once a week to set the date if she doesn't reach out, if she reaches out chat a bit and set the next date and if she reaches out chat a bit with her and tell her you gotta go but is looking forward to seeing her again.