FR Girls that fry my brain

[Railer]

One of the girls nearby at the beach is preparing her towel and just go "Wow!" in awe of her stunning butt. Anyway I leave it at that. From the distance she doesn't appear to be my type.

When occasionally passing the group, I notice how strongly they are looking at me. I casually say hi, they return the greeting and laugh in a "conspirational" manner. Once returned to my friend, I look back. The girl with the hot butt beckons me.

Later I go over to say hi. Six girls, one gay guy. All very kind. Incidentally I'm right next to the hot girl, realizing that she actually *is* totally my type. I call my friend to come over as well.

At some point he indicates that I have a complicated last name. Upon telling it to the group, the gay guy states to the hot girl: "At least, now you know the last name of your future son "

She is right next to me, but never looks over, minding her own business, texting on the phone and stuff. The rest of the group is much chattier. I feel ignored and I'm stunned.

The thought of directing a conversation to just that girl, feels odd. Showing that kind of interest and having the group realize that I desire that girl feels "wrong". I don't know what to say anyway.

I don't even know if she beckoned because she just wanted to help her gay friend to get to know me or of she herself was interested.

Eventually our group disperses.


I have a felt billion of bad reference experiences with girls that make me feel so excited about them, that I somehow just "lock up", when there's another one ... and I keep wondering why exactly those that I fancy so much "just don't like me".

(To clarify: Yesterday night I met a group of "old friends". I had something going with one of them and the other two are still hitting on me when we see each other. One would've left with me and although she's cute, I know that taking her, wouldn't have added to my happiness.)

 

[lao che]

you can't expect the hot girl to do the work for you. it's your job to figure out a way to exchange details and stay in contact with her. she's not gonna look up from her phone and say "yeah, i think you're hot let's go bone down in the nearest secluded location"

here's some possible responses

"future son? i gotta get to know her better first.....hi, my name's ...."

"we haven;'t even been properly introduced and this guys alright predicting kids! hi, my name's ...."

"tell me, my future ex-wife will our son like ice cream? and what flavor do you think will be his favorite? oh that's because you like chocolate too, right? come on then, let's go grab some ice cream and get to know one another "


not great but you get the idea

 

[Railer]

but you get the idea

Any of the variants you mentioned would have done the job. I was frozen up, full of fear of getting yet another confirmation that I cannot get a "girl like her" (like the ones in viewtopic.php?f=5&t=12305).

I do have the number of one of the other girls and the guy ... but the same fear prevents me from asking any of them about getting in touch with the girl. I'm already convinced that it's a lost case anyway, regardless of how I'd go about it.

(For completeness sake: That other girl and "her" part of the group seem to be interested in arranging another meet; The guy - who is best friends with the girl this FR is about received my messages, but didn't respond.)

It might be all irrational (and I still hope it is), but even in moments when I do feel good and relaxed, those interactions go crash & burn.

 

[Fuck This]

I wouldn't worry about locking up.

Looking back, why was she your type?

What do girls of "your type" like to do? Are they athletic? Studious? Adventurous? direct the conversation in that direction and try to find a unique thing about her you can anchor your comments and questions around... The convo examples below are rather extreme for humor.

Have your self an Idea of what you want to find out about new people you meet. I always introduce myself, get the girl's name. One conversation thread can be heritage. "oh are your parents Scottish? With a name like MacDonald I'd just assume". Many times people are proud of their heritage. Notice I didn't say ethnicity...

Then transition to if she is local. This is good for college age girls in a university town or vacation town. "Where do you call Home?" Makes them explain themselves giving you more clues as to things to ask them.

This may be the chance to find out more about what their interests are or if you are really on point, invite them to have a more private conversation (aka isolation). "Hey, I'm going to grab a drink at the soda pop stand. Come keep me company and tell me more about your family's sheep ranch in the Highlands." This then lets you either escalate or get a number.


PS after latest post.

If you leave a first meeting with a girl without a way to contact her again you are signalling you are NOT interested in EVER seeing her again. don't do it unless it is truly the case.