Girls that have "rules" for first dates...

[killerman]

So what does everyone think about those girls who say they have "rules" for first dates? That is they say they don't kiss on a first date, or don't sleep with a guy on a first date. Do they genuinely have rules for first dates or is it just for guys that they're not into?

 

[Suave]

I think they might stick to the rules if they're attracted but not exceptionally, like if you connect great but not "amazingly great". However, they might let their "rules" down if they feel amazing being around you.

Very good game may be required.

 

[Paulie Walnuts]

Dealt with this before, haven't fucked anybody with a rule for no first date sex, but have kissed/made out/fingered etc. a few that have this rule. However it really depends on my confidence level, how playful I am etc.

There's other times when I get this rule and basically shit my pants and don't escalate whatsoever and she doesn't want to see me again (I have an FU report with one of these), sooooo take it with a grain of salt.

 

[Fuck This]

First you acknowledge that she is a strong independent woman, and that she is in complete control of her thoughts and actions. Most women create rules because they think they need to have some form of impulse control and are powerless without it.

Never argue with the rule.

Instead emphasize that you respect her wishes, and whether she has self imposed rules or not she is still a strong independent woman. "Hey, I totally respect your no kissing on a first date rule. But understand I would still totally respect you if you made an exception. If I qualify for an exception it is going to be up to you to make that clear to me....I'm not going to try to guess your mindset on that."

You are telling her the ball is in her court and you are completely outcome independent. She is probably so used to guys trying to power through that it will throw her off guard.

You can still use touch when appropriate, and seed sexual topics in your conversation.

If she decides to make you an exception it is usually VERY hot and passionate. Be ready to make the most of the opportunity.