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??? Personal preference good luck in france for example finding a girl that does not smoke.... i personally dont like it but i had ltr that smoke, with me one stop smoking.... there is no logic mental masturbation.... is what you tolerate, if is your preference good, if not dont...also would u want to have kids with smoker?
Definitely not!! Glad your perspective resonates with my thinking. Was feeling old school for opting out on kids with a smoker
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I smoked for a good amount if time in my early twenties,then quit. never again.
I am very adamant about taking care of my health. excercise daily. do restorative practices. disciplined about my diet. I want a women who is the same. Not only doing the bare minimum but actively/regularly working on optimizing that aspect of her life.
Smoking is terrible for your health and also creates mental instability. I don't want a partner who is frequently moody from addictive behaviors. Nor do I want a partner who willingly creates greater health risks. When unhealthy behaviors take a toll on her she will become a liability. Might not be now, might be 30 years down the line. Eventually though, unhealthy behavior catches up.
Am I cool with someone who rarely imbibes in this vice or that, recreationally and to a very minor degree (not getting all fucked up or going on binges). Sure. We are only human, life is short. We can recover from a little carelessness from time to time. I'll have a drink every now and then, or smoke some weed or something. But even someone who consistently imbibes in a minor way (one drink a few nights out of the week) is out of the running for LTR, for me. Not just because of the liability but because of the mindset that tends to come with it, and the moods as well. If I am investing for the long term, I need someone who is investing in there physical and psychological health long term. And their consistency in practice is palpable on a daily level.
But that's just me
I am very adamant about taking care of my health. excercise daily. do restorative practices. disciplined about my diet. I want a women who is the same. Not only doing the bare minimum but actively/regularly working on optimizing that aspect of her life.
Smoking is terrible for your health and also creates mental instability. I don't want a partner who is frequently moody from addictive behaviors. Nor do I want a partner who willingly creates greater health risks. When unhealthy behaviors take a toll on her she will become a liability. Might not be now, might be 30 years down the line. Eventually though, unhealthy behavior catches up.
Am I cool with someone who rarely imbibes in this vice or that, recreationally and to a very minor degree (not getting all fucked up or going on binges). Sure. We are only human, life is short. We can recover from a little carelessness from time to time. I'll have a drink every now and then, or smoke some weed or something. But even someone who consistently imbibes in a minor way (one drink a few nights out of the week) is out of the running for LTR, for me. Not just because of the liability but because of the mindset that tends to come with it, and the moods as well. If I am investing for the long term, I need someone who is investing in there physical and psychological health long term. And their consistency in practice is palpable on a daily level.
But that's just me
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Great thoughts. It takes guts to stick to your standards.
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@Boom_1982,
Like the other guys note, this is a preference.
Obviously if a guy smokes himself (tobacco, marijuana, crack, meth, etc.) he is probably not going to care or may prefer a girl he can smoke with.
If you're not a smoker though, unless it really doesn't bother you for some reason or other, you are probably not going to want to date a smoker.
Health, smell, behavioral issues the various kinds of smoking introduce, lifestyle choices, etc.
Chase
Like the other guys note, this is a preference.
Obviously if a guy smokes himself (tobacco, marijuana, crack, meth, etc.) he is probably not going to care or may prefer a girl he can smoke with.
If you're not a smoker though, unless it really doesn't bother you for some reason or other, you are probably not going to want to date a smoker.
Health, smell, behavioral issues the various kinds of smoking introduce, lifestyle choices, etc.
Chase