I'm back at graduate school and I've had a handful of girls show signs of interest and I've had multiple approach invitations. Im not really in their social circle and I don't know these girls well. I really want to focus on my grades and I don't want to date them. I have a best friend who's male who I always hang out with. I'm straight and he's straight. He's married to a hot blonde from laguna beach California and has two kids. . The thing is a lot of girls who have obvious signs of interest towards me always ask me who's that guy your always with? I get the sense that they think I may be gay when I'm not I'm just good friends with him. . How do I deal with this because there are rumors going around. Should I just ignore it?
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When my sexuality gets questioned, it's often because I'm not being very sexual - either low-key or directly - and in your case, when you pair that with the dude you're always hanging out with (who's probably also not being very sexual around other women if he's married with kids), it might make sense for people to talk.
The nice thing about ungrounded rumors is they fall apart in the face of hard proof. Start being more sexual around the girls or even fuck one of em and I'm sure those rumors will be a thing of the past.
The nice thing about ungrounded rumors is they fall apart in the face of hard proof. Start being more sexual around the girls or even fuck one of em and I'm sure those rumors will be a thing of the past.
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Rumors aren't always bad, man. It means no one knows the legitimate story. I say any news is good news - being infamous and famous are basically the same thing. I'd even go as far as to say its better than a good rumor.
If you honestly want nothing to do with the girls, but would rather the rumors stop, there's nothing wrong with a little innocent flirting and casual crass humor. The flirting will show you're not trying to avoid anyone, while keeping it innocent, and being gregarious in general in regards to girls will usually stomp the rumors out. Only thing to be careful of is that it doesn't come off as bragging about the girls you fuck. It'll make whether you're really desired come into question. It has to be non chalant.
If you're really secure, you could just go with it, knowing you yourself are straight. As long as you know you're straight, why Care? And if anyone is surprised when you're not gay, just say, "no one actually asked, they just assumed" and shrug.
Typically rumors are made because people want to know who you are as a person. Either give them something to categorize you as, or leave it a mystery until someone decides to find out the truth.
Jake.
If you honestly want nothing to do with the girls, but would rather the rumors stop, there's nothing wrong with a little innocent flirting and casual crass humor. The flirting will show you're not trying to avoid anyone, while keeping it innocent, and being gregarious in general in regards to girls will usually stomp the rumors out. Only thing to be careful of is that it doesn't come off as bragging about the girls you fuck. It'll make whether you're really desired come into question. It has to be non chalant.
If you're really secure, you could just go with it, knowing you yourself are straight. As long as you know you're straight, why Care? And if anyone is surprised when you're not gay, just say, "no one actually asked, they just assumed" and shrug.
Typically rumors are made because people want to know who you are as a person. Either give them something to categorize you as, or leave it a mystery until someone decides to find out the truth.
Jake.
