Giving Compliments:

[gijas04]

Lately, I have been approaching more women with compliments but have noticed that most to not react well with how I come off.

The Situation: At a local grocery store I approached a women and gave her a compliment on the dress she is wearing. She acts nervous and surprised, says thanks and looks way. I did look at her first so I know that was a mistake. And my approach was when I was passing her in the aisle.

My question is do you need to be right next to them first and break the touch barrier before giving a compliment? I know I read not to come in frontal or look at them. But why not passing and then turn as if they were sitting down? Also, I don't stop to introduce when they act disinterested. That may be part of the problem. Should I go ahead and introduce myself even when they act disinterested?

I have gone right up to women on their side but for some reason they immediately move down the aisle like their afraid of me? Not sure what's going on but I think my vibe is off.

 

[Light]

Its not what you say but How you say it.

Maybe you didn't sound sincere, and did you smile?

The way you should go about it is as if you literally just noticed something awesome about her. So it doesn't look like the compliment was planned.

eg: So maybe you turn to look at her and you immediately notice how nice her dress is, and you say "oh hey! I love your dress!" - you need to give spontaneous compliments, with enthusiasm, so that it sounds like you really meant it.

 

[gijas04]

Thanks Light. I never thought to smile as oddly as that sounds. Usually I keep a strait face. I do say a compliments like I mean it but with little face expression. Just with my voice. I think younger women don't know how to take compliments. They freak out or something or think its weird usually. I'm sure its how I'm presenting it but its not consisant as some women usually older 30 something's respond well. I'm not sure if anyone else notices this?