FR Glasses and Girls at the Mall

[JayP]

Went to the mall today to get some new glasses, and I figured why not get some approaches in?! Started off pretty nervous and missed a few girls on my way to the LensCrafters store. I went to sign in, saw two cute enough girls at the check-in. I read Hector's most recent article, and incorporated more of a carefree attitude when I spoke. I definitely noticed a difference in how I was perceived, in a good way. When I was filling out the health information sheet, I got the idea to "accidentally" put a check on the "Are you pregnant?" box to get them out of autopilot. It made them laugh and I could tell they were looking at me differently (in a good way I gathered!)

One of the cute girls did my eye exam and as we were going through it, I made some banter with her, but I didn't warm up beforehand, so I didn't get into any deep diving. I noticed that as she was giving me instructions for the test, she would laugh almost nervously. I couldn't tell if this was out of shyness and attraction, or if I was doing something stupid and didn't know it lol. I still got the vibe that she was attracted, and there was a moment after my test was done that I think I could have used to talk more, but I was too nervous about someone else interrupting us, and I went out to wait for the doctor. Three chairs for guests, and I saw a cute girl on the left one, and the two to her right empty. I sat on the right one and left a chair between us. (Would it have been weird to sit in the middle one near her, too obvious?)

Anyway, after a few moments, I asked her if it was her first time here, and she said she was actually here for her sister's appointment. She was kind of indifferent at first, but as I deep dived her, she opened up a bit more. Then the doctor came out and said I could come into his office. (Damn, wanted to get her number before I had to go)

I went back to the girl that did my exam, some more banter, and her cute friend at the front desk to pay, and they were acting a little more carefree. At one point, one of the cute girls asked, while laughing, the girl that did my exam, "Why are you smiling?" Fairly certain there was some attraction after that. I just didn’t know how to go for her number here. I read a couple of the articles on GC, but her coworkers were right there, and some were walking by occasionally. I did go back to them to get their opinion on some frames I was picking out to get some investment; I didn’t know how to go for the number here either.
After, I went to grab lunch in the food court while waiting for them to make glasses for me, and I tried a couple of other hired guns in the clothing stores. The first one in Express, I used Chase’s clothing store opener: Grab a women’s clothing item and ask, “Do you think this makes my eyes stand out?” She wasn’t impressed haha. She chuckled a little, and walked away.

After I picked up my glasses, I tried a couple more clothing stores. Around this time, I was getting frustrated since I lost my momentum from the LensCrafters and I was having trouble approaching. Tried another hired gun to no avail, then I realized I couldn’t find the parking lot my car was in. I decided to try one last clothing store to ask where my parking lot was, and a hired gun with some nice tits asked me if I needed any help. Think it went something like this:

I asked her if she could help find my parking lot:

Her: Hi, do you need any help?
Me: I do. You're going to laugh at me, but can you tell me where parking lot A is? I tried looking on the mall map, but it wasn't labeled.
Her: (laughs) Honestly, I'm new here, so I couldn't tell you 100%, but I think (gives directions here).
Me: Awesome thanks. I was trying to avoid looking stupid, but I figured, just get it over with and find your car.

We both laugh.

Me: So you're new here? Where are you from originally?
Her: (Some town near atlantic city)
Me: Really? Wow. What are you doing out here? It must take you a while to get there and back.
Her: I live with my boyfriend close by, so I don't have to deal with the driving.

Fuck, seems like I mostly run into girls with boyfriends or that aren't in the most conducive-to-conversation places. I would have still pushed, but she was at work, and I don't want to hit on all the hired guns at the mall in case I really need to shop for something.

Some more deep diving. I learn she's a nursing major and she loves learning about the body. I noticed she got pretty comfortable talking about herself because she saw some other guests come into the clothing store, but she looked right back at me and kept talking.I threw in a touch on her arm or two to make a point, and referred to her loving the human body, saying that she would take me into the back and examine my body while trying out clothes, and that I would have to yell out I'm being harrassed. She laughed and we kept talking.

The boyfriend thing put a damper on me getting her number, I still need to push through this, but it was a hired gun, so I didn't go for it. I bid her farewell.

As I walking outside to my car, I saw a girl smoking outside, guessing she was another hired gun on her break. i walked in her directions, and went indirect:

Me: Excuse me, do you know where parking lot A is? (Knowing it was right there)
Her: Yeah, it's actually right there.
Me: (I laugh) Damn, look at that

We both laugh, and I get into deep diving here. She said her ex was stationed in the military here. Pretty sure she said her ex was a girl. I pushed through anyway. I remember Colt writing an article on lesbians about how girls are most open to things than guys, and even lesbians have sex with guys just to try it. Complete opposite of us guys haha. I throw in a comment about her undressing me with her eyes when she saw me walking by. I can't remember what led to me saying this, but I said something along the lines of:

Just think, what would a man like me want as a reward?

We both look at each other for a second, then I say we can go behind a corner and no one would know. She laughs and pushed my shoulder.

Some more deep diving, around here, I start stumbling for conversation, and I mention I have to leave in a couple of minutes. I gave her my phone and she put her number in. I know I kind of messed up here when I asked what she was doing tonight and she said she was closing at her shift. Then I asked about tomorrow and she said she had to work early. I think I should have just gotten the number and left.

Overall, I'm happy I did a few approaches. Some I was more comfortable than others. Some things I noticed:

- I don't know if this is justifiable, but I hit on a couple of hired guns already, so the girl with the boyfriend I didn't ask for her number because I don't want an awkward interaction afterwards with any store I go into
- I have a tendency to make near-awkward silences when I can't think of anything to say
- Once I got the girl's number, she told me to text her, but we just walked away and didn't really say bye. It happened so quickly, I didn't realize it. Is this a big deal, or am I just nitpicking the end?
- My eyes are really opening up to how cool girls are with guys talking to them in the daytime if they're high value enough

I texted the girl smoking after three hours saying it was wonderful to meet a new friend. I'll text her tomorrow to set up a date and see if she bites. Considering she's a lesbian, I'd be surprised.

Feedback always appreciated!

 

[brandoan95]

When I was filling out the health information sheet, I got the idea to "accidentally" put a check on the "Are you pregnant?" box to get them out of autopilot. It made them laugh and I could tell they were looking at me differently (in a good way I gathered!)

I never thought of doing that lol. Good shit bro

"I went back to the girl that did my exam, some more banter, and her cute friend at the front desk to pay, and they were acting a little more carefree. At one point, one of the cute girls asked, while laughing, the girl that did my exam, "Why are you smiling?" Fairly certain there was some attraction after that. I just didn’t know how to go for her number here. I read a couple of the articles on GC, but her coworkers were right there, and some were walking by occasionally. I did go back to them to get their opinion on some frames I was picking out to get some investment; I didn’t know how to go for the number here either

I think you should've just went for it bro. Her friend kind of had the inside scoop that she liked you so i don't think the girl you were getting at would've tried to save face if you asked for her #. She definitely gave you signs of interest in her laughing and smiling around you.

The boyfriend thing put a damper on me getting her number, I still need to push through this, but it was a hired gun, so I didn't go for it. I bid her farewell.

I think with more repetition your # grabs will be much more natural. Eventually you'll stop thinking about it and get her # much more smoothly.


I have a question though man. I've been trying to get better at day game so I've been hitting the local malls. However, i'm really inconsistent with my approaches. On certain days i can approach a decent amount of girls and then other days i'm mindlessly walking around the mall, stuck in my head, too nervous to talk to anyone. I was wondering if you had any tips that might have helped you out when you opened these girls?

 

[JayP]

I never thought of doing that lol. Good shit bro

lol yeah, just came to me last minute.

I think you should've just went for it bro. Her friend kind of had the inside scoop that she liked you so i don't think the girl you were getting at would've tried to save face if you asked for her #. She definitely gave you signs of interest in her laughing and smiling around you.

I'm glad to hear that. I was going back and forth about doing it. Later that day, I was more convinced I should have just said fuck it and gone for it. Good to get some validation.

I have a question though man. I've been trying to get better at day game so I've been hitting the local malls. However, i'm really inconsistent with my approaches. On certain days i can approach a decent amount of girls and then other days i'm mindlessly walking around the mall, stuck in my head, too nervous to talk to anyone. I was wondering if you had any tips that might have helped you out when you opened these girls?

I took a tip from Chase's article about naturals, the guys that are just so effortless with talking to anyone.

https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-naturals-meet-girls-and-get-laid

If I'm particularly nervous about talking to anyone at all, I'll go into a shop and ask a question about one of the products or shirts, just like you would if you weren't going out to approach. Make some small talk with the employee, or get into a little deep diving. Doesn't even need to be a girl. The point is to get your social momentum going. You can pick anything that you see and just comment on it near someone as well, like an ugly pair of shoes on the wall for example. Say hi to the old lady you hold the door for behind you. Any conversation helps. Any. It won't always be smooth at first, and sometimes it'll just be awkward, but either way, you get warmed up to talk.

Think about this: Why is there a preheat setting on ovens? Why can't we just put something in there once we turn it on? If you put some cookies in there before there's enough heat trapped to bake properly though, they won't come out well baked or evenly. Some parts will be colder than others. Just like approaching and talking. If you get warmed up and talking before you go for the approaches, you'll be more hard-wired to chat and maintain conversation rather than jumping in and stumbling.

Anything you can do to warm up will help, and the girls you charm will benefit too. Hope my cookie analogy helps!