Hey fam,
Q: How can you be more aggressive, direct, or establish intent in business settings especially in the current climate?
Quick profile, I'm early 30's startup founder, down in the MIA
As a business owner (startup), I'm at networkers all the time. But more so I also host events, sit on panels, and have speaking engagements. Often, I meet amazingly beautiful women and several often walk up to me to talk business or seek advice. High percentage want to talk after and the pretense is always to provide career or business advice, be a mentor, or even be an official adviser or investor on their idea or business.
I was never the creepy douchey guy that goes after vulnerable girls or ones that just came to me for advice nor do I want to be. I have nor ever had major issues being aggressive or flirty (although consistency in escalation is a sore spot). But now there's a larger age gap, I'm too busy to find women outside of these spheres, and because of my industry (yup, I work in a space that is about women advancement, company risk mgmt, and corporate legal), it can be awkward after being on panel about advancing women in tech and then trying to ask this beautiful woman out who I've seemingly clicked with (I always mix in business talk w/ social talk and humor, I can be a charming guy ;-) ), and when I do I say something like "hey this was fun, let's keep this going and grab a coffee or drink sometime in the coming week" and her response is "yeah! let's talk business, I would love your insight on my plans". AND YES THEY ALWAYS come with a note pad or open laptop and basically start interviewing me and talking biz.
More BG:
Networkers used to be the absolute #1 place I use to pull dates especially in the West coast but often it was with peers so there wasn't a senior mentor pretense. I was in finance meeting other finance girls, or med students, lawyers, and just other women on their grind. I had no problem asking them out for clear dates. Even if there was an air of it could include shop talk, it was clear when I got the number, that this is a social thing. Im now starring across some bright-eyed 22 year old saying 'be my mentor or help be write my business plan' - - - ahh, no.
Having a mental block or road map to the transition. I'm starting to try out something simple after the first meet "Hey how about next time we meet, we do something more social, do you dance?". i don't think that'll work evey time but thinking it'll get me further than now.
Q: How can you be more aggressive, direct, or establish intent in business settings especially in the current climate?
Quick profile, I'm early 30's startup founder, down in the MIA
As a business owner (startup), I'm at networkers all the time. But more so I also host events, sit on panels, and have speaking engagements. Often, I meet amazingly beautiful women and several often walk up to me to talk business or seek advice. High percentage want to talk after and the pretense is always to provide career or business advice, be a mentor, or even be an official adviser or investor on their idea or business.
I was never the creepy douchey guy that goes after vulnerable girls or ones that just came to me for advice nor do I want to be. I have nor ever had major issues being aggressive or flirty (although consistency in escalation is a sore spot). But now there's a larger age gap, I'm too busy to find women outside of these spheres, and because of my industry (yup, I work in a space that is about women advancement, company risk mgmt, and corporate legal), it can be awkward after being on panel about advancing women in tech and then trying to ask this beautiful woman out who I've seemingly clicked with (I always mix in business talk w/ social talk and humor, I can be a charming guy ;-) ), and when I do I say something like "hey this was fun, let's keep this going and grab a coffee or drink sometime in the coming week" and her response is "yeah! let's talk business, I would love your insight on my plans". AND YES THEY ALWAYS come with a note pad or open laptop and basically start interviewing me and talking biz.
More BG:
Networkers used to be the absolute #1 place I use to pull dates especially in the West coast but often it was with peers so there wasn't a senior mentor pretense. I was in finance meeting other finance girls, or med students, lawyers, and just other women on their grind. I had no problem asking them out for clear dates. Even if there was an air of it could include shop talk, it was clear when I got the number, that this is a social thing. Im now starring across some bright-eyed 22 year old saying 'be my mentor or help be write my business plan' - - - ahh, no.
Having a mental block or road map to the transition. I'm starting to try out something simple after the first meet "Hey how about next time we meet, we do something more social, do you dance?". i don't think that'll work evey time but thinking it'll get me further than now.
