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Going out alone and being too anti social

ChalupaBatman

Tool-Bearing Hominid
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For the guys that go out alone, I need your advice. What is your game plan when you get into a bar. For instance, I usually head to the bar and grab a beer... but from there I'm pretty lost. I wind up perched against the bar looking around for who I want to talk to but I end up being anti social and the night ends up being an epic fail.

I've noticed this is a reoccurring problem for me. I did run into two cute girls I worked with, but it was awkward. I was walking by and they were in line for the restroom so I said hey and we made strange small talk. I could tell they were uncomfortable so I told them to have a good night and I moved on to the next bar.

I've finally gotten over the anxiety of going out alone, but now I don't know what to do when I'm out. So what is y'all's approach? What can I do to fix this problem?
 
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Franco

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Hey CB,

I really love to just be perched at the bar and kinda take in the environment -- but when you do this, make sure your pose is constantly sexy, you are holding bedroom eyes, and you aren't "eye-chasing" people. Your head movements should be few and slow. Just imagine James Bond at a bar waiting for his enemy to arrive. He slips into the crowd, but in a very sexy, manly way.

This might be a good read for you if you haven't seen it already; Chase makes some great comments here that might help give you some perspective when going out alone:

See The Room

Cheers,

Franco
 
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