Going out tonight, any quick advice?

[AdamEngineer]

So im going out for the first time in a while. The weather is warm and so it's gonna be packed at the college bars. I get real anxious for whatever reason going to the bars when its warm as all the girls dress super sexy. I guess I get real intimidated by them. How do I not let this consume me and be able to enjoy myself but also putting myself out there? Whats the best way to give value and also shoot my shots?

 

[Fuck This]

Absorb the energy around you. Hear the music and let yourself be amused by the people around you. You are basically people watching for entertainment.

Drop all your expectations and engage people around you. Male, Female whatever... Just have conversations and see where it goes...You will probably never see any of these people ever again so don't beat yourself up if they lose interest or drift away. It takes some warm up to become social. Remember you are out there to have a good time for yourself. Not anyone else... If you are having a good time, people are attracted to that.

 

[AdamEngineer]

Thanks that simplifies it.

I mean its hard for me to have a good time out as its not something I inherently enjoy especially if I'm not with the best company. Its hard to focus on having fun when all I really want to do is talk to attractive women and maybe hook up. Its a scarcity mentality but its more so of a proof to myself that I haven't made true yet that it IS possible.