This is gonna be a very simple report, nothing particular happened, but it's the first time I go alone to a party, and I would like to get some feedback.
I live in a big international campus in Paris where the vast majority of people are students from around the world. And one of the residences there was hosting a party on a Wednesday night, so I decided to go. My friends cancelled the last minute, but I was determined to go, and didn't even realise I was going to a party alone until I got there. I had figured that I would certainly meet some people that I know there, but I didn't. And on top of that the party was dead.
When I went into the venue I see a few people scattered in groups. Then I see a couple of cute girls. Without even thinking about it I go over to them and say hi (which is a huge step for me and a big improvement in approaching). They look at me, then look at each other with the "who's that guy" look, but they were smiling and seemed a bit intrigued rather than creeped out so I continued chatting with them. The conversation felt forced and my vibe was off. The music was too loud so I proposed stepping out a bit to talk, but they said they didn't wanna leave their friends (who they weren't even talking to). We talked some more, then tried again with the same response. Ejected.
I went to the edge of some sort of stage and sat there, there were 4 girls sitting there to my right, I didn't sit too close. Checked my phone for a while, then went over and sat right next to them. I turned towards them and said hello (probably could have preopened), and after a bit of awkwardness I was speaking to the girl next to me. She's italian, came to Paris through an exchange program for 1 semester. Her friends were visiting her from italy. I started talking to her friend who was right next to her, big language barrier issue (barely speaks english) but we managed to have a conversation the threeof us. A few minutes later the other friends come, then they tell me they have to leave, their flight is tomorrow. Damn. Afterwards I stay for a bit and then leave.
Honestly I felt a lot of pressure going out alone. It wasn't easy at all, especially since there weren't many people there. I also felt my vibe was off, I can't tell why, and I couldn't get past small talk, which is a recurring problem nowadays. But on the up side I'm getting more comfortable speaking french, and can actually hold a pretty decent conversation with people.
Any thoughts or comments?
I live in a big international campus in Paris where the vast majority of people are students from around the world. And one of the residences there was hosting a party on a Wednesday night, so I decided to go. My friends cancelled the last minute, but I was determined to go, and didn't even realise I was going to a party alone until I got there. I had figured that I would certainly meet some people that I know there, but I didn't. And on top of that the party was dead.
When I went into the venue I see a few people scattered in groups. Then I see a couple of cute girls. Without even thinking about it I go over to them and say hi (which is a huge step for me and a big improvement in approaching). They look at me, then look at each other with the "who's that guy" look, but they were smiling and seemed a bit intrigued rather than creeped out so I continued chatting with them. The conversation felt forced and my vibe was off. The music was too loud so I proposed stepping out a bit to talk, but they said they didn't wanna leave their friends (who they weren't even talking to). We talked some more, then tried again with the same response. Ejected.
I went to the edge of some sort of stage and sat there, there were 4 girls sitting there to my right, I didn't sit too close. Checked my phone for a while, then went over and sat right next to them. I turned towards them and said hello (probably could have preopened), and after a bit of awkwardness I was speaking to the girl next to me. She's italian, came to Paris through an exchange program for 1 semester. Her friends were visiting her from italy. I started talking to her friend who was right next to her, big language barrier issue (barely speaks english) but we managed to have a conversation the threeof us. A few minutes later the other friends come, then they tell me they have to leave, their flight is tomorrow. Damn. Afterwards I stay for a bit and then leave.
Honestly I felt a lot of pressure going out alone. It wasn't easy at all, especially since there weren't many people there. I also felt my vibe was off, I can't tell why, and I couldn't get past small talk, which is a recurring problem nowadays. But on the up side I'm getting more comfortable speaking french, and can actually hold a pretty decent conversation with people.
Any thoughts or comments?
