Good comebacks to 'I don't hang out with strangers'?

[sneaky_charm]

I get 'I don't hang out with strangers' a lot when I ask for another meetup. And everytime I get it, I don't know what to say next.

I understand that when a girl says something like this that means I failed to do a good job eariler; however, is there any way to turn it around?

- Sneaky

 

[trashKENNUT]

sneaky_charm,

I understand that when a girl says something like this that means I failed to do a good job eariler; however, is there any way to turn it around?

Usually this happens with more inexperienced girls. but you right. The initial approach is bad but it can be the girls are not interested. Nothing personal by them

Zac

 

[sneaky_charm]

Hi Zac!

Could it be the case that the girl doesn't want to appear too easy, so she plays hard-to-get by objecting? At least in some cases?

- Sneaky

 

[Franco]

sneaky,

Could it be the case that the girl doesn't want to appear too easy, so she plays hard-to-get by objecting? At least in some cases?

It's a pretty harsh objection if a girl refers to you as a "stranger" in the way you mentioned above, and it's likely that you didn't build enough of a connection or attraction beforehand. Feel free to experiment with ways of recovering from this, but it sounds like you'll be fighting an uphill battle when you could just be approaching new girls and trying to correct the source of the problem.

- Franco

 

[sneaky_charm]

Hi Franco!

I totally think that you're right. Thanks!

And also, maybe there is something else going on. That is because it is a completely different world. I haven't gone out of my country yet (hope this year works out), but from what I read, see and hear, this place is totally different from America, Europe and many other Asian countries even.

The thing is, in the US or other countries, most chicks have at least some experience talking to random guys. Most chicks go to parties, clubs. Talking to strangers is not that big of a deal. But here, young chicks almost never go to clubs. Maybe club going percentage is about 2% or so.

They rarely go to parties. Even sleepovers are uncommon. Girls don't tell their parents if they have a BF, public affection showing is a no no and many other things. Guys are not allowed to stay over the night at a girl's house, and vice versa.

Also, the media doesn't talk about dating openly here. You will rarely find articles about dating, sex and all those stuff. The big three - Delhi, Mumbai and Bangalore are different, but I'm not in any of those.

So maybe, they're just too protecitve of themselves. Since they have nearly zero experience talking to strangers, many of them don't know how to respond.

However, I know that my approach must have something peculiar about it at times, because many other girls receive me quite warmly. But at the same time, I think I need to understand what this 'stranger' nut is better in the context of this place, and not assume that it is an automatic turn off. Cause I got the stranger thing from some girls who gave me good EC, too.

- Sneaky

 

[John Elton]

sneaky_charm,

I understand that when a girl says something like this that means I failed to do a good job eariler; however, is there any way to turn it around?

Usually this happens with more inexperienced girls. but you right. The initial approach is bad but it can be the girls are not interested. Nothing personal by them

Zac

That doesn't answer his question,

I've seen enough of you. You're on my ignore list

 

[trashKENNUT]

John Elton,

I like to add something. So don't go rant on me but you give me something.

The fundamental flaw of humans. "Choice of Perception", what you want to look at. Let's make this simple. You actually want me to give him an answer.

You are right. I did miss the question that he posted. But on his part, it is important to gather the pieces, try things out and see if he can get results he wants. The result he wants is "whether he can turn things around after a bad approach."

On surface level, you probably right. I did not answer his question. But just maybe if he take this opportunity, you actually dig deep, learn why people say things, who they are and whether his counsel can be applied to his situation.

When you learn to dig deep, you not only get answers for today, but tomorrow as well, and you don't need to post questions here so much because you be enjoying life.

The last paragraph is an exaggeration, however true. I am slightly annoyed. What the heck.

Zac