Good frame after recent breakup?

[Blush]

I recently broke up with a girlfriend I've been with for a couple of years, which is sad of course, but we hold no bitterness against each other.

However, I met another girl around a year ago that I instantly liked. And I'm pretty sure she liked me too. But I never pursued anything with her back then, since both of us were in relationships at the tome, and I wanted to see how things would evolve with my girlfriend.

The thing is, I met this girl again a month ago, and I still think she's great, and she's single now.

Now I'm single too, and it would be foolish of me not to try and get in touch with this girl again. But something tells me that giving a girl a call saying "Hello again, I'm also single now since a couple of weeks, wanna hook up??" Will spark zero joy or excitement. I'm not looking for a rebound relationship to crash and burn in, I'm just genuinely attracted to her and I've thought about her a lot since we first met.

I have no experience with this current situation, but I'm a bit worried she will hold the short time since my breakup against me, and become suspicious that I use her only for comfort, and that I just want a lap to cry in. I don't. But I have zero time for going into some biohacked bootcamp of breakup solace doing pushups and reading Marcus Aurelius in silence in my room for three months. I got into women and pickup way too late in life for that stuff, I want to move on and meet and talk to more women.

I want her to feel appreciated and wanted, since that's sincerely the case, but I want to avoid any situations or convos that make her feel like I'm looking for a monkey branch. Thoughts?

 

[HoofHearted]

I want to move on and meet and talk to more women.

There it is, sir. Why not go do that?

Instead of 'There's this one girl...'

My guess: it probably will not work out with the specific girl that you're going to start chasing. It could, but probably not.

My maxim: You can have girls, not 'a girl.'

(Many meanings buried in here, but heres two: we pull from a general field of girls, not focus on a specific girl, in order to get girls, we don't control the specifics. And number two, a corollary: we are not in control in other people, aka you never own 'em).

My two cents.

But if you're gonna do it, and more on topic for the question so heres the reply you might actually want...

I say be like the kitty cat. When kittt has attention on something, he doesn't walk right up to it. There are always seems to be something interesting nearby, and oops, we're suddenly in the same vicinity together...

Or go in big dick swinging and just go get it done with so you start cold approaching sooner.

 

[Echoes]

May even advise not bothering to talk about the relationship at all unless she brings it up. Just reach out and let her know you'd like to grab a drink/coffee sometime and roll forward with her and any other ladies that enter the picture. If she mentions it, just say it was a mutual breakup and you're off to enjoy wonderful new experiences. (Senior members feel free to critique any of the phrasing)

 

[Skills]

I recently broke up with a girlfriend I've been with for a couple of years, which is sad of course, but we hold no bitterness against each other.

However, I met another girl around a year ago that I instantly liked. And I'm pretty sure she liked me too. But I never pursued anything with her back then, since both of us were in relationships at the tome, and I wanted to see how things would evolve with my girlfriend.

The thing is, I met this girl again a month ago, and I still think she's great, and she's single now.

Now I'm single too, and it would be foolish of me not to try and get in touch with this girl again. But something tells me that giving a girl a call saying "Hello again, I'm also single now since a couple of weeks, wanna hook up??" Will spark zero joy or excitement. I'm not looking for a rebound relationship to crash and burn in, I'm just genuinely attracted to her and I've thought about her a lot since we first met.

I have no experience with this current situation, but I'm a bit worried she will hold the short time since my breakup against me, and become suspicious that I use her only for comfort, and that I just want a lap to cry in. I don't. But I have zero time for going into some biohacked bootcamp of breakup solace doing pushups and reading Marcus Aurelius in silence in my room for three months. I got into women and pickup way too late in life for that stuff, I want to move on and meet and talk to more women.

I want her to feel appreciated and wanted, since that's sincerely the case, but I want to avoid any situations or convos that make her feel like I'm looking for a monkey branch. Thoughts?

Your worry is legit u will tell everyone there is about your break up, i believe is a way of healing.... i personally was upfront and it actually help me, probably more challenging cause my emotions on someone else... and the girl may be i want that.... but yeah rebound legit..