Goofy Vs Sexy

[Zoro]

After Chase's post on hair length, I've decided to grow my hair long.

I realized I am a bit goofy with my humor, which he mentions NOT to be when having long hair.

I feel like I'm lost trying to not be goofy. What do I replace it with?

 

[Franco]

J Wick,

Personally, if you feel like NOT being goofy is much more difficult for you, then maybe keeping the shorter hair is the best way to go.

I personally prefer short to medium length hair in all cases, but to pull off the long-hair look, you really have to be masculine in every sense of the word for it to work well. Feel free to experiment though and see how it works for you.

- Franco

 

[CockyRider]

Even though I don't intend on growing my hair long what can be defined as goofy or slapstick humor? What's the difference between that and good ol' self-deprecation?

 

[Franco]

CR,

Even though I don't intend on growing my hair long what can be defined as goofy or slapstick humor? What's the difference between that and good ol' self-deprecation?

If you find yourself laughing uncontrollably pretty often, then you're probably more of the "goofy" nature than you are of the "manly" nature. If you think about it, you never really see the "Fabios" of the world laughing uncontrollably -- they smile and let out a laugh here and there, but they're never rolling on the floor holding their stomach because it's hurting from laughter. =)

- Franco

 

[Hector Papi Castillo]

I actually come originally from the "class clown" seduction style. I mixed it with "douchebag" and "intellectually superior" and it worked WONDERS my first few years in college. It's a very hard style to pull off, because you can easily become the entertainer, but in my school where most of the kids were nerdy fucking chodes, it was a godsend to women everywhere.

Watch this interview with Jason Momoa. He's rugged, manly, but hella goofy.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EibF3daZStE

When he has his "can't even breathe because I'm laughing so hard," I know that all the girls out there are SWOONING because this manly fuck has a goofy side. Same here, when I was in classes and challenging people's arguments and putting mine out there in a very intellectually dominant way, girls would get turned on -then I'd turn around, and make the whole class laugh and crack up at my own jokes. Their eyes light up. Again, this could have just been that I'm the most dominant man in their life, but competition wasn't too stiff, but I've outcompeted some manly dudes with my goofy shit. I used to walk around campus with pink sandals, yell obscene shit really loudly, and talk to EVERYBODY, no matter their social status. I was loud, funny, but also very strong and sexy. And my sophomore year, I had super long hair. Other than a few "I feel like I'm kissing a girl" comments from girls (who I would still fuck), I was a pretty studly dude for my age.

Then again, I was pretty good already, so if you don't have your fundamentals down pat and you can't instantly react to shifting social geography, then probably best to work on your manliness first.

If you want a perfect way to flip between manly and goofy, start this video at 9:30 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BmQzGKIEV2I

- Hector

 

[Smurf]

Is there any way to "flip" in between?

If I feel like putting off a masculine presence, can I let my hair down and chill and control my vibe like that, then if I want to act goofy, tie my hair up so it has the illusion of short length and act wild and goofy? I definitely feel like I could switch between each.

Also, is there an article up on acting masculine on the site?

Jake.

 

[Byron]

Momoa's a great example of masculinity!
What about people like Loki, I think he pulls off long hair pretty well, but isn't traditionally masculine? I talked with Mischief a bit about this, how feminine traits can go into a masculine frame, is that it? That one's frame must be masculine?
On another note, besides upping fundamentals and frame, how does one go about becoming more rugged and wild (also growing my hair out)?

 

[Zoro]

J Wick,

Personally, if you feel like NOT being goofy is much more difficult for you, then maybe keeping the shorter hair is the best way to go.

I personally prefer short to medium length hair in all cases, but to pull off the long-hair look, you really have to be masculine in every sense of the word for it to work well. Feel free to experiment though and see how it works for you.

- Franco

Are you saying I'm not man enough for the man mane, Franco?



I always appreciate your advice, Franco.
But I do like the idea of it being a challenge and its worth it to me to experiment. It will be further motivation to build muscle and add dimension to my personality. I do like the short hair styles as well and I plan on going very short eventually.

This is really about focusing on some weak areas and facing them head on. Do or die.

Watch this interview with Jason Momoa. He's rugged, manly, but hella goofy.

This dude kind of looks and acts like me... I have a bigger nose and less muscle, but we have that exotic dark look. The way he gets excited about little things, like life is a beautiful wonder, is also similar.

Perhaps I'm actually over thinking this. I do need to build muscle and develop my manly, go getter, risk taker, no-hesitation-when-I-see-that-cute-bittie side, but I'm on my way there. Like I said, growing out my hair will put me in a position where I need to focus on those issues.

Thanks for the responses fellas.

PS

I hang out with these two manly mutha fuggas. One I've mentioned before as a "machine," he has no problem with the ladies, fighting 3 or more guys at once, or playing bass guitar with his hand in stiches. And he has a goofy side. The other is still manly in his own right but way goofier. No doubt they are rubbing off on me both in manly and goofy ways, but the goofy side is easier to adopt. Being goofy really isn't so bad, just want to focus on my weaker area of manliness.

Momoa's a great example of masculinity!
What about people like Loki, I think he pulls off long hair pretty well, but isn't traditionally masculine? I talked with Mischief a bit about this, how feminine traits can go into a masculine frame, is that it? That one's frame must be masculine?
On another note, besides upping fundamentals and frame, how does one go about becoming more rugged and wild (also growing my hair out)?

Hanging out with manly dudes is one way. That has been helping me. But I could use a little more clarity on what it means to NOT be goofy too. I think of James Bond or Brad Pitt I guess.

Is there any way to "flip" in between?

If I feel like putting off a masculine presence, can I let my hair down and chill and control my vibe like that, then if I want to act goofy, tie my hair up so it has the illusion of short length and act wild and goofy? I definitely feel like I could switch between each.

Also, is there an article up on acting masculine on the site?

Jake.

In Chase's article the NOT goofy advice was aimed at both short and long hair styles. According to him, medium pulls it off best. But I think Anatman's advice and videos explains how to do goofy and still be manly well. It seems its about having that manly side well developed.

 

[Chase]

Byron-

What about people like Loki, I think he pulls off long hair pretty well, but isn't traditionally masculine? I talked with Mischief a bit about this, how feminine traits can go into a masculine frame, is that it? That one's frame must be masculine?

Keep in mind, the movie also shows you Loki being a badass - killing bad guys, beating his (more masculine) brother, seizing control of Asgard. That lends him enough of a "masculine air" to compensate for any of his more feminine traits, like his brooding/emotional personality and his preference for cunning over bravado.

Aside from that, his other fundamentals are on-point as well: charismatic, dominant, and a great shot of Byronic traits and vulnerabilities.

He's an attractive, powerful, yet flawed, man in need of "saving by the right girl", essentially. Masculinity is provided by his actions rather than initial impression, in this case. When you see him at the start of the movie without any background on him, Thor's the far more impressive of the two. It isn't until you get to see Loki's behavior and actions that you potentially come to like him more (and swoon, if you're a girl).

There's also the "bad guy effect": girls like the villain. He breaks the rules. And girls like rule breakers.

Chase