got the 1st date,BUT she wants 2 meet w her friends lastmin.

[razir110]

Hey everyone!
So, I got this girl number and texted her a few days later to meet. she said ok and a few hours later, like 30 mins before the date time, she texted me asking if i wanted to meet her and her friends in another place and that we would go to the previous venue (the one I had arranged) some other time. So what does this mean? How should I react? Refuse straight away and say that I want to meet her and not her friends? Or accept, go there and start flirting with her female buddies and ignore her almost completely? The thing here is the fact that she kinda broke the date last minute.
This is a sticky situation and I would like you opinions on this one! Thankz

 

[JMP_123]

Re: got the 1st date,BUT she wants 2 meet w her friends last

Bummer, same thing has kind of happen to me recently. Was talking with a girl on the side for a few weeks. She kept dancing around doing anything b/c "she gets freaked out by persistence." I have good intentions and just wanted to meet out but I HAD to settle for meeting her out and her friends were out with a few guys as well. So no harm no foul. You just have to pick your spots with just her, not be a jerk to her friends, and don't be overbearing.

But in your case a legit date was brushed off. First I would make it my business to let her know something like "oh ok I wanted to take just you out, but it's ok if I meet you and your friends out." It clearly means she doesn't want to do a lot of one-on-one with you yet OR she just is immature and can't handle adults interactions with one guy interested in her. So definitely meet her out, if her friends are fun and not singling you out all night go with it and have a good time. Pick your spots to try one-on-one time with the girl you're talking to. And as a backup plan you can leave whenever you want OR have guy-friends "coincidentally" bump into you out and make it a larger,more even, group hang out. Help?

JMP

 

[trashKENNUT]

Re: got the 1st date,BUT she wants 2 meet w her friends last

So what does this mean? How should I react? Refuse straight away and say that I want to meet her and not her friends? Or accept, go there and start flirting with her female buddies and ignore her almost completely? The thing here is the fact that she kinda broke the date last minute.

You can ignore her completely, and give her a radio silence for three days. or you could possibly take a chance and go there, flirt with her female buddies. This will amped up attraction if you do well, but this also tend to end you up in the boyfriend role as well.

Zac

 

[JMP_123]

Re: got the 1st date,BUT she wants 2 meet w her friends last

So what does this mean? How should I react? Refuse straight away and say that I want to meet her and not her friends? Or accept, go there and start flirting with her female buddies and ignore her almost completely? The thing here is the fact that she kinda broke the date last minute.

You can ignore her completely, and give her a radio silence for three days. or you could possibly take a chance and go there, flirt with her female buddies. This will amped up attraction if you do well, but this also tend to end you up in the boyfriend role as well.

Zac

IVK, don't listen to the above post lol. I don't see how any of that would benefit you in this situation.

 

[trashKENNUT]

Re: got the 1st date,BUT she wants 2 meet w her friends last

IVK, don't listen to the above post lol. I don't see how any of that would benefit you in this situation.

A learning experience. It's a brush off, but who knows, if he gets things right, he wins. Otherwise there's no harm as she's not that into him.

Zac

 

[razir110]

Re: got the 1st date,BUT she wants 2 meet w her friends last

Hey!
I just went to meet her and her buddies and it went pretty well. I was constantly speaking to her female friends, also with the guys, I payed everyone a round of drinks etc. her gfriends were clearly liking me, laughing a lot on my jokes and I also spoke to the main girl as well. Always flirty conversation, she was giving me signs as well. Unfortunately we didn't kiss, but in the end of the night her gfriends were telling me that the "action is not here, it's over there with a smile" pointing at the direction where she was. When we were leaving I told her to stay with me, she was kinda hesitating to get or not in the taxi with her friends to leave, and they were shouting her like "stay, its better for you" bla bla. I was hugging her at that time but eventually she left. (remark, I live in an arabic country, so kissing on the street can make u go to jail), so I didn't go for it right there in all that rush. Anyways, I guess it was good overall and I might get a chance to see her personally and then do my thing.

I agree with both your comments.. It's hard to say what to do in this scenario. Maybe some girls will like the fact that I am not willing to meet her and a bunch of other people, but maybe others would feel insecure and be scared away. It's hard to have a 100% certain thing to do here I guess. Personally I like a girl that doesn't need her little friends approval to meet me, but on the other hand maybe I would be rejecting a person who I might like, despite the fact of her being a bit insecure.

Thanks for your opinions!!

 

[MonsterzRock]

Re: got the 1st date,BUT she wants 2 meet w her friends last

My opinion is more in line with Zac's comments.

Personally, I would have blown her off. Seriously, my life's full and busy enough that I don't have the time or energy for trivial bullshit like that. Life's too short for that nonsense--especially last minute stuff. The brush off was her attempt to take control of, or lead, the situation instead of you leading. Going to meet her and her friends with other guy friends is like going to "party." And this is one of those "bad date ideas" that Chase and others talk about here.

I would have just said "some other time maybe." And then I would have gone to the first venue that you originally wanted to go to and meet other new girls there.

MR