Socializing Group Management and Age objections

[Bboy100]

Hi guys, I've been on this site for a while now, and I've read a good chunk (if not most) of the articles on it. I've noticed that Chase doesn't explicitly address the dynamics of approaching a girl who's in a group with her friends and how to handle it. If such an article exists, a link would be greatly appreciated.

If there is no article on this, is it because GC doesn't advocate approaching groups to begin with? Or is it some other reason?

What do you guys think about approaching groups? More specifically, how is it different from approaching someone who's alone? How is it done? Any technique regarding this topic is welcome here.

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Also, on a completely unrelated note, I'm wondering how would I deal with women's tests regarding my age. I'm a pretty young guy right now (20, about to turn 21). I feel like this is more or less ok in the college environment in which I have my interactions with girls now. However, when I start going out to clubs/lounges when I turn 21, I'm probably going to run into quite a few older women who write me off just because I'm younger than them, even if they would otherwise be receptive to me.

I don't like directly lying, and I understand I can start off by either adding some intrigue or by making light of her question. For example:

Her: How old are you?

Me: Oh, y'know....just graduated middle school, figured I might as well sneak into a club/lounge/bar as my reward.

If she drops it here, then everything is all well and good, but if she pushes for an answer after this, how would I react? In fact, I guess this could be more generalized. If a women pushes for an answer to ANY QUESTION right after I add some intrigue or blow her question off like this, how do I react?

For example:

Her: How old are you?

Me: Oh, y'know....just had my middle school graduation earlier today, figured I might as well sneak into a club/lounge/bar as my reward.

Her: Haha, seriously though, how old are you? Cause you seem really young.

Me: ???

I don't know how I would reply in this or a similar scenario, because even if I'm non-reactive, it still feels like I would be giving out the vibe of trying to hide something (especially if I look young or like I don't match whatever she's trying to qualify me for).

Obviously, this is all theoretical. I haven't actually ran into a situation like this yet. But I sincerely expect I will.


Thanks guys,

Bboy

 

[fsc]

Here and here.

What do you guys think about approaching groups? More specifically, how is it different from approaching someone who's alone? How is it done? Any technique regarding this topic is welcome here.

I usually only do it when I'm feeling like BMOC or wildcard.

The main difference I can think of is that you have to keep everyone else in the back of your mind and watch out for possible heckling/cockblocking and handle them.

I haven't done groups with 4 or more much, but I usually focus on the girl that I'm interested in. Sometimes I don't even introduce myself to the others. I'd say, do whatever you want that fits your style. For some personal examples:
- Ballsy-focused on one: There was one occasion during a party where I just bust into a circle of 7 sorority girls or so half-yelling "HI, I'M FSC AND I AM GOING TO BREAK YOUR CIRCLE!" Then I got everyone's name, saw that one of the girls was sitting on the bench, so I sat next to her and focused on her. They left us alone, but I got distracted and wandered off or something. The bench girl is still cool/shy/cute with me, so I guess it wasn't too bad of a move.

- Ballsy-tending to group: One evening, I saw a group of about 8 girls and 5 guys standing about on the street. The girls were in a circle talking among each other while the 5 beta guys "blanketed" the girls, trying to move them with no success. I busted myself into the circle again, but this time I positioned myself at the center (they parted for me like I was Moses lol) and said "Hi, I was across the street over there and saw yall standing around. What are yall up to other than guarding this intersection?" The alpha female of the group responded, so I focused on her, then I diverted a little bit to exchange names with some other girls in the group, my two wingmen managed the guys, I invited the group to my frat's party with some shit like "anyway, I came over because yall looked bored. I'm having a party blah blah", resumed convo with the alpha female, things were going well, then shit went south thanks to some crackhead heckler who fucked with my interaction 3 times so far. They came to the party, so I guess this wasn't too bad of a move either.

- Ballsy-aimless: Saw like 20 gorgeous, blonde sorority girls sitting/standing around by the dorms, so I just went up and said the first bullshit that came into my mind, which was "Hey, what club is this? Because I wanna join". The leader said they were the Delta Gamma sorority, I did the DG arm sign, they giggled, the leader asked me some shit but I had no idea what to say, so I just wished them a good night and left. Lol. Yeah, try to go in with at least a little bit of a plan or a process.

- Meet one, then meet the group via introduction: Sorta self-explanatory, no story needed.

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There was an article regarding the age thing, but I forgot the title/keywords of it. I think it was from Colt, and the main focus was cougars and older women.

Oh, y'know....just had my middle school graduation earlier today, figured I might as well sneak into a club/lounge/bar as my reward.

LOL

It would depend on how she pushes, but you can try:
Continue it with:
- Why, is that a bad thing? Variety is the spice of life
Turn it around:
- Hmm, what about you? Have you started collecting Social Security yet?

I'm sure you'll be able to find more responses on Google, or maybe some of the seniors here have better responses that work better in the long run (considering framing, etc).

 

[Bboy100]

Thank you for those articles. I've been looking for those for a while now.

I wasn't honestly talking about older women like cougars or anything. I meant more like girls who are like, 22-27. Cause I've noticed that a lot of girls, even if they're only slightly older are turned off as soon as they find out my age. It's super weird. lol