Guys, Need A Little Feedback / Criticism

[NarrowJ]

Hey fellas,

My first contribution on the article side of the site went up yesterday here: https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-u ... fast-girls

There's no comments or anything yet, and I know people have been busy since it's the weekend, and stuffing yourselves with Halloween candy and whatnot, and also Chase just announced the new quiz and eBooks too. But I wanted to see if I could get some comments, feedback, suggestions, criticism, anything. You can post it here or there. I know the topic is something that's been covered ad naseum, but I felt like its a strong suit of mine and something I could really give guys good advice and pointers on how to use it quickly and efficiently. My goal is to make the content I contribute as high-quality as possible. Again, it's my first one so I just wanted to get a feel of what people think.

By the way, I see some responses in here on the forums that I need to get to, as well as some new field reports that I really want to comment on (I'm looking at you, Marty ). Really tired, so I'll get to that in the AM.

Anyway, fire away guys! The crickets are still chirping.

Thanks!
NJ

 

[Thedoctor]

NarrowJ,

It was a great read! And as you said, although it's a topic that's been covered, you definitely added quite a lot of useful information on the subject.

I look forward to more!

-Doc

 

[PinotNoir]

I haven't gotten a chance to read it all yet, but I skimmed through and really like what I read. It's definitely in line with posts I've read of yours on the boards.

It's a quick and easy way to make it where the girl is chasing off of the approach.

I'm going to a couple of stores today, and if I see some pretty ladies, I'll try out more compliance on the approach:

"Hey, can you come here for a second? I have something to tell you..."

Also, was it you or someone else... they had a great FR/LR at a store asking the girl about what they thought about a product.

"Hey, can you come here? I need help picking out the best style here."

Or something.

My quotes here seem a little too "demanding." I'll read through the article more thoroughly when I get home today. At work, I can only do quick posts like this and skim articles. Is it bad to come off too demanding? Will it make you seem like a jerk? I guess you just have to say it warmly and with sex appeal?

 

[Marty]

Hey NJ:

I'm about half a dozen articles behind, and it's tantalizing as I can see there's some terrific stuff up there just waiting to be read—it's been a hectic few days though.

Good call to flag it up here. I've just read your article and I really loved it! I left more detailed feedback in the commentary section, but it's queued pending approval by moderators. So glad that you have started writing for the main site... I think I speak for many when I say that, knowing you from your reports on this side of the house, we are all agog to find out what else you have in store!

And NJ, thank you for your commentary on PacificBeauty. You are among my most important mentors here at GirlsChase; that interaction (apart from being chock-full of compliance testing apposite to your article—good timing there!) involved me pushing well beyond the limits of what I am normally comfortable with, and I feel there is a great deal to be learned from it. I was going to ask you for your view, and you have anticipated my request!

-Marty

 

[Supah]

Great article man! I actually saw it when it came out, wanted to read it but i didn't have the time and then i forgot about it...

It does really emphasize the importance of getting compliance. And a lot of guys do not realise this, i think it's a very helpful post.

cheers, Supah

 

[Zoro]

I'd like to see more from you. Your style of seduction is almost laid back and definitely carefree, yet compliance done wrong can easily come off as opposite to that. Interesting...

Keep up what you're doing because your reports are inspiring and your advice is informative.

That topic has been talked about in mounds, it was your article that made me realize how little I utilize compliance and how much I sound like "Joe."

Teasing/being a challenge hasn't been a strong point and I'm seeing that compliance is a sort of parallel to that. Food for thought, perhaps you could give your angle on that?

 

[NarrowJ]

Thanks, guys. Much appreciated! I am just about finished with my 2nd. I'm hoping it will be a little less "stiff" and more "fun" to read.


PN,

Also, was it you or someone else... they had a great FR/LR at a store asking the girl about what they thought about a product.

"Hey, can you come here? I need help picking out the best style here."

Yes, you may be talking about this one?

My quotes here seem a little too "demanding."

Actually, those don't seem "demanding" to me at all at all. Remember, it's all about how it is presented to her! Give her a big, warm smile and some solid eye-contact and you're golden.


NJ

 

[trashKENNUT]

NJ,

i was wondering who the hell is J.J Jones. I catch up on your article soon.

Zac

 

[Marty]

NJ:

I'm sure you're receiving multiple article requests following your recent première, but could you do a piece on fundamentals?

The reason I'm asking you specifically is as follows. Reading your LRs, it seems pretty clear that girls enthusiastically return your calls and messages, which suggests that the way you come across initially is extremely solid and they remember you favorably.

By contrast, for me (and no doubt many others here), girls seem to respond pretty well on the opening and initial approach, judging by their body language, but are at best flaky at maintaining ongoing contact—which would strongly imply that my vibe is completely off.

Here are some of the things I'd be interested in learning about from you:

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  • Did you consciously stretch yourself with fundamentals when in the field, to enhance your learning speed, or did they just accumulate gradually over hundreds of approaches?
  
  • Did you acquire one fundamental at a time or all simultaneously?
  
  • How do you know when you've got them? Can you infer feedback through your intuition and a girl's body language?

Hope you'll give it consideration!

Thanks NJ...

-Marty

 

[Ryan]

Hey NarrowJ,

I really liked your article. You actually took the time to break it down into bite-sized paragraphs and made it easy to understand (for a beginner like me). I left you a comment too.

I think the reason you don't have many comments was because you used a big, weird concept in your title (How to Use Compliance Tests to Move Fast with Girls.) A beginner like me would look at that and think, what on earth is that? Probably some complicated method that i'm not advanced enough to use yet (at least that's what i thought). Maybe if you wrote 'Advance through your approaches and more, using compliance tests' or wtte, that may be more relatable to the average reader and you'll hence get more feedback. But i'm quite sad you didn't get a lot of feedback. After reading that, it was a very well-presented and understandable article. I hope Chase lets you do more articles, i'll be sure to read them!

ryan

 

[Marty]

NJ:

I have one more article suggestion (the requests are coming thick and fast now, aren't they)!

Might you considering writing a piece on "Passing Women's Screens", or whatever is the appropriate wording. I know there's an excellent article by Chase on a similar topic, When Women Test Men, but I think the issue could use further attention, and sometimes when it's approached from different angles and by writers with varying styles, it's easier for readers to put it all together, if that makes sense.

I remember reading somewhere on the site (I think Franco wrote it), that girls don't like men who pass their screens as such, they like men who sneak around their screens, or words to that effect. I didn't understand it properly though, and I'd be interested to see your opinion on best practice handling screening all the way from initial contact, through to becoming lovers, perhaps like this:

• Attempts to shut down the man immediately upon opening
• Resisting moving and escalation attempts during the initial approach
• Failing to respond to date proposals
• Trying to end the date early or string out the dating process
• Last-minute resistance

From your reports it seems like you regularly pass all the above with flying colors. I seem to get screened aggressively all the time and nearly always fail. It would be really interesting to know what women's expectations at these junctures and how not to disappoint them.

Thanks!
-Marty

 

[PinotNoir]

Thanks, guys. Much appreciated! I am just about finished with my 2nd. I'm hoping it will be a little less "stiff" and more "fun" to read.


PN,

Also, was it you or someone else... they had a great FR/LR at a store asking the girl about what they thought about a product.

"Hey, can you come here? I need help picking out the best style here."

Yes, you may be talking about this one?

My quotes here seem a little too "demanding."

Actually, those don't seem "demanding" to me at all at all. Remember, it's all about how it is presented to her! Give her a big, warm smile and some solid eye-contact and you're golden.


NJ

Yep, that's the one. Maybe put that as an example in your article! Haha.

I read through your article more thoroughly, and it's great. Nothing I can really comment on. I definitely need to use it more at the early stages.

With my recent ex-girlfriend, at the time, I remember reading about getting the girl to invest more, so I had asked her to find me a good suit online. It kind of became her project, and she actually really enjoyed finding me a good suit and everything. Of course, we're exes now haha, but the breakup wasn't related to compliance.

I feel like it's something to use from beginning to end, and like you said in an article, a great (and subtle) way to find out how interested and invested the girl is into you. It's kind of like, "Okay, she won't do this and this. I guess she's not as interested as she tells me, or I need to change something up."

 

[NarrowJ]

Ryan,

I think the reason you don't have many comments was because you used a big, weird concept in your title (How to Use Compliance Tests to Move Fast with Girls.) A beginner like me would look at that and think, what on earth is that? Probably some complicated method that i'm not advanced enough to use yet (at least that's what i thought). Maybe if you wrote 'Advance through your approaches and more, using compliance tests' or wtte, that may be more relatable to the average reader and you'll hence get more feedback. But i'm quite sad you didn't get a lot of feedback. After reading that, it was a very well-presented and understandable article. I hope Chase lets you do more articles, i'll be sure to read them!

Thanks for the feedback, man! I've been getting my butt kicked at work lately, so it took me a while to find a block of time to do it, but I do indeed have another article that I'm hoping will be going up soon.



Marty,

So, something on fundamentals and something on responding to women's tests/screens? Those are good suggestions; I've got them written down.



Thanks again to everyone for the comments/suggestions. It's always good to know (a) what you guys liked and (b) what can be done better.

NJ