Calls & Texts Had sex, texted back and forth to set up date, ghosted

[Skjöldr]

Hello
So i had sex with this girl:

LR - First lay from daygame with pretty redhead on 1st date

Hey folks Some of you know i started daygaming for real last week, not just the one approach per month shitty thing i have been doing since November. tl;dr below I have a daygame journal where i keep track of my approaches, dates, sticking points etc. and since i met this girl on 19/07/2020 and...

www.skilledseducer.com

Our date was on Thursday, our convo looks like this:

Thursday 17.50
Me: "Hello Name, thanks for a good time! Hope you're not too exhausted for when your aunt came over "

Sunday 16.33
Me: "Hey Name, hope you're chilling! The weather in (holiday spot) sucks a bit haha atleast i'm in good company Doing anything on Sunday?"
Her: "Yess unfortunately, i'm at a party saturday to sunday and idk how long you're there the day after or i'm totally worn out haha What about wednesday next week?"
Me: "Haha oh ohhh someone's gonna party hard. I'm in Holiday spot, what about monday after next weekend?"
Her: "Sounds goodd Monday, are you going back to holiday spot next wednesday or? Wednesday suits a bit better )" (we misunderstood eachother here)
Me: "Yeah yeah, Wednesday is fine, you know, the wednesday the week before you start school!"
Her: "Yeah exactly Where are we meeting then?"
Me: "I will have started school there, but i will probably be off around 15 or something. You can take the train to xxx and we can hang out and eat dinner together!"
Her: "Okay, i would rather Wednesday, because my mom wasn't home there, but going to xxx is pretty expensive :/ How about we meet sunday the 2nd around 16.00 at my place? Then we can drive to yyy, then we can eat dinner there, and then i am probably (hopefully) healed from the day before "
Me: "Ahh yes. I understand that train can be expensive and then trip back-and-forth same day... If we can meet Sunday, then i think, i should pick you up in zzz and then we grab some food, drive down to xxx lake and chill! But your mom is home there, is that cool?"

*Ghost*

She lives an hour away in car. Xxx is the town i'm from, she lives in zzz. No idea what happened here. She replied instantly to my convo starter text and was really into the planning and then just vanished. Tonight it has been 3 days of ghosting. I sent her a "?" Few hours ago to bump myself. We had sex and everything doesnt make sense.

 

[aliparpar]

Hi Peter,

I think you should follow up with her with a checkin text or call. She probably has cooled off since last time and the 'novelty' of having a good time has faded away. Happens sometimes when girls are horny time of the month, get their fix then their life intervenes etc. Also you didn't have to bring up objections to meeting up yourself (her mom).

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[Velasco]

She lives an hour away

Logistics.

First year of game I lost a beautiful girl because I lived too far away from her, for it to be a regular thing between us. And she had bad logistics herself like your girl's situation. and then trying to find workarounds. It's just unnecessary stress. Even if she really liked you. She not 'hooked' yet (so she can female state control herself out of attraction for you, then ghost you...or start taking longer and longer to text back) Cause u still in that tricky early stage where your trying get your 2-3 lays in to solidify the fuckbuddy frame. That's why I prefer just banging them at their place. And then just coming over whenever they're horny (not always, but yeah).

 

[Skjöldr]

Logistics.

First year of game I lost a beautiful girl because I lived too far away from her, for it to be a regular thing between us. And she had bad logistics herself like your girl's situation. and then trying to find workarounds. It's just unnecessary stress. Even if she really liked you. She not 'hooked' yet (so she can female state control herself out of attraction for you, then ghost you...or start taking longer and longer to text back) Cause u still in that tricky early stage where your trying get your 2-3 lays in to solidify the fuckbuddy frame. That's why I prefer just banging them at their place. And then just coming over whenever they're horny (not always, but yeah).

I came to see her though, so the logistics are my burden. Losing her just hurt as fuck. I was so invested in her and had so high hopes in her it was almost beyond me how she could just "meh" and ghost. We were in the middle of planning the next meet lol.

 

[Skjöldr]

Hi Peter,

I think you should follow up with her with a checkin text or call. She probably has cooled off since last time and the 'novelty' of having a good time has faded away. Happens sometimes when girls are horny time of the month, get their fix then their life intervenes etc. Also you didn't have to bring up objections to meeting up yourself (her mom).

Have a read of the articles below

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Many years back, I had dinner with a girl I’d recently just slept with. We were both young and inexperienced; our date had been fun, but the sex mediocre. On this second date, we had a nice time, and chatted. I didn’t have much more time in town, and would be leaving soon. At the end of the...

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In the article on precedent, a reader asks for an article about what changes in a relationship following consummation of that relationship, saying: “Also it would be great if you could delve more into the intricacies of relationship game. Particularly how it is different from the point up until...

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On Chasing - Since I assume you were afraid as coming off too needy after sex. Normally after sex, you can move faster to the next date. I noticed you waited until Sunday to text then 3 days again after she went offline? The thing with post-sex is that you need to arrange more sessions together where you re-seduce her for her to convert after 2-3 sessions. Another thing could be she's not have much a connection with you yet so only see you as pleasure now then done kind of guy.

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I texted her after sex to let her know i had a good time, waited 3 days, texted and now i have been ghosted for 3 days

 

[Skjöldr]

Chase talked about going backwards in seduction one time as a death blow. I invited her to come see me and then she counter offered to do it closer to her place instead with me picking her up.... was that a death blow? Also yeah i mentioned an objection, not good. She was really into the whole planning tho, giving me plenty of options and counter offerings, this is really weird.

 

[Velasco]

Her: "Okay, i would rather Wednesday, because my mom wasn't home there, but going to xxx is pretty expensive :/ How about we meet sunday the 2nd around 16.00 at my place? Then we can drive to yyy, then we can eat dinner there, and then i am probably (hopefully) healed from the day before "
Me: "Ahh yes. I understand that train can be expensive and then trip back-and-forth same day... If we can meet Sunday, then i think, i should pick you up in zzz and then we grab some food, drive down to xxx lake and chill! But your mom is home there, is that cool?"

Ok I am re-reading. It looks like she is picking days when her mom wont be home. Wednesday and sunday after her party on saturday.

So she wanted you to come over sunday at 4 PM (mom wont be there) Bang her. Then go out and get dinner in yyyy. Your plan conflicted with hers (pick her up in zzz, get food, go to lake, and THEN bang her at your place (she doesn't want to do all that (dinner is just for plausible deniability so she doesnt look like a sloot). She wants to fuck. So your showing her "you dont get it") Having to drive her back to her place where her mom is gonna be like "where the fuck are you"?) and it was added a lot of unnscessary stress.

Hope that cleared things up

 

[Skjöldr]

nooo i wanted to pick her up, grab food, go to lake, go home to HER PLACE and bang and then eject!

Anyways, i pinged her with the question mark. She just messaged back "Hey sorry i didn't reply. I cannot do Sunday apparently, because we will have family visit , we will just find some other day )"

Do i just ghost her back for 2 days and then set up for next week?

Edit: Text her on Monday, ask her if she can hang on Wednesday? Should i text in between?

 

[Velasco]

I would text her back in about an hour something like, "oh that's no good. We definitely gonna need a little bit of privacy. *monkey covering eyes emoji* + this emoji.

Then drop it. Let her text you when shes available.

 

[Velasco]

nooo i wanted to pick her up, grab food, go to lake, go home to HER PLACE and bang and then eject

But yeah this is what I'm saying.

"Drive down to xxx lake"

The lake is in xxx. Which she just said is expensive to get to (or at least be consistent with all these xxx yyy zzz lol) Meaning its closer to yours. So I assume your plan was to take her back to your place post lake.

Here you are saying your plan was to go to lake first THEN bring her back to her place....well you have no idea if her mom will be home by then. Effectively cockblocking yourself. When she gave you the logistics of when her mom would not be there (sunday 4pm. Which we now know she wasnt gonna go down anyway (or she made this "family" excuse up because she feels awkward about it. Kinda like chicks say "oh actually I just remembered I have some work to do").

 

[Skjöldr]

But yeah this is what I'm saying.

"Drive down to xxx lake"

The lake is in xxx. Which she just said is expensive to get to (or at least be consistent with all these xxx yyy zzz lol) Meaning its closer to yours. So I assume your plan was to take her back to your place post lake.

Here you are saying your plan was to go to lake first THEN bring her back to her place....well you have no idea if her mom will be home by then. Effectively cockblocking yourself. When she gave you the logistics of when her mom would not be there (sunday 4pm. Which we now know she wasnt gonna go down anyway (or she made this "family" excuse up because she feels awkward about it. Kinda like chicks say "oh actually I just remembered I have some work to do").

Yeah i see how that could be misunderstood.

I would text her back in about an hour something like, "oh that's no good. We definitely gonna need a little bit of privacy. *monkey covering eyes emoji* + this emoji.

Then drop it. Let her text you when shes available.

My text game is just beginner, so it would maybe be a bit incongruent idk. If i drop her a text now i just wait till she gets back? What if she doesnt?

 

[Skills]

Yeah this happens to everybody, just keep messages in you text then she text a right investment balance, careful with courtship frame scares women, I read expensive dinner... 3 fucks is the magic investment number 1 fuck now a days is like a club makeout back in the days and like a phone number when the community was created lol

 

[Skjöldr]

Yeah this happens to everybody, just keep messages in you text then she text a right investment balance, careful with courtship frame scares women, I read expensive dinner... 3 fucks is the magic investment number 1 fuck now a days is like a club makeout back in the days and like a phone number when the community was created lol

" just keep messages in you text then she text a right investment balance " what?
Yeah i know. No expensive dinners. I meant grabbing some take away.

 

[Velasco]

If i drop her a text now i just wait till she gets back?

Ya

What if she doesnt?

If she dont get back within a week then send a meme.

I like sending either shit that I know she gonna laugh at (even if I dont find it that funny) cause she a girl like:

https://twitter.com/i/web/status/1287451059863064579

Or shit I find funny, that I just add a caption to, like

https://twitter.com/i/web/status/1281705282897424384

Caption: it really be that simple...

Then when she laughs and ask how you doing, see her availability

 

[Skjöldr]

Ya

If she dont get back within a week then send a meme.

I like sending either shit that I know she gonna laugh at (even if I dont find it that funny) cause she a girl like:

https://twitter.com/i/web/status/1287451059863064579

Or shit I find funny, that I just add a caption to, like

https://twitter.com/i/web/status/1281705282897424384

Caption: it really be that simple...

Then when she laughs and ask how you doing, see her availability

I understand if i had her on instagram/messenger/snapchat, but on phone number (SMS) i never send memes. You send memes on SMS?

 

[Velasco]

ya

 

[FunGuy]

Ok I am re-reading. It looks like she is picking days when her mom wont be home. Wednesday and sunday after her party on saturday.

So she wanted you to come over sunday at 4 PM (mom wont be there) Bang her. Then go out and get dinner in yyyy. Your plan conflicted with hers (pick her up in zzz, get food, go to lake, and THEN bang her at your place (she doesn't want to do all that (dinner is just for plausible deniability so she doesnt look like a sloot). She wants to fuck. So your showing her "you dont get it") Having to drive her back to her place where her mom is gonna be like "where the fuck are you"?) and it was added a lot of unnscessary stress.

Hope that cleared things up

Thats the same impression I got. This chick just wants to fuck, you shouldn't bother taking her to dinner or none of that extra stuff. Im guessing that your logistics are bad too. Logistics is what you should work on, get creative.

 

[Skjöldr]

Yeah i'm just gonna go and fuck her.

Lil update:
So i sent her a "?" Yesterday Noon and she replied back in the early evening saying "Hey, sorry i didn't reply. I can't do sunday apparently because i will have family visit at 17.00. We will just find another day )" and i didn't reply before 11.00 today. I said "Ah okay, lovely . When did you else have time?" And she has yet to reply. She told me in person she wasn't a phone person and regularly misses events from her friends on facebook because she doesn't check it and that her friends ask her to keep snapping with them on snapchat so that they can get streaks. Probably just checks messages and doesn't bother or forgets about it or she has low interest.

If i hear nothing from her i'm gonna message her on Monday asking if she's down to meet up on Wednesday, and if i hear crickets again i'm just gonna move on.

 

[Skjöldr]

Update: She reached out earlier today